[ZenZeta]

This is a spin off of my earlier thread about my ASD-1 and challenges with my new supervisor/leader that LOVES to talk...on ZOOM...all day.

I tried sharing that the sensory challenges of my diagnosis make it difficult to endure that many ZOOM calls to which she didn't really respond / understand,

I've learned that she thrives on "talking things out" For instance, she asked me to work on a design project. I completed a draft and asked her to send her WRITTEN comments/edits back via the feedback section.

That turned into a 2 HOUR ZOOM CALL where she seemed to almost apologize for deleting/changing something and essentially taking me through how she's going to present my design I. DON'T. CARE. ABOUT. THAT!!!!!!!!!!

So, how can we reach a happy medium or how can I tactfully get her to STOP this?!?!? I am already getting started at 6 Am (before the calls) and cranking up again from about 5:30 - 10 PM so I can lock in and work. I'd rather work than meet, and I HATE being forced to go to virtual luaus and fantasy football leagues....

Love the work... don't feel the need to talk about it over ZOOM daily. HELP!!

[Yaowen]

I am so sorry you are in that distressing situation. Yikes! Seems like your supervisor/leader either does not understand your condition or doesn't care. "Not understanding" could be easier to overcome but certainly no walk in the park if your supervison/leader lacks depth of understanding. "Not caring" is another story. Which do you think it is?

[eskielover]

Whether you like the work or not, if the working environment isn't compatible for your needs & a compromise can't be arranged then maybe this company isn't the right place for you. You aren't going to change what has been going on for the company just to accomodate if HR doesn't have an agreement to that. The thing is that issues will only get worse & you can't keep up those longer work hours forever.

My EX-husband was undiagnosed ASD but it was obvious. He went through working at lots of different companies because there was always something that created a problem for his working situation & he liked working alone too which was not always possible as a computer design engineer.

Each company has its own dynamics....best to find one that works for your needs rather than trying to make a company change to accomodate yours. Just take your needs into consideration when interviewing a company. Interviews are as much about a company fitting your needs as they are about you fitting the company needs & it is good to get that all known upfront

[ZenZeta]

Originally Posted by Yaowen

I am so sorry you are in that distressing situation. Yikes! Seems like your supervisor/leader either does not understand your condition or doesn't care. "Not understanding" could be easier to overcome but certainly no walk in the park if your supervison/leader lacks depth of understanding. "Not caring" is another story. Which do you think it is?

I think she cares more about the "company culture" than my needs. She actually defended the "culture of engagement" after I shared that all that camera time gives me migraines.

I could be a you know what and ask to see the written policy about the camera rules for ZOOM meetings (I already looked for it... there isn't one).

I'm just going to have to grit and bear it. Oh well...

[divine1966]

Fantasy league cannot be possible required. It’s optional.

I am rather extraverted but I hate meetings and zooms because they are a waste. I don’t know anyone who likes that stuff.

I think the issue is that all these “work from home jobs” keep people isolated and bosses feel like they need to engage people and people might need this stuff too. You don’t. So you could either quit and look for a better fit or demand accommodations or just live with it. Which of these three are more appealing?

[Tart Cherry Jam]

You need to thank her for what she did as she had the best intentions (how she almost apologized for deleting some of your design and shared with you how she was going to present it), and THEN explain what you cannot work productively in such an environment. I hope it starts with your understanding that she means well and going from there.

[Tart Cherry Jam]

It is OK to expect the employer to go by the letter of the ADA, but I think that to really be effective in what you want to do, you need to establish trust and connection with your manager, and the easiest way to do that is to acknowledge that she had good intentions.