[poshgirl]

Background info - belong to a WhatsApp group and YouTube channels relating to my hobby. Husband and wife have separate channels and same support expectations. They've arranged members meeting for September.

Few weeks ago, one member raised an issue which others disliked. Part of problem was language barrier and he wasn't exactly polite. First I knew when he messaged to tell me about it, as he'd noticed I wasn't participating. We chatted about it online and thought dust would settle. Yet to meet him, was planned for earlier this year but mother passed. At moment, only firm opportunity is that meeting.

Knew friend had talked to the husband about situation, but wife contacted me for my "take". Initially, I just made general comments but then she got nasty. Accused me of not supporting their channels and ignoring people in live chat because they didn't speak English. Totally untrue! I got really annoyed and called her a liar, saying I would report her to WhatsApp. Her husband is now making sarcastic comments when I appear in live chat. I've helped them financially in the past but she noticed I'd withdrawn that too. Think I'm being gaslighted....

Friend has advised me to ignore but it's difficult when someone is telling blatant lies. He uses other languages to greet people, but doesn't chat at length. They're obsessed with a rival channel, it rules their lives. I just feel mentally exhausted and disappointed that they've chosen to behave this way.

Have about 20 days to decide whether I want to go to the September meeting as have package holiday booked and don't want to lose more than the deposit.

[CANDC]

I am sorry that you are suffering from the downside of the internet, people being inconsiderate.

I do not know what you should do but if I was considering what to do I would ask am I comfortable being around them? My answer would weigh heavily on my decision to expose myself to more of this type of behavior.

CANDC

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[Discombobulated]

As an outsider this sounds a bit crazy. Like a lot of drama? I’d be very wary of being drawn into it. Why have they needed money from you? That also makes me very wary.

[poshgirl]

Thank you both for your responses. Hope I've got this right @CANDC

This is played out on YouTube. If you have a channel then you can get monetary support in a number of ways. YT take around 30% from monetary donations. A scale of charges according to how long you've been a member, paid monthly until you cancel. Members can give gifted memberships, priced from 1 to 100. There's also a "buy me a coffee" system, again avoiding YT's charges.

I agree with both of you. Feel very uncomfortable about being there. Am only guessing but would not be surprised if they've circulated my response to the wider WhatsApp group. They both love a drama and have a warped view of how they should operate their channels. Blocking people for mentioning their rival (accidentally), then allowing bad behaviour in live chat because they are desperate to be liked. Sad really!

Now I'm doubting friend who advised me to ignore this. It's gotten too serious now for this. My main gripe is I was not part of his original rant yet I'm the one left with the fallout. Over this weekend there's going to be an uncomfortable conversation with him, as I've almost decided on my course of action.

Final words go to a pilot friend, "social media can be a cesspit at times". How true that is