Too harsh?

I was thinking about my monster, and how sometimes my replies may come across as too harsh ...

I think it is when I feel unappreciated, which goes back to my childhood. When my mother was dying of cancer, our very distant relationship changed, and she gave me some of the love and appreciation that I had always needed. But 9 months didn't heal a lifetime of pain ...

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Awwwww how can anyone think that???? especially with a name like fuzzybear? I am teasing but gosh I love that name.

I never thought that myself about your responses...if anything you are always caring and sincere with so much support and wisdom to offer.

We all have those days hun...they will pass and tomorrow is a new day


Heather

Fuzzy,
I don't think so. Your straight forward and sincere.
Heidu

Every path to a new understanding begins in confusion- Mason Cooley

Thanks Heather and Heidu,

I changed my message a bit to give a little bit of background.

Sorry Heather

Take care,
Fuzzy
xxx

Fuzzy,
I am sorry you didn't get the time you needed with your mom to really heal your relationship.
I still don't think you are too harsh. You actually say alot of the same things I think but don't always say.
Heidu

Every path to a new understanding begins in confusion- Mason Cooley

Thanks, Heidu, this recent "circus" as Serenity put it has woken my monster from her slumber, and she is up and hungry. I guess I will have to sing her a lullaby and hope that it works ...

{{{{{{{{{Fuzzybear}}}}}}}}}}}

aww hun I still don't think you are harsh...except maybe on yourself. Try not to be so hard...you are a great person and I think a lot of you.

I feel bad about your childhood....at least you had a small amount of time - 9 months isn't much though I agree. {{{{{{{{Fuzzybear}}}}}}}}}

I lost my Dad when I was 18 and am still dealing with that 18 years later...I just lost my Mom last Christmas too and am dealing with that as well. It is a never ending game this thing called life isn't it?

You are in my thoughts hun.


Heather

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Fuzzywuzzy}}}}}}}}}}}}}} = I don't find anything about you harsh dear one. I think you are a WONDERFUL, CARING person, and admire you very much!!

<font color=blue>HI FROM PEANUT </font color=blue>

Thanks Heather and Peanut,

Love and {{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}}

Fuzzy
xxx

Oh man, I think maybe I have upset a couple of people on here with one of my posts (in cc - but I felt I needed to say it ...). In fact I agree with Hey Hey that we don't really need much, just a little more love, caring, attention and understanding. I am sorry, Toni, I think I have misquoted you, but I agree with your sentiments.

Goodnight all
xxxx

Hey, Fuzzy, I mean even relationships in real life go up and downs. People in love would argue even fight, working partners would disagree with company strategies, family members get upset with each other and not talk to each other for a while........ happen everyday, everywhere. Remember this forum is a virtual place created for free talking (of course there are limitations on topics, well, I think it's necessary). We are people who need help on our issues, and everyone here is sharing, we had different lives, different experiences before we came here, we are spilling out our pain. On this perspective, I think everyone knows how important to be non-judgemental to one another. You never sound hursh to me, even you do, I understand. So, don't worry too much about this. Just like how much I want to be accepted, I will need to give same amount of acceptance to others, right? I see people here are all very nice, yes, we have problems, but who doesn't? I just feel we are lucky in a way because we have come to realization that we are not perfect, we have flaws, we are mentally imcomplete (so what?)... but we ARE TRYING, we ARE SEEKING HELP to get out and make our lives better. This gives a more significant meaning of our existences. Don't you think so?

I'm very proud of everyone here....... (((((((( Fuzzy)))))))))
((((((((((((more group hugs)))))))))))))))))

Best,
Toni

[i] What our mind can conceive and believe, it will achieve.

Thanks Toni, you are very wise and what you say is so true. This has helped me too with an old wound that has been bugging me (bleeding ...) so I am glad to hear from you on this, and I am very glad you are here,

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Take care,
Fuzzy
xxx

Can I butt in? I think this is an important issue.. Sometimes, don't we have to be honest... right or wrong... to help others, or help ourselves? I don't know what posts you're referring to Fuzzy, I rarely read CC for personal reasons.... but I've never read anything by you that could be viewed harsh... I can tell you something though... to be able to hug and love someone who just attacked you is the last thing most people think of, but isn't anger an emotion as much as jealousy, joy, fear? They come in different looking wrappers, it's easy to love someone who's always happy, but hugs are probably more need when someone is angry... it shows care at a time when someone feels isolated and alone, not cared about.. and I understand well the regret of feeling you've said something you shouldn't have.... all I can say is as you said to someone else.... we are all works in progress... If you're lucky enough to have true friends, they will forgive you the occasional outburst... Absolutely it shakes up the atmosphere... look at the state of our National Forests... we've pampered them, coddled them til they are overgrown with combustible fuels .... Can you see how hiding our thoughts and feelings are like that pampering? One day, lightening strikes, and because we've allowed the forest (or relationship) to become dense with overgrowth, we have uncontrollable disasters. In a healthy forest (or relationship) we allow several minifires to occur naturally.. thus preventing holocaust. What do you thiink?

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"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but rising every time we fall." Confucius

Hi nowhere,
Your forest theory is very impressive... great thought... Can't agree you more.....
((((((nowhere))))))))

Best,
Toni

[i] What our mind can conceive and believe, it will achieve.

((((((((((( Toni ))))))))))

TY, I use Mother Nature alot to try and understand human nature... don't know if it's accurate or not, but seems to make sense.......

"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but rising every time we fall." Confucius

Very interesting with the forest. It totally makes sense.
Heidu

Every path to a new understanding begins in confusion- Mason Cooley

Thanks Nowhere Your forest analogy is great, and I totally agree!!!!

Take care,
Fuzzy
xxx

I couldn't agree with your analogy more. Too much pampering and cushioning of life leaves it soft and uninteresting as well as unable to withstand the inevitable difficulties.

I really like your forrest analogy also, (((Darrel))) = I think the problem comes in when we are put thru the ringer as young children, at a time when we don't have the mental vocabulary or emotional range/experience to process what's going on. Then all the 'hardship' (read trauma) is cause us to inculcate fear, insecurity & distrust. Just some 'thots' - XO, Peanut

<font color=blue>HI FROM PEANUT </font color=blue>

Thanks Heidu... I think the tricky part is controlling those minifires... let them burn, but contain them somewhat... don't you think?

"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but rising every time we fall." Confucius

In one hand a match.. in the other a bucket (((((((((Fuzzy)))))))) I love your name too

"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but rising every time we fall." Confucius

Yepp, I agree Nowhere. It only takes a match to start a huge fire so you gotta be a little cautious.
Heidu

"Rabbit's clever," said Pooh thoughtfully.
"Yes," said Piglet, "Rabbit's clever."
"And he has a Brain."
"Yes," said Piglet, "Rabbit has a Brain."
There was a long silence.
"I suppose," said Pooh, "that that's why he never understands anything."

looks like we were on the same page there.
Heidu

"Rabbit's clever," said Pooh thoughtfully.
"Yes," said Piglet, "Rabbit's clever."
"And he has a Brain."
"Yes," said Piglet, "Rabbit has a Brain."
There was a long silence.
"I suppose," said Pooh, "that that's why he never understands anything."

Yeah... it's like the garden analogy.... our life is the garden... water it, let the sun shine on it, but you still need a little worm poop to make it all work out

"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but rising every time we fall." Confucius

And very good "thots" too Peanut.. while we're out starting fires to keep in mind some things do get burned...

"Our greatest glory is not in never falling, but rising every time we fall." Confucius