Dissociative

Hello. I am a part of a circle of many circles who have Dissociatve Identity Disorder. I do not think this is where I want to post. Maybe some of the others will. I am just feeling sad and wanted to write where others who are also DID write. I can not find any.

Have you looked at the Resources link on this site? If not, here it is below. There are several sites mentioned with resources related to DID. You might find helpful info or DID contacts there if you don't meet them here.

http://psychcentral.com/resources/Dissociation/

Good luck. Em

Welcome to the forums. Post wherever you would like, and that goes for the others, too! I'm happy to welcome everyone, and I'm here for you when you need a friend.

Take care,
SweetCrusacer

comfort the disturbed and disturb the comfortable

hi. i was diagnosed with DID about 4 months ago. i wish i could figure out what's really wrong with me because i know it just can't be DID. oh well. anyway, i wanted to let you know that there is a place i go to where there are a lot of people with DID. at that place you can't post url's or anything. so i don't want to get in trouble here in case those are also the rules here. but i'd like to let you know about it so you can maybe not feel so alone. if anyone knows the rules about that, will you let me know? thank you.

you can go ahead and post the URL. it should be fine

comfort the disturbed and disturb the comfortable

I found a great site today that is for DID... it has tons of information, how to deal with it, how to get over DID etc.

Here is the link to this website: <A target="_blank" HREF=http://www.hopeforhealing.org/did.html>http://www.hopeforhealing.org/did.html</A>

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I know you probably had good intentions but I have to comment on "how to get over DID".

Please do not suggest to people with DID that it is something to be gotten over. Such suggestions can be dangerous and hurtful to people with more than one inside.

Is the link you gave one that you personally use? Or one that a person with DID recommended to you? How long have you been visiting DID sites? Have you read many DID books or studies?

I bring these things up as not every person who survives abuse deals with dissociation or DID. And for the people who do deal with DID every day is a chance to enlighten the public ignorance about this disorder.

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I've dealt with dissociation before, not DID and I have read up on alot of it even if I do not have DID.

I don't think sharing info on sites that help people can do any harm in it.

Nothing i've posted I'd hope would do harm, if I thought that anything was posted that even remotely could I would never have posted it.

I did go through the site and looked at the links and thought that they could be helpful and postive, otherwise I wouldn't have post it.

I don't mean get over it as in GET OVER IT!! that would be harsh... it is a website that helps with different coping methods for people who have expierenced or have DID themselves... I would never ever tell someone to get over something like that.

Sorry you took it the wrong way, but that isn't want I was saying.

I'm not here to do any wrong doing, everyone knows that.. I am here to give support.

I'm not the only one that has sent out helpful links or websites... there are tons of them out there and are postive to go to and read up on sucess stories etc.

IF no one likes this post then feel free to delete it. But if you find it helpful I am glad... Don't want people to take this post the wrong way.


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<font color=blue>"Never react emotionally to criticism. Analyze yourself to determine whether it is justified. If it is, correct yourself. Otherwise, go on about your business."</font color=blue>

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<div class="foot">(Edited by sundance on 07/20/04 08:15 PM.)</div>
<div class="foot">(Edited by sundance on 07/20/04 08:16 PM.)</div>

I could be misinterpreting the discussion here, but here's my take. Some people are of the mind that being "cured" of DID means being integrated- becoming just one personality with no others inside anymore. There are others who strongly disagree and actually are hurt and offended by the suggestion that DID is something that you should try to get rid of. Many people decide to learn how to work as a system rather than losing any of the people who are a part of that system. I think it's a very personal decision that each person within the system needs to make together, and not anyone's business on the outside to judge either way.

I'm not sure if that's where zenhussy was going with her post, or not. I could be totally off-base here. The arguement wasn't 100% clear.

But I just want to say that Sundance has the VERY BEST of intentions, I have NO doubt in the world about that. She is a great help to a LOT of us on the site and I don't think she was trying to hurt or judge anybody. There are many people who do want to "get over" DID, in the form of integration. And I don't think that Sundance's offer of information on getting over DID was any more offensive than info on how to "get over" depression, bipolar, PTSD, or whatever. I think either way it needs to be considered in context.

