Curious dream

I'd like some insight on this, but first let me say that I do not believe in ghosts, visits from the dead, or similar things.

My dad passed away in Dec. I had lived with him the last 10 years. We had a rocky relationship which mostly consisted of him abusing me, and me either getting depressed or fighting back. But in general I loved him and tried my best to be a dutiful daughter. I know that he loved me too, but very much favored my sibling. Things were pretty good toward the end. He had softened towards me a lot, while still letting me know I wasn't as good as...you know who. As his health failed, I had no problem with helping him more and more and being there for him. So, understand, I put aside my issues for daughterly duty, which I felt was more important than my feelings. I had no regrets when he died. I don't feel anything was left unsaid or undone. I did not feel that he kept me from living my own life. I was very sad and felt the loss when he passed.

So here's my dreams...

I have dreamt 4 times about him being with me after his death. In my dreams we have had his funeral and taken care of all his affairs. Nothing undone. But here we are living in another place and I know he was dead and now he's not. In the dream I keep wondering 1) How did he fake his death if he did? 2) Will I still get the life insurance if he was dead and is not now? 3) Can he die again and if so, when?

As I said, there are no loose ends, no regrets, no guilt, no sense of something left undone. So why am I dreaming about him?

O, I do have one slight regret. He was far away when he did pass, so I realize I might have issues about not being able to be with him, but it is not something I worry about.

In real life you fear he will come back, and you will lose your new found independence.

Hi,
It is quite normal to dream of a relative or close friend after they died.
During sleep there is always a stream of thoughts flowing through the unconscious mind and negative thoughts often intrude into the dream flow.
They tend to interrupt sleep and the subconscious changes the negative thoughts into a dream story/dream scenario to to preserve the sleep.
If you analyse your dreams you'll find negative aspects in the dream story.
At the end of the dream there is always a waking element of mostly emotin of regret used to wake you when you had enough sleep.
You'll find as time passes the dreams about your dad will be less frequent.

The dreams suggest a situation in which your father and all issues pertaining to him have apparently been laid to rest. (had his funeral, taken care of all his affairs) Yet the scene shows that this is not exactly the case. In these scenes the True Self could see the issue of your father being resurrected in your mind or simply brought up again. The resurrection can also imply that your thoughts about your father might be brought up slightly differently.

In order for this to happen, you may need to see yourself living on changed grounds of reasoning. (living in another place) The term 'place', can in dreams, refer to 'time'. Thus "in another place" could be implying that your thoughts about your father could reflect those coming from a different period of time rather than from the present. [Your last memories of your father would probably reflect his softening towards you but those of previous times probably would have been quite different, reflecting his abuse of you and resulting depression.]

The 3 questions you ask yourself imply that there is a good or godly question that could be asked concerning your father. Taken individually, question #1, suggests that your thinking about your father's death may have been fake - not reflecting the reality. [There is a reality that satisfies the mind but not the emotional nature.]

Question #2 concerning the life insurance indicates that there is some benefit to letting your thoughts about your father rest in peace. As the insurance is a sum of money - and money relates to mental ability - the benefit that comes of leaving your thoughts about father rest in peace, benefits mainly your mind, while the emotional nature remains unappeased. [When depression is experienced, this state is felt but not usually expressed in words. The feelings causing it never get a voice simply within one's own mind. This can eventually affect your health as well as your sleep.]

Question #3 is questioning whether you can eventually let your thoughts about father rest in peace but is it implied that it may take some time (when?) to work through those feelings. This dream has been repeated simply because you have not yet grasped its meaning.

Thank you all for your responses. At the time I posted this, I was afraid the dreams would become every night and bothersome to me, and/or some kind of obsession or denial. I am glad to say that I have had the dream twice in the past 2 weeks and I can handle that.

Eyes of Blue, I agree that the being alive/insurance thing was my mind trying to sort things out. I had been still in shock I think, because his death did not seem real. So my mind was sort of refusing to believe he was gone, but also wanted to get on living my own life now. Does that make sense?
I want to remember him as my Daddy, not as an abuser. I think I can do that.

Iris, First I'd like to say that I am very sorry for your loss. Your own wording in the dream "I know he was dead and now he's not" indicates that your mind while you may have still been in shock is very consciously aware that your father had really died physically. The mind is not refusing to believe he was gone.

Your statement," I want to remember him as my Daddy, not as an abuser. I think I can do that." indicates that you still have not grasped the meaning and message of this dream. What the dream is saying is exactly the opposite of what you are trying to do - not think of Daddy as an abuser. To maintain your own emotional health, the Lord is showing you that you would need to bring up in your mind Daddy as an abuser - because this has never been adequately done yet.

The customary human philosophy is to 'never speak ill of the dead'. It is easier and more comfortable to let our thoughts dwell on the pleasant aspects of the deceased but this does not take care of our psychological needs. Only the Lord can guide you when to take this negative approach, as is being done in this dream.

I was in a very similar situation Iris, and my father died in 2005. I also have the same type of dreams. But less often now. I have forgiven him, and I hope he has forgiven me too. I know that God watches over both of us.