[Setso]

i never fit in and liek im gplaying guild wars 2 theres so many girls and i try to talk to them and they ALWAYS ignore me
and this morning i sent a tell to one and she didnt reply, i sent her like 10 message and then she put me on ignore list
wth do they think why dont they at least have courtesy to say they dont want to talk

and no girl ever wnats to talk to me they all ignore me and say im creepy but im really a good person and hten they get a jerk bf who treats em bad and complain why they dont have a nice guy

maybe if i kill myself today they will understand what i go through cuz i know this is going ot my life foreverf os i dont care anymore

[Vigodits]

It is real dicey finding compatible friends on the internet. You have to go through a lot of people to find a good fit. As long as I have known women, they seem always seemed to like the jerks. I have had many a tear soaked shoulder from women whose man was a jerk. I would pat their backs and dry tears and watch them return. One even questioned why her man couldn't be nice like me. Go figure.
If you kill yourself, the mourning that you expect will probably not happen. Instead people will think what a waste of a life, or what was he thinking.
My suggestion is you seek companionship in the world of the real. That way you as a person can be presented. It is not easy.
It wasn't until I was 25 that I met my wife. And then only because I had stopped looking. Twenty-five years later I was divorced and for the last 8 years I have been looking. Difference now is the women with the bad guys have been with them so long they are settled in their ways. They don't like it, but they are not going to change.
Hang in there I'm pullin' for you. We're all in this together.

[Setso]

thats horrible!

forget it i dont want to live in this world anymore im gonna die today
i hat ethis world and eveyrthing messed up

[Vigodits]

The point is why do you want a woman who equates love with being treated badly? Aim higher.

Why would you want to kill yourself? Look how much love making you will miss. And believe me you will find the love of your life. Just stop looking so hard.

I am thinking you are under 30. It is hard to get a handle on you without any bio.

[Setso]

Originally Posted by Vigodits

The point is why do you want a woman who equates love with being treated badly? Aim higher.

Why would you want to kill yourself? Look how much love making you will miss. And believe me you will find the love of your life. Just stop looking so hard.

I am thinking you are under 30. It is hard to get a handle on you without any bio.

how can i if they all ignore me??

[faerie_moon_x]

Hi Setso, my husband and I are also playing GW2 and I have been playing MMOs for 12 years, so I can give you some advice on this point.

First off, don't trust everyone who says "I'm a girl" on the internet for two reasons. I know plenty of male players who use the "I'm a girl" to get special treatment (like help with quests, free crafted items, even gold...) And second off, any actual girl running around on a game saying, "I'm a girl gamer," you also need to be wary of them. Some girls like to announce they are girls because they are looking for specific male attention.... as in... lots of it and in certain ways.... but also to use her "femaleness" to use that attention to be mean. Or they are just doing it to feel somehow supperior. (This doesn't mean all of them, but you should be cautious of anyone who is very vocal about being female.) Most mature girls and women I know who play games never say they are, and if someone calls them a "he" they don't freak out: "OMG I'm FEMALE!" Nope, it doesn't matter. You can call me "he, him, dude, guy, man," and I don't care.

Next, a lot of people on the internet are rude and do not understand common etiquet or courtisey. You never know the age of anyone even if they tell you their age. And in the gaming community there is a lot of immaturity. So don't take it personally if someone doesn't respond to a whisper or a tell, just chalk it up to the fact that they are either AFK, they are busy and not paying attention, or they are in an area where chat is heavy and maybe they didn't see it.

Next: "I sent her 10 messages and she didn't reply and then she put me on her ignore list." Okay, first off you need to think about what you said to her start out with. Was it along the lines of "Hi, you're a girl and I want a girlfriend." Or was it more like "Hey, do you want to help me with this skill point event?" If it was #1, there is a huge chance she's not going to respond to you, and most girls won't. If it's the second, then you can assume either a) she maybe didn't see it, try 1 more time or b) she's rude and just move on. I don't know how old you are, but there is a certain scene in the movie Swingers with Vince Vaughn where a guy leaves like 30 messages on a girl's voice mail, and she finally calls him and says "Don't call me anymore."

