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well its either an apartment or live on campus or drive when i goto school. idk what to do and within this next year 2016 is when i need to figure out what im going to do. im scared.

Have you considered living in the dorms....it's safe and there are usually RAs living there to report loudness of any kind to. You don't have to worry about maintenance....

If you really want a safe apartment like with security cameras or a security officer or even doorman it's going to cost you. My recommendation is simply to find a place a block or two from the police station....if you want someplace quiet look for something with cement block walls...you will still hear your neighbors if they vacuum but not every time they have sex.

i did think about that.
i looked into private rooms oncampus but id still have to share a bathroom with somebody. they have a psychiatrist on staff and a 24 hour nursing line and a whole wellness center and everything.

if anyones willing to help me look up how the dorms are heres the site: housing.unt.edu

cuz 99% of the rooms are either shared or semi-private.

Wow you're lucky to share bathrooms with just one other person we had one bathroom with like four showers for the enitire floor...it was crazy. I always took my showers at night.

Legends Hall | Housing

Can you get Into legends would you be considered upper class when you transfer, there is also a special program there for transfer students....

i thought about that because they offer private rooms but still id have to share a bathroom wont i?

Sometimes P is right, living on a campus is really something you should seriously consider. There's more to it than just being safe, convenient living arrangements though.

You'll be in much the same situation as everyone else there (living away from home properly for the first time & studying) & because of that it'll open up opportunities to meet friends. Living in an apartment you would miss out on that side of university life... most people here will go into halls (dorms) for their first year & then move into an apartment in their second year.

There may be some downsides to living in halls, shared bathrooms, hearing people going about late at night etc. but as I said, you'll meet friends & it's a good environment in which to first get used to living away from home. It'll be less stressful than living by yourself in an apartment. Think of it as a step towards living fully independently.

Obviously having sz is a huge hurdle but I think with the right support network you'll be able to manage it i.e. seeing your therapist regularly & keeping in touch with your parents. Also as you said you'll have access to the university mental health services so I'm sure they'd be offer to help if need be too.

I think you should bring this up with your therapist, I'm sure they'll have a lot of good advice to give you....

Hi Loial, how is your good self?

Newtus i have to agree with what the others have said. the dorms are a great choice and a great experience. a dorm room is usually much cheaper than your other options, youre right on campus so dont have to drive to get to classes, and you will have the opportunity to meet tons of people. its also a heck of alot easier than having to look after an apartment by yourself or with a few friends. the dorm is a great way to get used to living away from home without a bunch of added stress. you'll get used to sharing a bathroom and theyre usually kept clean by a professional service. I lived in the graduate dorms for a year even when doing my phd for all these reasons!

Yes...but that was in every dorm. Like the guys are saying though it's a great way to make friends by living in the dorm....

morning.

i think im getting a cold.
gonna have some coffee.
i dont feel well.
my throat is narrowing and i cant talk right. its sore and burns and is itchy.

idk i have to think about this dorm thing. its easy for guys to live alone because they can fend for themselves. all i worry about it 1. my safety and 2. my dad.

I think you're overreacting and thinking too much into this. Living alone is something we all have to do eventually, you've a few more years to prepare financially and mentally. Just go for it otherwise you'll end up being forced into it when you're older and you can't live with your Dad anymore for whatever reason. It's going to happen so just do it now.

I'm good thanks! How are you keeping?

Parents are up visiting at the moment, had dinner together last night & today we went over to the old house to carry on clearing stuff out. In some ways it's lucky it has not sold yet because we never would have got it cleared out in time!

Strange thing happened though... as I was at the station waiting to get a train home, two girls across the tracks on the other platform kept looking at me I'm sure. Then they were taking photos on their phone (I could hear the shutter sound & it was pointing my way) and they were laughing too... why the **** would they be doing that. It just made me paranoid & now I've been feeling agitated ever since. I kept imagining how if they really were taking photos of me that I'd have gone up & confronted them & trashed their phones. ****ing *****es. (I'd never really do anything like that, but when I get these paranoid thoughts & feel threatened I get these fantasies about getting back at these people)

That's the first time I've had any real paranoia in a few months, but in a way it's probably was really happening so can it truly be paranoia? The agitation is something I'm used to with paranoia though, so I guess it still was.

Campuses are very safe places... they usually have different keycards or keys for getting into each block & then you can obviously lock your room too. Some of the modern ones even have each floor requiring it's own keycard too. Typically they don't put girls on ground floor rooms either.

Why are worried about your Dad? I'm sure he'd be proud to see you moving on & becoming independent....

It's natural to have worries like these when you are moving away, it's a scary thing but it should also be exciting too. Try not to let all your anxieties take over, you are over thinking things like chickenfoot says.

that sucks. like you said theres no way to know if it was paranoia or reality. ive had situations like this and reacted the same way. im sorry that happened

i understand newtus anxiety about living in a dorm. when you go from being so socially isolated to being around others way more it is a shock, at least to me. i do think it would be a great way to meet new people but i understand the fears

Im alright cheers. im trying to move to manchester and im finding the search for a good apartment challenging. everything should fall into place sooner or later though. other than that things are pretty steady which is good enough for me.

mate, those are some scary thoughts you have. im glad you realize theyre unacceptable and cant be acted on. maybe theyre just a temporary consequence of coming off meds and stopping smoking?

Do you think it's worth being off the meds if you're going to feel this way sometimes? Are you worried about it getting worse? Just a scenario but the girls may have thought you were cute...why would you feel threatened by that?

Just got home from group

im worried about my dad because hes an alcoholic and has had a stroke from it. from drinking. im worried hell be drinking when if im gone.

how was it?

I'm sure that'll be fun moving when you get all the technicalities sorted out. There's an awful lot of planning needs to go into moving cities. I thought about moving down to Cardiff last year & was amazed how much I had to research. In the end though it just wasn't feasible on many levels. I think I was hypomanic at the time thanks to my steroid inhaler, it seemed like a good idea at the time...

I've not given up smoking yet, I was trying but getting nowhere so decided just to wait a while before trying again.

Yes they are disturbing thoughts. I'm not a violent person, I've never been in a real fight in my life & avoid confrontation wherever possible. It just seems to be the case that when I get intensely paranoid thoughts where I think others are going to harm me, I start imagining how I would stop them...

I've been off meds for just over a month now I think, I would say this was an isolated incident & was mostly fuelled by obvious behaviour. I'm not really worried that it'll crop up again... it's not like the thoughts came because of some vague notion, the girls were definitely looking over my way.

In the back of my mind I guess it may have crossed my mind that they might have thought I looked interesting. The thing is I think I'm self-conscious & am inclined to think negatively when I see people looking. There was a time when I always took it as a good sign but not in the past few years. It's a cognitive thinking error really, assuming things or fearing the worst of situations.

I'm not really sure what I thought their motives were but I saw it as a personal affront. It just seemed to me there was no way they were doing it for good reasons & must have had some ulterior motive.

thanks junkdna.
i am socially isolated and it would be a shock to me. thank you for understanding my fear.

It was good, we're getting started with the phonebook project to make Christmas trees like we did last year