is there anyway that can control parents from hurting their kids?

this is really unreasonable that no one understands this,they just can say black is white.it is a deer,she say it is a horse.she just can say and act compeletly contradictary.and even a pig can tell she is wrong nuts.so i just have to lead a pig into this house.do you understand?
all my life,with this already so bleeding brain,i try to find a clue of this that can hit the nerve of your understanding.

> they just can say black is white.it is a deer,she say it is a horse.

Whatever you think it is, is probably closer to the truth than not. Anyway, for now it is your truth. Go with it.

no no no

really,i need to lead someone into the house and he will see what happen,even a stupid one.a pig.i am asking how.

> i need to lead someone into the house and he will see what happen,even a stupid one

If you have abuse at home, and someone else comes in, won't the people who are abusers hide it?

You need someone skilled at seeing it. I don't know if any abuse counsellors or investigators can be found near you.

Hi (((cusack)))) you really are having quite a time of it, aren't you?

You posted under anxiety, so I'm going to try and address that for you ok?

Another vicious cycle is one of feeling anxious, feeding the anxious thoughts, and becoming more anxious. Right?

Let's try and find some "ok" things in your life, to help you focus on.

Breathe first. Try and breathe slowly, deeply, breathe in slowly, hold it a few seconds and then out slowly. I know this sounds simple but it helps everyone... I do it alot. It helps me focus as I meditate.

Where are you living right now? At home, and your mom took all the locks off the doors so you can't get "alone time" is that right? So you need to find a place - a space - where you feel safe, is that right?

Can you think of any place like that? Where mom isn't, where the people in the street won't yell words and all?

If you can't find a physical place, then you will need to work on an inner place. Some place we can create, in your mind, in your thoughts, where you can get some relief. How does that sound? You have a good mind, I can tell from all your thinkings you express here.

You might even do both: find a place to physically go to, AND then go to a safe place your mind has created. How does that sound?

Now, to address your original question: you can call the police. You can report any abuse yourself.

But I caution you, you need to be calm when you do that, and have your thoughts in order, keep your voice nice, they are there to help you but if they think you are the problem, well you already know how that goes.

Have you called the police or some authority like that yet?

Keep talking here, and try to put your words together a little better so others can follow. There are many caring members here, I'm sorry not many of us have replied to your post.

still i need to secure home area,right,answe my last post.
sky,i like to talk to people like you.

cusack, I don't think anyone is cyberbullying you or playing your mind.

We don't really know what to say to you to help you with your situation. _Sky did a wonderful job of trying to help you.

It's hard for us to know what to say to help you cusack. We don't live in your country, so we don't know what is available to you for helping you. But please know that we care and wish for you all good things and that you can find some answers to your problems. I'm sorry I can't be of much more help to you than to tell you that I care.

*Gentle Hugs*
J

still i need to secure home area,right,answe my last post.
(that was it,but i had to edit it,seem must be words twist and more for social attetion,which is another question i asked,but not responed yet.i must've edited 8 times.)
i dont' know,i am seeking solution,not playing words game.every word i said i mean it as it is.
i deleted a post i don't know why pachy said that.
the post is like"know black from white,know how many one and one is,is it cyberbullying,are you all playing my mind?
hope i can be clear,she is like hog running in the house,savage,just answer my question."
sky,i like to talk to people like you.

Ok cusack I'll try to see how I can help.

You need to find a safe place in your own home, is that right? Someplace where your mom can't bother you?

Is she unwell also, cusack? She sounds like she really doesn't listen to you. Do you know why she is like that?

I don't think you are twisting things to gain attention.

I think you are really trying to communicate with us here. There are members who would like to help, they just don't know what to say.

The post you talk about is where you said that she says things that are black, that they are white, and calls one animal by another's name... is that the post I need to read again to help you?

ty,sky,i see your post and get the stregth to wash my face.but keep on reply my reply.

Cusack, remind me, you live in a country where there is not much professional help, is that right?

It's been a long time since we have chatted I think.

I'm glad you are gaining strength to take care of yourself some, that is important.