I have done my homework about DID, although I don't have it myself. And I've known people who have had it (one who is now integrated, and several who are multiple). I can understand where the objection to Sundance's statement is coming from, but really I think it was a little disproportionate given her intentions and given the fact that she did NOT imply that it should be "gotten over." She simply said that there was website where people discussed issues related to DID, INCLUDING people trying to "get over" it. There are those who are working toward integration. Why is it offensive to mention that this is a part of that website?

Angela (SweetCrusader)

-comfort the disturbed and disturb the comfortable-
<div class="foot">(Edited by SweetCrusader on 07/20/04 09:30 PM.)</div>

That is what I exactly meant by getting over it. Someone asked how you get over DID and I Sent a website that helps people with DID and how to cope.

That's all it meant, and that is goes for depression, PTSD, Anxiety and so forth.
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just want to tell you of place we go. is good place we think. sometimes we get mad at place and go for a while but mostly is when we have a bad feelings inside. is good place.

www.twhj.net

is okay to have DID. means we survived the unsurviveable. DID not what we need to get over. bad things be what need to get over.

you nice people i think.

that is an excellent point you make, lizzieetc. it is the bad things you need to get over! thank you so much for making that point.

best wishes!
Angela (SC)

-comfort the disturbed and disturb the comfortable-

The getting over it part was not meant in a harsh way... everyone wants help for there different disorders whether it's depression, anxiety, ptsd, bi polar etc... getting help, getting treatment, getting a better understanding and maybe one day not having it anymore.

That's what it was suppose to mean, i'm sure everyone can agree on that...

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Thank you. Buuuuut I just want to meet some people with DID here.

Hi! Thank you for talking. I do not know who you are but I am just a part. And most people when they talk about getting over DID , weeelll that would make me go away. In our case, it might make all of us go away be cause there is not a host part that any one knows of. And you are right it is bad things and people we need to get over. I thought it was safe to come here and post buuuut it might not be. We will have to keep checking I think. You?

I did not want to post here in the first place be cause my life is not about being a survivor abuse. Things I want to talk about is like not getting a lot of time to do things, and not getting to do things I want to and stuff like that that I do not think mean any thing to this story here. And I do not want to think about abuse just be cause I get time and get to come here and write. So that is why I asked where the place was for people with DID. Thank you for talking to me. I can not talk to some of you yet be cause you scare me. And some of you said things I am not sure what you said yet. Maybe another part of me will read them and let me know if you are okay. And maybe you do not know what I mean. That is just what I mean by needing my own place to write. Maybe there is no place for me to write.

If I scared you, or anybody else, I'm sorry! I don't have DID, but I do know a little bit about it, and I think I do understand what you mean about not having enough time to do what you want to. And I understand about another part of you letting you know what people have said on here. I hope you will come to feel safe writing here. If not, I hope you can find somewhere that you do feel safe!

Best wishes,
SweetCrusader

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I don't know, really. What I do know is that there is no place that we feel completely safe. So I've kind of given up on that. But we've been checking back here to see if you got our posts. The url we posted has forums and chat and is very DID friendly - it would have to be because so many multiples frequent the site. We could stage a coup. ;o) The "getting over DID" thing doesn't scare me so much anymore because I know no one can make us do anything we don't want to do. But I know it still scares some of us - so much that new bad things happen sometimes because of the fear.

I read your other posts. It's incredibly lonely if you don't know anyone else with DID. But I have DID, and you can talk to us.

We never have enough time - never.

The question that makes us scurry and run for cover is this one, "Who's talking now?" Uuuuuggghhhhh. I really wish that either a) the media & entertainment industries had never gotten wind of DID or b) that the public was educated about it enough to never say "Oh wow you mean like Sybil?"

We're all just parts. Parts of a whole. Host is the word used when describing the organism that parasites have attached themselves to. Hehe. We're none of us parasites! I guess it's different for eveybody, but I think we're like you in that there is no "host" part. We're more like a puzzle - a bunch of pieces making up a whole.

