[Moreta]

Is that too much to ask? I went to go order a new birth certificate today and they want a damn marriage certificate showing where I changed my name. I tore apart everything in this house for 40 mins and couldn't find the damn thing. I need a new birth certificate and a new SSN card so I can get a mother ****ing REAL ID so I can ****ing fly. So I guess I'm not going to NY to see my husband anytime soon. I really wanted to go up in april for our wedding anniversary. I guess I'll just see him in July when he comes home for a week. I just want to spend time with him. We haven't been talking much lately. I miss him. When we do talk, he's distracted. This is lame.

So why not order a copy of your marriage certificate?

[MickeyCheeky]

Keep looking. Maybe you'll be able to find it. I hope you will be able to see your husband soon.. I'm sure he misses you as well.

Calm down. These things are easily procured. I understand the frustration, but this is not worth losing it over. Ask yourself, "Is this the battle I want to be remembered for?"

These things don't take a great deal of time to have reproduced. Yes, there exists a lot or protocol and bureacracy but there is a reason. Finally, don't blame these agencies. It is not their fault the situation you are in.

[Moreta]

I'm just gonna take a bus up instead of flying. Don't need to get a REAL ID for a bus. Thanks for being so understanding *sarcasm*.

[Moreta]

BTW this is the last time I post in this subforum.

We are all being helpful. No need to be hateful. It is highly important to change your Social Security card after changing your name. Just putting that out there.

Oh, and your might want to change your 'Mood.' You aren't coming across as 'Calm.' (Sarcasm).

[Moreta]

So damn sorry for not having a good day. I'm sure you never have them. btw my social security card is changed. I have just misplaced both my SS card and birth certificate seeing as I haven't used them since 2011 when I got food stamps. I've never had to use my marriage certificate before being as I haven't applied for a new passport or anything. But yeah thanks for making my day so spectacular. I miss my husband and he isn't coming home till July, maybe and that's only a maybe if he gets a week off, if not he won't be home till november. Wouldn't you miss someone if they were gone for that long? I just want to see him on our wedding anniversary which is april 18th, which is why I'm just going to take a bus now because by the time I get all the proper documentation to fly it will be too late. It's not like I don't have 20 million other things going on in my life, trying to stay healthy enough to go up there. But yeah. thanks.

I didn't make your day 'spectacular.' Don't put the blame on me for your bad day. Just what did you expect from the people who responded to your thread? Instead of being all pissy, why don't you check out how quickly your can get the documents you need?
You're welcome

[~Christina]

My husband was able to get his birth certificate and marriage license in about 2-3 weeks when he needed it to fly. Honestly it wasnt a big process.

I hope you can get it settled so you can fly to see your husband soon , I know you miss him.

[Agent Misty]

If you order them now you will possibly have them in time. Like first week of april perhaps? My fiance got his in about 2 weeks.

[Moreta]

The NJ website says it takes 3-4 weeks to process the request, then tack on another week for shipping, then I have to get an SS card cause I'm pretty sure you need your BC to get that, since I couldn't just order it online, then I have to go to the DMV to get a REAL ID and backasswards NC takes 1-2 weeks to mail you your license. It won't be a short process or cheap one. I might as well get my passport updated. Would take less time than that, but I'm not sure if I need my BC since it's expired or just my marriage certificate showing the name change. Anyways, it's not like I can afford a plane ticket right now anyways, so bus it is. I can get up there and back on a bus for $171, plane it's $300+. At least by taking a bus I can take my own food, which I can't do on a plane. I also have to factor in taking the dogs to the kennel ($40 a day) and getting a hotel while up there. I've got a whole $100 to my name till the end of the month because of having to pay bills and getting meds, so maybe I'll be able to buy bus tickets next month. Apparently greyhound busses now have wifi and power plugs by your seats. So that's neat. I'll have stuff to do for the 17 hrs I'm on the bus.

[~Christina]

Can you not stay with him ? Why need a hotel ? Can you just push your trip a bit down the road when your not pressed for time to get paperwork and financial stuff in order ? I know you miss him.

Dog kennel oh trust me i have needed to kennel mine and it was 20.00 per dog per day. That really adds to cost of a trip.

[divine1966]

I recently lost my SS card (I believe I threw it away by accident when reorganizing files). They didn’t ask me for BC. I don’t even recall when anyone asked me for BC last time. They have record of you in SS office. I got it by mail in about a week or maybe 10 days. To renew your passport you need nothing but photo and application and if you are changing your name, your marriage certificate. Marriage certificate is easy to obtain. None of it takes very long. Everything is computerized. It’s February and you’ll certainly get it all in place by April. I hate dealing with paperwork so I understand being frustrated but it’s all could be done in no time.

I understand you miss your husband. Is there a chance you might live together at some point? Is he there temporarily? Why do you need a hotel visiting him?

[Moreta]

He's in supporter housing, so staying with a family that has an extra room where he can crash that supports the candidate he works for. It depends who he's staying with at the time if I can stay with them. He'll come live at home in november until the next campaign, wherever that may be. I'll look into the passport.

[divine1966]

If he is working for the campaign, he is likely getting paid? Living wages? Can’t he buy you a plane ticket?

[eskielover]

I had to get my passport in a week when I was flying to Rome on short notice. I didn't have my birth certificate. Never had it, only the hospital certificate tgat was NOT thebreal thing. I lived in Los Angeles & the day before I was flying out, I was in down town LA Trying to get all my paperwotk in order....BC & Passport. It was stressful but I was successful by putting my own legs into the process.

