Blow Up Dolls

I have to echo the above sentiments..

Bit of bickering going on here unfortunately, and if this were my thread I definitely wouldn't feel too great if my issue had turned into an argument..

The reason why men pay for sex isn't, for the most part to feel like a man. It's more often then not because they want sex and sometimes they may want to try something that they might be able to do otherwise. Line a-nal sex, or get a woman to dress up and do a roleplay fantasy. Sometimes men pay for sex with porn stars ( many porn stars are also escorts) just for the novelty of getting to have sex with a woman who they may have watched on porn, and dreamed about getting lucky with.

Many porn stars are like minor celebs. That in itself is the turn on not to mention, if the guy is an older guy and not that good looking, it's his way of getting with a stunningly attractive young woman who'd have no chance of getting into bed without paying for it.

Okay, your humble OP returning. Yeesh, can't we all just get along

The reason I am seriously wanting to pay for sex is because there are women who absolutely will not do a virgin my age. And yes, I can fudge the issue for a time, but sooner or later I will get found out due to what will be overwhelming anxiety and shaky performance. So, why not get the experience with someone whose job it is to provide such opportunities and there will be less anxiety in general when I have the chance with someone I love?

I understand....I would do the same frankly, if I wanted to simply lose it.

But there ARE nice women out there.....Women who will value that you chose them...

I am not giving you some stupid romantic version of a pat on the head....I really mean it. I know some...heck even on these boards I have read some posts from lovely women...

That's why I recommended that you go see a sex surrogate they will be able to handle your needs and issues more effective than a prostitute (or blow up doll) would.

I know you have indicated on this thread and elsewhere that money is tight, so I assume that's why you haven't seen a sexual surrogate (or taken that trip to Nevada). But truthfully, you've indicated that you're so desperate on this issue that if you don't lose your virginity by age 35, you're ready to end your life. If things are that urgent, I wonder if you'd consider getting a second job, borrowing money, looking into credit options, etc.

Hang in there.

I think the front page of Craigslist warns that a request to wire money via Western Union is a sure way to tell a scammer is at play.

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Thanks. I haven't been able to find a surrogate anywhere close to me, so I'll really need to save in order to go to Nevada. Otherwise I just hope to be able to find a reputable escort here who will have sex. I don't know about doing any payday loans or those types of things

Many escorts leave a number on their website. Just contact the number and arrange a time to meet. Don't bother messaging saying you're a virgin and nervous and all this stuff because some don't like being messaged. Contact by phone and perhaps mention it if you have to, but I'd avoid it if I were you.

Also look for rep. The good escorts will have many good reviews. If you see an escort with no rep avoid because although they may well be genuine and just starting a profile, there's also some scams out there. If you see one with many good reviews and the odd negative review that's fine, but of course avoid one that has many negative rep.

If you want to PM me I can recommend a couple of US escort agencies. I would recommend an agency over independent as most agencies require a verification picture. Some independent sites put up fake pictures.

It seems another thread has been started re escorts. I am disappointed some ppl want to throw oil on the fire.

Yeah there isn't any need to mention you're a virgin, unless of course you really would rather say!

lol Sign out for one day, topic goes to hell in a handbasket.

What were we arguing? I'm really not seeing any line of logic in here that would qualify such...vehemence. I'm not tracking. Not trying to rekindle whatever it was that happened, but...wow.

So, anyway, blow up dolls. I promised I'd look around for some data...I have not gotten around to that yet, but I'll do what I can for ya OP.

No worries Harley. I just threw it out as an idea, but it's really in the end not worth it for me. There's no substitute for the real deal, which I pray comes soon. My efforts thus far have been futile

Maybe she just felt guilty about taking your virginity. If it were me I'd be afraid to take someone's virginity because I'd want it to be as good of an experience as possible.

I just want my virginity gone before I get into a relationship because no woman I know wants to put up with a "boy" my age who has no experience and has to be taught.

Yeah I know it can be hard.

If I were in your position, I wouldn't hesitate to employ a sex worker. I'm reminded of my father, who taught me that sex was "beautiful," to use his word, but only if you were married. I've always wondered what he would expect me to do if I didn't ever find someone to marry. Be a virgin forever? He wasn't a stupid man, but those were sure stupid words.

I live in a community which has a popular weekly newspaper with hundreds of classified ads for every kind of sex worker you can imagine, and I have no doubt that some of them are attractive, skilled, disease-free professionals who really like sex but don't want the encumbrances of a relationship. If I weren't married to a woman who makes sure I get enough sex, with her or solo, I would sure as hell find a good professional woman. Sorry, Dad!

Other

Why have you resigned yourself to never having sex or being in a relationship? You should try online dating, or go to a bar? Virginity is just a concept - read up on sex and learn some tips about it, and work on changing your way of thinking. You can't say that "no one" would ever want to have sex with you because you're a virgin. You haven't met everyone in the world. I think that if you became more confident and not so down on yourself about being a virgin, someone would like that about you. Being a virgin does not make you a "boy" - your attitude about it does. I hope this helps.

I'm seeing a sex therapist, and that's something we discuss. My concern, which I want to share with her more, is the fact that I would have someone who is willing to teach me how to have sex. Yes I can read about it (and have for my between-session homework) but it's not the same as actual performance.

I've also been on a no-strings-attached site, and I already get jumpy and jittery when I message and e-mail someone with some dirty talk and fantasies. If I'm that jittery now, how bad will I be when it comes? And if I'm that anxious, it's surely a giveaway.

that was what we call a "cash and dash" she knew you were a newbie and gotcha

One thing I would recommend is that you need to stop worrying that everyone knows you are a virgin because you are nervous, don't know what to do, etc.

When I was younger and first started having sex there were a lot of awkward fumbling moments on both sides. It didn't matter if it was the first time or the fifth. The first time with someone new was always a bit nervous. I have had sex with people who have plenty of experience who didn't know what they were doing and sex with beginners who did really well.
Luck,
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