Last, "I'm a nice guy and no girl will ever love me and only go for a jerk." No no no. Relationships don't work like this. Rejection happens a lot more often than acceptance. You can be the nicest guy on the planet but if a girl isn't interested she isn't interested. Aren't there girls you're not interested in? Rushing things doesn't work. And if you give in to this you could easily become the "doormat" boyfriend. You know girls can be jerks who treat their boyfriends like crap, too. And, focusing so hard on getting a girl isn't how it works. Because you focus in on one person who isn't interested and people who are interested just walk right passed you, and so there are all these girls running around going "I really liked that guy but he was only interested in that b*** who treats him like crap and wasn't interested in him."

So, tips for making friends in a game.... 1) Join a guild. 2) Join parties and be relaxed, confidant and yourself. 3) If you join the guild, then join the forum and be an active and helpful member. 4) Level a craft and offer to craft things for friends or guildmates. 5) Don't start flame wars and keep too much negativity to yourself, it's a game world, after all. If you're depressed it's better to just keep it to yourself on a game. It's better to wait until you're good friends with someone before revealing that. 6) Don't expect someone to be your girlfriend, just try to make friends. This is also true because it is a game world and not necessarily a place you will meet someone who lives near you. Get to know them and if it happens it happens and if not it wasn't meant to be.

[faerie_moon_x]

By the way, Setso, I didn't have my first boyfriend until I was 19. And he was a "nice guy." Very nice, actually, until he went to the army and dumped me, which then I met an *** who I married because I fell into the "No one will ever love me," trap. Four years later I was divorced but found my husband who I did meet online in a game. But, I was 25 years old, so it was easier to close the gap of long distance.

[Victoria'smom]

The game is just starting it's still in the pre-release stage. A lot more people will be on soon. I think it may be that you are coming on to strong. Send 1 message for each of there messages. I think chat is done with more casual players.

[faerie_moon_x]

Originally Posted by Miguel'smom

The game is just starting it's still in the pre-release stage. A lot more people will be on soon. I think it may be that you are coming on to strong. Send 1 message for each of there messages. I think chat is done with more casual players.

^^ I also second this. I forget it is pre-release, so in a few days there will be more people. And, more people for the next few weeks in general. And this is also prime time for people to decide they hate it and quit, so until the population stabalizes, it will be hard to make friends.

Oh, another thought about GW2 that you don't have with other MMOs... overflow servers. Might make it hard to make friends outside of a guild, because people you meet on overflow you might never meet again.

[Setso]

no i freaking hate gw2 its hard as hell and stupid

and im sick of swtor and theres ntohting for me

games were the onlything to lvie for cuz i cant do anything irl

but i cant even game cuz i suck at everythign

its best i die

[addict8844]

If you hate this world, change the world you're in.

[faerie_moon_x]

Okay so now is the time you need to get yourself to the ER. Do you have any one at home with you? If you can't get to the ER you need to call the suicide hotline right now. 1-800-273-8255 (TALK) This is absolutely serious and you need to either go to the ER or call, okay?

Suicide is not a solution, suicide is a demon inside your head telling you lies. It's an evil thing and it won't solve anything. Please, please, please get some help. Suicide is just a lie that depression tells you, it's not real and it will pass. But you should get some help from real live people ASAP. Because you don't have to fight this alone.

[Setso]

i m alraedy dead
i now know that im never gona have a good job or college or gf

and my whole life will be like this and everyday parents are like ur wasting ur life and i tried everythigna nd i nothing is gonna work out for me so bassically im just waiting ot di eanyways

i have nothign to look forward to ever and i hate life

[Vigodits]

And how many years of life experience tells you this? What is your proof?. Your brain is distorting reality and your pain it telling you to believe it.

Help exists. Try believing that as much as you do your irrational thoughts.

