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Nov 29, 2010, 04:10 PM
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I met with a friend who I hadn't seen in years the other day. She told me she remembered how she would go to sleepovers at my house. I just looked at her saying in my head -HUH?? I don't remember her ever coming to my house nevermind a sleepover. She even told me in detail what the room looked like in our basement (it was a finished basement). When I think of it I have had maybe one or two memories of a few classmates at my house playing outside one time. How does this happen? I have no memories of having anyone over to play growing up (other than a few images of those one or two times - a few times at grade school age). Anyone else have these big lapses of memory?? I remember being at everyone elses house but not any memories of being in my house with friends (the few friends I did have I had so I think I would remember).
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Nov 30, 2010, 04:41 AM
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Sunny has a thread here right now on basically the same topic. What comes to mind for me is that for memories to be formed you need to be present. If you were not present or dissociated while in your home it would make it harder to form and retain memories I would think. Maybe when you had a friend over you were worried about how your mother would act and this caused you to not be as present?
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Dec 15, 2010, 10:59 AM
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Since this thread was started I asked my T about the memory thing. She said she has no idea why I don't have a memory of it and asked me if I could ask my mom about the sleepover thing. Either way shouldn't my T be helping me figure out why I don't have a memory of this? Any thoughts - T's or clients? Please
 Anyone have a T help them with this? Perhaps I need to be direct and say to my T: I NEED YOU TO HELP ME FIGURE THIS OUT! (so far sannah you have given me more info on the topic than my T  )
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Dec 15, 2010, 11:32 AM
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i have pictures of birhtday parties i had as a child - i dont remember them - i dont remember my childhood - my T said i will remember when and if my mind decides the time is right
and i said but these were good things why cant i remember then and he said because somtimes when our mind cuts out the bad part we dont want to remember or that is damaging to us - it takes along other parts that are near it like cutting cloth and leaving extra for the hem ... I dont know if that helps disassociation is a big one for me - most of the time i might as well have been on another planet and i find the harder i reach for the memories the faster they slip into the darkness can a T help you with this? dealing withthe frustration yes - and all the other emotios it raises - but can they tell you why you dont remember for sure - jmo but i dont think so - my T tried hypnotherapy to bring back my memories - all i got was an overwhelming feeling of fear ... My T said not to waste time trying to remember the past when i should be living in the here and now.. i agree...but .. it would be good to remember the good things... take care P7 
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Dec 15, 2010, 05:03 PM
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Anyhow thanks for your input phoenix. It sounds like you have a great T. 
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Dec 17, 2010, 09:36 PM
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Just my opinion but I would think that your time would be better spent on other things at this point. Is it really bothering you?
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Dec 17, 2010, 11:12 PM
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My memories of childhood are like swiss cheese... big holes here there and everywhere, good bad and indifferent. I don't know of anyone who has a seemless timeline of their life. I think some times our minds need to sort what to store and what not to store, what to retrieve and when to retrieve it.
Memories, like my son, like to play tag... the harder you chase them the faster they run. Sit patiently and wait... If they are to come back they will come in the calm not in the midst of a cross country chase.
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Dec 17, 2010, 11:56 PM
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I also have these types of memories. Where I have pictures of me smiling with friends and there supposed to be happy times and friends remember being there etc..But I don't remember??? Even if there is a picture of the event with them present? How we T and I can come up with that is for my situation the back ground behind everything else was that I was trying so hard to function in an awful situation that I dissociated all the time that even good times sometimes got erased as well? Things were so icky. So just like if your hmm let's see for illustrations sake your editing something and you accidentally erased something and saved it without proofing it first and saved it. You don't know that it was any other way? You just see it as the way you saved it your saved file? Much like our memory? So if someone say's hey remember this event and we did so and so ?? We have just blocked it out for whatever reason, not necessarily cuz it was a bad time with them? Does that make any sense? That's just how it works in my case or it's reasoned out for my instance....biggest safest hugs if okay
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