"You may never be thin again"

That is a sad story. I used to have GREAT Kegel muscles and I used to be able to bring my then husband to orgasm without his moving, by using my muscles alone. All along I had urinary stress incontinence - I am structurally malformed. Then we separated, and I stopped practicing, completely forgetting that these are not just genital, these are URO-genitary muscles. It has been three years. Now I resumed practicing but I cannot squeeze well any more. This makes me very sad.

That is quite a decent weight loss! I would like that. I am 187 now and I would love to be 173, really. My mood is greatly improved by walking, too, but no weight loss. Ironically, when I was waiting for the doctor in the lobby yesterday, I picked up a copy of WebMD magazine with an article on... weight loss through walking! But it does not work for me, and I think I am figuring out why: it does not challenge my body. I grew up in a big European city with lots of public transit and lots of walking between transit stations and downtown, and I am used to walking FAST. I have fast legs. I recently placed 7th out of 38 people in a walking competition at the crack of dawn when I could barely move: I was so sleepy. I remember how my mother and I were at a sea resort and in the evening everyone walked in a park, except that everyone walked slowly and peacefully and we zipped through back and forth. Someone even asked us what business prompted us. There was no business - we just could not have a different pace, that is how our legs moved us, and we enjoyed. So I guess my muscles are all used to this activity, and it does not provide a challenge, so I should heed the doctor's advice and add the elliptical and try my own idea of a bike.

NOW THE REALLY GOOD THING is that she said that all things considering, she does not see me getting any heavier.

Its good that she doesn't see you getting any heavier

Don't know how to say this without offending... 187 doesn't sound like you are very overweight - I guess it depends on how tall you are...

I don't mean to be rude or discouraging, I just got the impression from all your posts on weight that you were larger - my bad, sorry

Are you being realistic to say you need to loose 40 lb or do you think that your self image is still a bit messed up (you said you had a ED when you were younger)

Hope you can prove the doctor wrong and get to a healthy weight that you are happy with

Hello Hamster,

U R too intelligent to be letting this doc guy get under your skin. He has his beliefs, which sound odd, and is unlikely to change them, despite sound scientific evidence. All you can say is that you tried! Pity the fool................

oooops, i meant to post this on your other thread!

I totally agree. Who the hell is he to tell you this! Last year a doctor made a similar sarcastic remark about me quitting smoking. Well, I haven't had a smoke in 4 months AND I was able to lose aprox 40 lbs in the past 2 years.

I'm not there yet, but I'll be damned if someone makes the decision for me as to what I weigh!! What audacity!

Thanks for asking. I am not tall: I am 5'41/2''. "40 lbs extra" comes from BMI tables, nothing to do with self image. But right now I would gladly take being 160 - I look decent at 160.

Does couch to 5K have an Android app?

probably search for "c25k"

we could encourage each other!!!

............whoa Nelly, that is a lot of weight loss in a short period of time morethingswrong....... careful!

I have found that running has really been the best for me for weight loss and maintenance. Just started up again and am trying to get to 5K. We can cyberjob together!

A doctor once told me " its more important to be stable than thin" Yep I found a new Doctor .

Not something a person like me needs to hear ( history of ED)

Im on day 14 of a diet and I have lost 25lbs ... so I finally feel like there is hope for me and my self image etc.

Did you mean to say "cyberjog"? If you do not mind my asking, what is your running speed?

Yep, cyberjog! My eyes are failing me, too much staring at the screen.

I am not sure how fast I run as I have never tried to figure it out. I do have a watch that supposedly tells me this, so I guess I should try it. My guess is that I am slow! I run in the forest here as there is an extensive trail system. I bet if I run into a cougar or bear, I will run a lot faster!

Its good that she doesn't see you getting any heavier

Don't know how to say this without offending... 187 doesn't sound like you are very overweight - I guess it depends on how tall you are...

I don't mean to be rude or discouraging, I just got the impression from all your posts on weight that you were larger - my bad, sorry

Are you being realistic to say you need to lose 40 lb or do you think that your self image is still a bit messed up (you said you had a ED when you were younger)