You've sure said the very thing I was trying to put into words: there is no place that we feel completely safe.

I don't have any place that I can speak freely without people launching into Sybil or which one are you?

I am one who is hurt by the stereotypes of getting over it because of how many times it is said to me. Do people think I've chosen to be this way?? Oh if they do they are far more sick than I could ever be.

I'm glad that you have a place with multiples that you feel more comfortable posting at. I have one forum but it is still taking me time to get used to it.

I admire your courage posting here and thank you. I was going to post something but didn't know what or how and I think your post and link is of great help to many who might never speak up.

Bless ya lizzieetc

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I don't know if any of you would be up for this, but what if there was a forum specifically for DID here at psychcentral? There have been a lot of multiples posting on here looking for help, information, and people who understand.

There are a lot of people out there who do not understand what DID is. Maybe if some of you could all write posts about the stereotypes and misunderstandings that some people have, that would help! You could also post and talk about all the things that make life with DID challenging. For those of us who haven't experienced it, it's hard to understand at first. I've read a lot of books that have helped me understand a little more, and I know someone who used to have DID and was integrated, but I would still like to learn more. Besides, I would like to be there for you guys (and girls), just like I am here for everyone on psychcentral.

I'd be willing to put some posts about DID together, too. I think people really do need to learn more about DID because it really isn't very well understood.

I would really like for people with DID to feel safe on psychcentral.

What do you all think about that?

-comfort the disturbed and disturb the comfortable-

We're "out" about being multiple. But we have some co-consciousness (alot, actually) so that makes it easier for us. And the reason we're "out" about it is precisely what you're talking about, Sweet Crusader. All the myths and stereotypes and stigmas surrounding DID are only there for as long as we allow them to be, in my opinion. It's up to those of us with DID to educate others by sharing our stories (not abuse stories, just us, you know?) and ourselves with them. It's difficult though, because DID systems were designed to go undetected - the whole point is secrecy. So to be "out" about having DID is in direct opposition to the reason we're multiple in the first place. But what we've learned so far is that a) being multiple is nothing to be ashamed of b) we can survive we can survive we can survive and c) for us, hiding away and keeping our secret is no longer necessary to our survival but, in fact, hurts us - what was once a protection is now a trap.

So I guess what I'm saying, Sweet Crusader, is yeah I think it's a great idea.

that is so awesome for you, lizzieetc. even though i don't know your stories in detail, i know enough to be able to see that you are survivors. you are strong! that definitely comes accross in your posts. and i'm glad to hear you have some co-consciousness, too, because that will DEFINITELY help make life easier for you all.

i know what you mean about the secrecy- both about the fact that it was once a crucial thing for you, and now that it is important to you to have the courage to speak up and disspell the myths. i am so behind you!

i sent a pm to DocJohn asking if it might be possible to start a DID forum, and i offered to be a moderator. for anyone else out there who agrees that this would be a good thing, maybe you could let him know that, too!

Angela (SweetCrusader)

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Also there is a board that has a thread on DID called psychforums.com

There are alot of people on that board that suffer from DID and not just from abuse but for other reasons as well.

I'm a mod there .. I see people posting all the time..

Maybe that would meet your needs?

Just a thought.

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No, I'm fine. I only posted here to let the originator of this thread know that there are others reading who do have DID and that we know of a place that is frequented by multiples. I said the DID topic here would be good in my opinion just because I believe that DID is nothing to be ashamed of or hide (once the system is stable and out of danger) and I want all multiples to feel safe in the world and have places to talk freely. That's all. Thanks for the thought though. )

Yeah, and I'm with you on that thought! And so many people have posted on here and said they have DID and wanted a place to post! So I think it would be a good idea, personally.

I'm studying to be a therapist, and DID is one of the things I'm interesting in specializing in. As I said before, I know (and totally love!) someone who had it and was integrated. Because of them and their experiences, the issue is close to my heart even if I've never had DID. And I don't think that very many people, psychologists included, understand what DID really is and what it's like to live with it.

I would love to see psychcentral make a place for DID, considering we have forums on so many other things.

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