BTW, I am not all that fond of life myself. It is all I know and therefore better than the alternative. I deal with it. One thing experience has taught me is that everything changes, that bad will turn to better.

[faerie_moon_x]

Originally Posted by Setso

i m alraedy dead
i now know that im never gona have a good job or college or gf

and my whole life will be like this and everyday parents are like ur wasting ur life and i tried everythigna nd i nothing is gonna work out for me so bassically im just waiting ot di eanyways

i have nothign to look forward to ever and i hate life

No, these are the lies of the suicide demons. They think they know everything but they are wrong. They will sit back and tell you that you are nothing, worthless, and never get anywhere. But that is all lies! Lies!

Can you see the future? Are you a psychic that can see the future so perfectly and exactly? If so then who needs college you can become a famous psychic. Well, I don't think you are. And so, how do you know you'll never amount to anything? The only way that happens if you give up. The only way that happens if you listen to those demons in your head.

Suicidal thoughts are not real. They are lies! They are the most dangerous lies. The pain you feel is real. Depression is very real. You are not wasting your life if you are working toward healing. You're creating your life! All the goals you want to reach require that you fight for your life! You have to fight it! You have to!

You don't listen to anyone who puts you down. You're not wasting your life. I read somewhere else you're only 23. Trust me, 23 is young. You're not too old for college. I went back when I was 27 to vocational school. My cousin is 30 and she just went back to comunnity college, after overcoming sever depression and social anxiety. She doesn't have a boyfriend, either, and still lives at home. And she's 30! But she's not giving up because 30 is young.

You want a girlfriend, but now is the time for healing you. As healing begins people will come into your life. When you're depressed you live in the fog. You live in the storm. When you're having suicidal thoughts you're in the middle of the thunder cloud with rain pouring all around you and the lightning is trying to knock you right out of the sky. Of course you can't see anything bright and sunny in the future because you're in the middle of the dark clouds! But you are stronger, and you can do it.

Please, please, please go to the ER or call the suicide line. Please. You are not dead. You're alive. Don't listen to the lies. Live!

[Setso]

I know it's gonna be like this cuz it's always the same pattern
I Truro work or college and have breakdown
I been in treatment 7 years an nothing happening

U guys say it's not gonna be like this but u don't even know me, u won't listen to me yet I'm the one living my life

Parents already applying me for disability and trying to send me to a facility

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[faerie_moon_x]

Originally Posted by Setso

I know it's gonna be like this cuz it's always the same pattern
I Truro work or college and have breakdown
I been in treatment 7 years an nothing happening

U guys say it's not gonna be like this but u don't even know me, u won't listen to me yet I'm the one living my life

Parents already applying me for disability and trying to send me to a facility

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No, I'm not living your life, but I've fought with depression, bipolar, psychosis, suicide, and SI since I was 12 years old. I know the lies of these things. I do hear you, Setso, and I"m telling you exactly what you don't want to hear.

At 12 years old I wanted to die. I thought my life was meaningless and worhtless, so I put a loaded gun to my head and pulled the trigger. It jammed. At 15 I took a half of bottle of pills and my automatically vomited them back up. At 24 I tried to hang myself in the basement because I was in a crap relationship and I thought death was the only way out. And SI. Bruises, scars, pain, self-loathing, beat the crap out of myself for being a worthless piece of crap... Oh yeah, I know all those things, Setso. I know them very well.

If your treatment isn't working you need different treatment.

And you can't be sent away forever to live in a facility. That doesn't happen any more unless you commit some type of crime. But going to a short in-treatment is probably a good idea.

Look at this forum! All of us are living with bipolar everyday and we are here because we say "I am not giving up today." Healing has to start with you. Before the meds, before the pdoc, before T... it has to start in you. Just the fact you posted means you have something of a fight left in you. Even if it is just a speck of dust. One ember can start a forest fire.

[Vigodits]

Okay you are right. I don't know you. I'll shut my mouth and leave you alone. Obviously the depths of your insight and knowledge of the future are beyond anything this old man can give. Sorry to have annoyed you.