How to Convince My Parents: I am Responsible!

You absolutely don't need to go to college to be CNA.

It's 4 to 12 weeks training. You can do free training through Red Cross. It's very low paid job though.

You might want to consider LPN. Hospitals really prefer RNs and don't care LPNs anymore but nursing homes and long term facilities do. It's a bit more rigorous training but it pays way better. Not as good as RN but certainly better than CNA.

But CNA is a good start for sure

Oh, I didn't know that. I sent a message to my cousin who is in the medical field working with the elderly, but I don't know his title. He spent many years getting his degree so apparently more than just CNA. But I'll double check with him and he'll know for sure what training I need to do.

Also, my work has a training academy as well and they may very well have a CNA program.

Right now, I have a textbook that I received at orientation that I must read and get tested on first before I can pursue more training at their academy, and more training means more money.

If he spent years getting a degree then he certainly isn't CNA, it's not a degree program. And it doesnt take years.

it's very likely he is RN and has nursing degree (likely BSN). My husband is RN. He recommends to become CNA first for people who don't know if they want to work in medical field. Becoming CNA would give you an exposure to medical field and you'll know if you want to pursue it.

To get training to become CNA will not cost much (if anything) at all. It's not a demanding program. Just keep in mind it pays barely above minimum wages.

I do recommend you try vocational rehab counseling. All these ins and outs could be explained to you. And you might get free training

That's very possible!

I spoke with my T over the phone for half an hour and we talked about our miscommunication and how I could have handled it better. We also talked about becoming more responsible and how to address that with my parents and a lot about my feelings and using DBT skills.

EDIT: It was a very good talk and I feel a lot better because of it. I still need to have a sit-down talk with my parents and explain my feelings about becoming more responsible and I do want to have some kind of game plan with ways I think I can be more responsible.

Sounds like a good talk.

It was a good talk, and I did come up with some ways to be more responsible, but I still would like some ideas on things I can do to take on more responsibility while still living at home.

Here are some ideas:

Clean the house without pay

Mow the lawn and pull weeds on a regular basis without pay (we do not have a lawn mower and my parents hire a laborer to do this for us once a month/every other month or as needed).

Scoop poop, which is hard to do when the lawn isn't mowed on a regular basis.

Brush and bathe Max on a regular basis.

Pay for Evy's flea meds, litter, and vet/other expenses

Pay for food for all pets

Take Max for walks

Cook meals for my parents

Go grocery shopping for my parents

I would like input on things I can do to take on more responsibility.

Sounds like a lot of needless trouble to prove yourself to your parents just so you might be able to get a dog when it would probably be easier and more rewarding to put all of your focus into getting a stable income so you can move out and get one anyways.

Whatever floats your boat I guess

I think you'd show your independence and responsibility if you maintain full time employment for a long period of time (or full time schooling) and preferably a career of sorts. Something stable and something you can support yourself for life.

I don't think doing more chores at home will substitute for true independence. Maybe money that are spent on pets could be spent on stuff like taking classes/certification/training etc Plus having to do so many household chores and care for tons of pets might keep you from getting a career and proper independence

Since it's your parents house it's ultimately up to them to have pets or no. I am also concerned that pets that are already there, aren't allowed in the house. That's kind of crazy. There are too many pets as it is if there are problems with them peeing in the house or not getting along with each other. I'd be afraid to have more pets and them being kicked out too.

It's not just the dog. The stable income is my top priority and I also need to have a conversation with my parents to let me make my own decisions and not just pick and choose.

They can't not let you make decisions though as you are an adult. You can move out tomorrow and they can't say a word. They don't have to "let" you. They have no legal power over an adult unless they are your legal guardians.

But when it comes to house hold decisions (like get another pet or kick pets out) they hold more power as it's their house.

Trying to be a mature, responsible adult...but no matter what I do, it'll always be "just growing up"...

I decided after work to take my car into Firestone to have an inspection. $20, no problem. Two hours later, my valve gasket needs to be replaced. $800. I literally had to stop myself from having a panic attack. It's been a really crappy day on top of hoping to waste $20 to be told my car was perfectly fine. That $20 became $800, and it sucks. My parents told me to take care of the car, and that's what I'm doing.

You were leaking oil? Now the best thing you can do is to keep checking and changing the oil, dont let it get low, and dont let it go unchanged too long. I drove A LOT, like 80 miles a day for work, so i used to get an oil change every 3 months.

I find it fishy that you took you're car in for a " checkup" 20.00 Then valve gasket needs replaced ????? 800.00

I smell a rat

I talked to my dad about it and he said he can fix it. So I saved $800.

But for whatever reason Firestone didn't check my tires and one was super low and I needed to drive an hour away for work tomorrow and my parents blew up about it and literally threatened to kick me out over that.

So I called my best friend A and we had a very long conversation about it on the phone, and we both agreed to move out together. On the phone she told me that my mom is beyond controlling and treats me like a child and that it's not fair to me to have to walk on eggshells every single day for never knowing how my mom will react in that moment of time. I told her that I simply couldn't just tell my parents "I can't stand you and I'm moving out ASAP" because I'm not in a place financially to do so, and I told her they wouldn't help me with rent as she suggested. I asked her to be roommates as she is planning on moving to Southern California in two years and I told her that would be plenty of time to prepare for that transition. I told her it is my top priority to buy a new car and by then I will have saved enough, and in two years I will have enough training and stability in my job to be able to find work in SoCal. I also told her that my brother knows that area well and can help us find a place to live and a good deal.

I hope you meant Firestone and not me...

Im sure she meant firestone - esp if they didnt fill your tires - or notice if you had a leak causing it to lose air.

Lol !!! Yes Firestone ! I'm sorry you thought I directed that to you..

You can fill up air on a gas station when it's low. Most gas stations. You can also check your air pressure with a gauge. You can buy it in Walmart or any other stores that sell auto stuff. You can also borrow pressure gauge at some gas stations.

In the future I'd always take a car to the same place. If you take it to new places that don't know you, they might "find" stuff that you "need" to fix.

Yes a good auto shop is a wonderful thing. My parents have used the same shop for 20 years and now I do too. He's honest, fair, and gives discounts on labor to long standing customers. Most family owned shops will help you out if you are a regular.

My dad took me to the gas station and taught me how to put air in my tires, and the next time I need to put oil and water in the car he's going to show me how to do that.