I hope you will work on breathing and do what we call "clearing our mind" of clutter. Try and focus on one thing at a time... just one thing at a time... then when that's done, then you can do another thing.

Can you make lists for yourself? Do you have things you need to do to take care of yourself? Those things would make a good list. One thing at a time, does that work for you?

I'm going to need to sleep soon cusack, but I'll look for your posting tomorrow again, ok?

no,lol,oh,oh,oh,i just say it is OBVISIOUS.
no,that post,the last in page 3.start with
" really...."and the "ty"post is for your first post.

ok,sky.nite.

TILLTHE END FIGHT ALONE,DEAD.

Hi Cusack,

Sorry I wasn't here to reply to your pm. I have read through your posts.

I hope now you are feeling better ;-)

Take Care,

Kel xx

u there,sky

u there,everybody.

hi,sky.
focus on good things,i am fully surrounded by rotten things.........i don't know what to say,please help me out........rot people everywhere................oh,potential,you can't see it.............faith abandons me...............i don't know what to say,please help me out..........and i got cyberbullied again and bullied in real life,by rot people.

making good on my promise to post friend. The environment you are in you will pass through and out of in time...

do not own the rotten and the negative. grit your teeth, rise above it, strive for more... your own view of reality, how things should be.

stay stong and keep your head up.

pleasure to meet you my friend.

i'm late to the thread....how old are you? i'm sorry that i didn't see this. xoxoxo pat

again,i am asking how.
i stuck in this reality,someone help me to know more.and i got a buntch of mottos,they won't get up from papers and watch my back,i begin to think they are twisted crap.kind of hate the signatures,faye.old young man,different from people at the same age.
thanks for replying,guys.

The best thing to do is to make it clear you will not stand for it, being 18 you are old enough to move out, have you thought about this?

How can you be put in an instituion because you argue back? It is hard to be put into one, and it only really happens if you are suicidal or homicidal.

You need to get a councilor who understands where you are coming from, and then you might be able to work through these issues

what about family therapy?

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i try to kill time with games,i only know card games,interactive games,the chat on the msn game upset me everytime,almost all ppl are sht there,the shameless,the faceless,yet stupidest sht,i ever met.then i turn to simple card games in windows system,which don't have a typing chatboard,the chat content is pre set,and you know,met ppl around the world by the language displayed in a blank,not just usa ppl,which is great at insulting.it is unbelievable,with stuck chat content,the insults are pouring down as well.sht are all over the world,they are unbelievably creative at insulting.
the last incident that put me to vent here.spades game.the p is from russia,others russian and spainish,he was doing well in the beginning,and he talked a lot,and the third game,he said sry for cutting me,i trumped on that hand.he said sry,i backed with a down look.but he said back the same look,puzzle.and he cut me again,oh,it is on purpose.and the next game,it is only 9 bid in total,he kept trump in spite that i gave all my big card after him,and it ended up with 8 bags.i was hoping he can say a word but he didn't .i was set.what is more shting,a while later,i tried to fight back a bit and having learnt from sht,i bid 13,the opponent russian teased me with well done,game is great,and thank you,and gone.holy,he didn't say well done to tease my p when he was gaining all bags on last round.it was freaking obvious he did on purpose.the world is filled with sht.gosh,i have nowhere to turn to.sigh.

Cusack, I think that one thing that might help you would be to learn to let things go. I remember when you first posted about the spades game. That was several weeks ago, wasn't it? You might never play with the same players again, but you are still as mad at them as you were at first. It is okay to feel angry, but when you keep feeling angry for this long, your own anger hurts you. Those guys don't even know that you are still mad at them.

People say and do things that hurt. That happens to all of us. Nobody can control what another person does. What we can control is what we do. People do nice things too, like trying to understand and help someone. Could you try to remember the nice things that people do more than you remember the mean things? Also, more people will do nice things if you are nice to them first. I am not saying that you don't already do nice things - just that doing nice things is one of the best ways to get people to be nice to you. Even if it doesn't work all the time (nothing works all the time), it will work some of the time.

Is it worth a try?

Rap