This reminds me though, I heard that our KY drivers licences are no longer good for flying ID & i may be making an emergency flught to Calif thebend if March. I better research this & get what I need. While there I need to get my old passport so I can get it updated in the future. For the time being there is an ID card they make that is acceptable to the airlines. I flew tons of times when I first moved here but they weren't as picky then & I had a Calif drivers licence then anyway.

[Artchic528]

My mom's best friend (who is more like a sister than a friend) has a son who works for campaigns and it seems like a very low paying job as he's always asking his mom for help. Maybe you and your husband should look for more stable income that keeps you two together.

I also noticed you have anger management issues. Maybe Yoga can help with that. I've done yoga and it's done wonders for my own anger issues. Good luck!

[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by eskielover

I had to get my passport in a week when I was flying to Rome on short notice. I didn't have my birth certificate. Never had it, only the hospital certificate tgat was NOT thebreal thing. I lived in Los Angeles & the day before I was flying out, I was in down town LA Trying to get all my paperwotk in order....BC & Passport. It was stressful but I was successful by putting my own legs into the process.

This reminds me though, I heard that our KY drivers licences are no longer good for flying ID & i may be making an emergency flught to Calif thebend if March. I better research this & get what I need. While there I need to get my old passport so I can get it updated in the future. For the time being there is an ID card they make that is acceptable to the airlines. I flew tons of times when I first moved here but they weren't as picky then & I had a Calif drivers licence then anyway.

You can use your passport for the id. MA is rolling out real id next month. Guess who just renewed their license in January and gets a double whammy on fees? :\

OP, I hope you can get this resolved. watch your birth certificate show up after the fact...I stressed in the fall looking for my kids birth certificates. Found their short forms when least expecting with my passport...not in the place I expected. Then all their long forms were in a file folder squished past my paystub folder after the trip we took. Ended up not needing anything for them anyways.

[Moreta]

He's got to pay the mortgage and all the other bills. Campaigns don't pay much until you get to management, which hopefully he can do next time. He's really been seeing how not to run campaigns the past few he's worked for. lol. Maybe one day I'll get SSDI but who knows when that'll happen. Had my hearing in November and still haven't heard anything. It's not like I've been waiting since August 2015 to get SSDI or anything. My husband had a part time job, that I'm doing most of now, but that company has no money so he can't run payroll from it, since he's the only employee and I only do 1-2 hrs of work a week since school is already in session and colleges have already bought their textbooks. We'll probably have to borrow money for me to go up there. I sure will be glad when I hit my out of pocket max for insurance cause it's hard keeping up with copays for meds and drs. Also it's expensive for meds that aren't covered by insurance anymore. Gotta love that one.

I'm not normally angry but wouldn't you too be angry when told to calm the **** down? That's like fighting a fire with gasoline.

I think you are missing the fact that those posting are trying to be understanding. They are being not unkind at all. I offered you a solution. You don't have to rip our heads off. Those that have responded have in fact acknowledged the emotional and difficult position you are in. They are just being honest.

To which you might consider this brutal on the surface but it is in fact said from an effort to help. Instead of griping do something about it.

Your trip is in April, you have plenty of time to gather up these new documents in time. Just take a breather, and put yourself to the task.

1. Start with your driver's license. As long as it is up to date, it is easier to procure everything else.
2. Visit the church or facility you were married in. They will have copies and can certify them. If not, a trip to city hall is in order.

The above two can be done while you wait.

3. Next approach your health provider and get an up to date copy of your health card (some jurisdictions accept a health card as a alid form of ID).
4. Now get and complete the forms for your birth certificate. Most can be completed on line and accept scanned copies of the above identifications/certificates. Most also offer the option of a sped up delivery.

It is not unrealistic to expect - if you put your mind to it - that you could have new ID in your hand in as little as two weeks.

Get on top of this.

[Albatross2008]

Gee. I'd better not say what I think, because I might get my head bitten off and be sworn at.

[Crazy Hitch]

Good luck sorting this out. Must be a huge strain on you emotionally and the marriage

[Moreta]

Originally Posted by Crazy Hitch

Good luck sorting this out. Must be a huge strain on you emotionally and the marriage

It is. I will just get my passport sorted out when I get SSDI since it's $110. My marriage license is in one of our storage units I just have to figure out which one. I'm just gonna go by bus in April. Gonna leave on the 17th and get back on the 21st. A bus ticket is only $171. At least if I take the bus I can take my own food, since there's not much I can eat at an airport. We don't have money for a plane ticket right now anyways. Waiting around to find out if I got approved for SSDI is old. I mean it's only been 2.5 years since I first applied. When you only have 1 income things are rough and my husband doesn't make much. My health is bad and stress doesn't help. It's been about a month since I saw my husband or many people in general. It's really just me and my animals and it's not like you can hold a convo with them. I have 1 friend, she's been sick though. She's finally better so we're gonna go to the mall tomorrow. Nobody checks on me to see if I'm ok. The did the first week, but haven't heard anything from anyone since. It's lonely being here alone without my husband. We don't get to talk much cause he works 11 hrs a day, every day. Sometimes Sundays he gets to go in late. Gotta love how when you need people they just disappear. Sorry I snapped but all I could hear in my head was my mom's voice dictating what I needed to do with my life. I was already in a bad spot to begin with. There's a reason I don't talk to her anymore. I don't have to put up with emotional abuse if I don't want to. Things are figured out. All is right in the world.