Do you experience it?

I had been average looking girl. I hanged out with boys but was never into relationship. All my guy friends showed me respect and treated me one amongst them. Yes, I could talk freely on any topic with them but then it was never personal.
In past few months, I've experienced something strange (at least for me it is strange). Two of my clients within days of our friendly interaction have asked me regarding my sexuality. They are interested to know about my boy-friends, have praised my breasts, complimenting my sexuality. I'm not used to these and I get very uncomfortable with these. I told them I don't like such talks but they find a reason to come near to me.
I've to work with them and can't avoid or annoy them. How should I handle them? Have you faced such situation? They both don't know each other. I wonder why they are hitting on me.

Ask your manager about the policy. To make sure you do not face negative consequences for allowing the clients to flirt with you. By itself, there is nothing wrong in receiving compliments on your breasts etc., but since the compliments are coming from clients, you need to enforce proper boundaries. Also, YOU need to be the person who brings this to management's attention, and not some third party that may harm you.

Thanks Ham.
I'm on contract and company policies don't help me.
I wonder what different I'm being doing to attract such comments? I wear my usual clothes, no change in figure or thoughts. What is going wrong?

You are looking for patterns, but two data points (two people who do not know one another) are not enough to conclude that there is a pattern. It may be coincidental.

You are also mixing unrelated things together a bit: praising your breasts is simply a compliment, but inquiring about your boyfriends borders on being nosy.

I would just ignore them, or talk to your manager about it.

I ignored them. Had not reported. But I wondered why I attracted this kind of attention. I'm not used to such comments.

It could be completely coincidental and they were just the kind of guys who were into you from the start and got comfortable enough to make a move. My world of men changed when I met my husband. All of a sudden it's ok to have crude guy talk in front of me...the "prude". urgh! lol

should I feel good that guys approached me? Practically I don't

I WOULD feel good, but it does not mean that you SHOULD feel good. The difference between would and should is important because there is no RIGHT way to feel - you feel what you feel. That I WOULD feel good in no way means that you SHOULD feel good, TOO.

Also, it could be that they just weren't the right kind of guys for you in some aspect, and that in the future attention from better suited guys WOULD feel good for you.

If you show minimal neutral reaction, like you have no intrest in the conversation and more intrest in work related things they will back off because they aren't getting any kind of positive or negative vibe from you.....

Praise and appreciation is nice, yet, these two men sound like they are crossing the line, by asking about your bf history and frankly, complimenting breasts in the workplace, it is way out of line.

"I appreciate the compliment and interest, however, there is a time and a place. This is neither the time nor the place."

As far, as your doing anything different. I am not sure this is anything different that you've been doing. These men, are just crossing the line. They are your clients, not men outside of the workplace. And, how would it feel to have a man, standing in line at Starbucks, turn and say, wow, you have really nice looking breasts?

At Starbucks? Would feel nice and be hilarious. At SB would be good . But I do get about crossing the line in a professional setting.

I find it amusing that women enjoy men especially who aren't close to make such private comments. I find these comments personally disgusting. Is something wrong with me?

I think people are just different, so nothing is either wrong or right with you - it is just how you are.

I went into a cafe on Sunday. A very busy place near a train station, where you place your order with a cashier and then get a "number", find a table on your own, place the "number" on the table, and wait for the food.

So, to make the long story short, I have anxiety disorder that is weird in that I am not socially anxious but I cannot eat and even drink sometimes when I am nervous. Basically even the thought of swallowing food makes me nauseous. Of course, not being well nourished is never a good idea, and being dehydrated is an even worse idea, and I am sure that not eating properly makes my anxiety much worse creating a vicious cycle.

So all of that last week I had this problem. Always nauseous, and literally making myself sip milk little by little to at least get some nutrients in.

And then on the weekend I finally felt fine and felt normal hunger. Normal hunger - I wanted to eat, rather than forced myself to sip milk. So I rejoiced and went to my favorite cafe.

And the cashier guy, for a few moments after I said "hi" and before I actually placed my order, just stood there with his eyes fixated at my chest.

To which I wanted to say: "Dude, hello and wake up! Nice breasts, I know, geez thanks for noticing, but I am hungry for a change and I want to get going and get some food. Stop staring at my chest - take my order. That is what you are here for, after all."

I did not say that, of course - eventually he figured it out on his own.

But to me the situation is funny, not disgusting. And to you it is disgusting. There is no right or wrong way here.

About attracting it, this was my own experience. I was at an AA meeting once, and I made the mistake of sharing that I was taking myself off the market, since relationship issues seemed to be my biggest relapse triggers. I never should have shared that information in mixed company. I should have saved it for a women-only meeting. After the meeting was over, the men were practically lined up at the door to tell me if I ever changed my mind, they'd be waiting. If they expected me to find their interest flattering, I didn't. I found it frustrating. I had made it clear I was not interested in anybody, period. I felt disrespected. I had asked for space, not to be pursued, and they were giving me the opposite.

Later I began to realize that "not interested" was exactly the reason they swooped down on me like a bunch of vultures. What I had meant as a "Closed for Renovation" sign, they took as a "Going Out of Business," make your move now. A woman doesn't have to look like a movie star (I don't) to draw attention from men if she is obviously unavailable. Their William-the-Conqueror mentality kicks in, and they flatter *themselves,* not me, by thinking, "I'll bet I can get her to change her mind."

Conversely, I have found that when I am interested (none of this applies now that I have been happily married for almost 5 years) and want to start dating, or if I have my eye on a particular man, I become less attractive to them. They want a challenge. My guess is a total shot in the dark, and I could be way off, but I'm thinking there may have been an obvious "I'm not interested" signal that they see as a challenge.

Aggravating, isn't it?

No, I would not find it to feel nice, if some random guy walked up to me, while having a SB coffee and told me, he admired my breasts. That would feel creepy, to me, on so many levels.

No, I do not feel something is wrong with you. You have your own personal integrity, and private comments such as what is mentioned in the OP, as offensive, sounds quite normal, to me. I know, I am not the only one of my female friends, that would uphold this opinion.

No kidding, the troubles of being single!! I get what you mean, and second that notion!!!

What if you were alone? At SB, but alone - you and the guy. A deserted SB with just you and the guy? Still unpleasant?

I can see how this situation can be embarrassing in the presence of other patrons at SB - but not when you are alone. I had a few guys come to me when I was about 20 or so to say: "Look, I want nothing from you so don't take me wrong - I just wanted to tell you that your breasts are gorgeous."

I liked that and still remember it. But they prefaced the compliment with "Look, I want nothing from you."
And that was key. They did a very good job with such a preface. They realized that I might have otherwise considered them creepy, and preempted such a reaction in me.

I chatted with them for a couple minutes each and we parted ways.

I have not retained their faces, though. So the memory is superficial (normally I retain faces very well), but still positive.

With a preface, like that, OK...you've got me there, Ham-Bam

Does sound like a positive experience instead of a creepy one

I was floored yesterday when I did a search for women seeking women in my area on OK Cupid, out of sheer curiosity. I wanted to see what they look like, because I suspected that they look just the way hetero women look. Indeed - the ones that popped up in search were all bi rather than lesbian and indeed there is nothing that says "I am bi" in their looks.

But what floored me that 2 out of 5 women whose profiles I visited answered the question about what people notice first when they meet those women with:

"My breasts".

And both have fairly large breasts indeed, and one of them is 46 and says that her breasts look amazing considering how old they are. But she does not list children. I thought that being 46, unless you have been pregnant several times, does not do that much damage to breasts to post something like this.

I was weirded out. As in "is that for real?".