Roll call

I am sorry that you are experiencing this Costello. I don't think you should blame yourself, that will not solve anything. Someone told me, "free will isn't free", this is what your son is going to learn with booze. Seems to me that everyone does. Some sooner than others, thats the only difference, I believe.

Maybe put some literature around so he can see it, about alcoholism or addiction or trouble with bein stupid cuz someone is intoxicated.

I hope this helps you a bit, you have been very helpful to me.

I have noticed this, and I want to return the favor.

G'luck brook

I'm here and far more cheerful than I've been over the last week or two.

Thanks. Luckily I have a sister who's an alcoholic. (Ha! I wonder if that sentence has ever been uttered before!) She's been sober a couple of years now. He seems to realize there's a problem, and he called her for advice.

I can see so many angles to this. On the one hand he needs friends. But this friend will always be a drinking buddy. So if he wants to hold on to this friend, he probably won't quit drinking.

Also he swore up and down that he wouldn't drink, but I knew he would. Maybe he really believed he could go hang out with his alcoholic friend in a bar and not drink. My problem isn't alcohol; it's sugar. And I'm very familiar with this form of self-delusion. Yes, I'm going to go to the buffet, but I'm not going to have the dessert. Ha! I'm going to have the dessert, and a little part of me knows it even as I'm lying to myself. I might as well tell the truth to myself. If I want to avoid the dessert, I need to avoid the buffet. So when he left the house saying he wasn't going to drink, I figured he was going to drink. And when he came back drunk, I wasn't surprised.

Also I'm glad he didn't drive after drinking. He has a DUI hanging over him. He was picked up for driving drunk in October 2010, right before his last and biggest episode. He missed the court date, because he was so out of it, so I'm pretty sure there's a warrant out there for him. He's had contact with law enforcement a few times since then, and they've looked for warrants and not found them, but I know it's there because my ex-BIL is a cop in another town in the same county, and he heard it announced. There's no way they're just going to forget about a failure to appear on a DUI. So eventually it'll come around and hit him. I think his name must be misspelled or something, because the other times law enforcement looked for warrants he didn't have his driver's license back. I suspect if they run his dl#, they'll find the warrant, and he'll end up in jail. Not a fun way to spend your birthday, and frankly I can't afford to bail him out right now.

Maybe he feels a need to "man up" also. People seem to dismiss this as a cultural flaw, but I disagree. If he can prove his independence and capabilities another way, besides being able to "drink like a man" this would help. There aren't many healthy male role models for this, currently. G'luck Costello!

Am here and feeling quite hyper!! Have done my grans cleaning and now am preparing dinner!! Can't cook tho!! Freaking out a little cos I'm not so good around sharp objects and hot things!! The voices get too overpowering!! Got no choice tho cos my gran is ill!!

Here.

Slept longer last night, A very hard, deep sleep. Feeling a bit groggy and "thick" this morning. I suppose it will take a few good nights before I stop feeling so stupid and slow.

am here and slightly freaked out and a little scared!!!!

I feel to overwelmed to write about it. Am stable and comfortable, thanks.

costello... I have been following, but did not know how to respond...You are in my prayers with all that you and your son are going through...It is encouraging to hear however that he is at least talking to you about his failure, instead of withdrawing from you.

It's hard as a parent not to want to lecture about all the things that we know can go wrong or could go wrong that we have learned from our own lifes that we think our cildren should take heed to.

I give you alot of credit for being there for him.

I do not believe in bailing out my children in any way when it comes to the bad choices that they make. But I am always here for them to listen to them and encourage them to make better choices the next time.

I don't know.... I just wanted you to know that you are in my prayers.

I am here

Thanks, lil-angel-wings.

I'm here. Can't wait to head back to MA.

Here. Had a good day today. Love my s.o. so much.

Here and optimistic today. gracias...

Here and ok.

I'm trying to feel optimistic too.

Sat in garden on this beautiful sunday afternoon!!

Sounds like you're doing better today, larakeziah.

I am thanks, not much I can do about the hallucinations till I see my doctor in the week. Just trying to avoid reading too much.

the sun is shining here to day too.... it is tremendous... I woke up this morning praising my maker for another day to glorify him

Here and mostly untormented by the symptoms of my unwell mind

My final notice has yet to be posted on our local post office door

Perhaps the post office will vanish first

AppinIsobel

The sun is shining again today!! Hope it lasts till the weekend!!

That's an intriguing comment. What's it mean?

Here and ok.

My son didn't sleep at all last night. First day back to work after spring break AND he has two appts - pdoc at 11:30 and therapist at 1:00. Not sure if the anxiety caused the sleeplessness. He thinks it's because he isn't eating enough. Not sure I see the connection, but he insists that when he eats less, he sleeps less.

We parents need to remember that we will die first.
Before our kids whose lives we try to micromanage.

A maudlin moment when I walked in to get my mail, yesterday

AppinIsobel

The weather is beautiful again, I think i'm going to sit in the garden.

Just wanted to say that not eating enough makes me very restless and jumpy. And hypoglycemia can make me completely loopy and hyper. If he's truly not eating enough, or is eating significantly less than normal, that could really be a contributing factor.

I've been watching an anime demonoid character follow around one of my co-workers today, but so far keeping my mouth shut. So far so good.