rape? not sure...

Hi bri!!1
I'm so sorry about your ordeal!! There is a crime called
"marital" rape. It carries just as big a consequence as rape.
Rape is rape. There is no other term, or lighter definition.
It is a crime against women. It often leads to a more violent
situation. Your husband needs to be prosecuted to the fullest extent. You will not heal altogether if you allow him to get away with it. He needs to answer for his actions. I don't know how strongly you feel about prosecuting him, but
I'm sure it would carry some weight with the judge???
He doesn't remember???? ********!!!! I don't buy that
for a minute. That's crap!!! He's just trying to get you to forget any kind of fall out from it. He knows what he did.
Good luck with therapy. You are right to divorce him. This won't be the LAST person he violates. Remember that one
the next time you feel sorry for him!!!! You have nothing to be sorry about.............except marrying the bastard.

I'll be as tactful as I can about describing the situation exactly as it occurred. He found out (because of my illness) that I had feelings for someone else. Soon after that, within a couple of days if memory serves, he asked me for a sexual favor-- I responded, and performed, all but one part of it--I said "no" I would not do it. And, even gave a reason as to why. ( I had suffered childhood trauma related to this act) When the moment arose, in our lovemaking? He asked point blank-- and I said "no"--he did it anyway. Afterward, I was sitting on our living room couch and he came and sat next to me--I said to him " I said no, why did you do it anyway?" His response was emotionless--he just said that he knew that he had done it against my will. I said to him that it was like he had raped me. He apologized, but with no emotion. I asked him if it was because he was punishing me for loving someone else. His answer was "no". But, I never believed this. I don't know if I can prosecute him. I love his family too much. That's my only reason. And, that I am too weak from years of abuse from childhood, and every relationship since just about. Well, hope someone understands this

Peace and love,
Bri7

I didn't mean to offend you Bri7. I didn't know the whole story, but it seems clear to me that it was rape. Anything you say NO to and gets done to you anyway is a "sexual" assault. Penetration is rape!!! Making you commit sodemy
is a form of rape/assault. Penetrating from behind is assault!! What else is there? Maybe it is too late, and you don't want to hurt his family. But what about the next time he
wants to hurt YOU???? How will you handle this again?
I'm not clear on whether you did this out of love, or to appease him for something he thinks you owe him????
Don't punish yourself. You don't have to do anything you don't want to do. Just because you're married, doesn't give him the right to force himself on you!!! If you have baggage
you came into this marriage with, I'd suggest you get some
help right away. You won't start feeling better about you until you do. Doing nothing will solve nothing.
Hope you feel better soon.