Why can’t I go forward

Weight is my main issue now. It has an impact on my self confidence, social life, and being the person I want to be. I want to shed these pounds but have been wanting to do it for a long time. I know what I have to do, I have planned it I just can’t get myself started.

Recently I have been depressed over past two weeks cause I was having trouble getting this weight loss drug contrave. I finally got it and started it today (or yesterday Tuesday). I said to myself this will be my jump start and I will get to start this long journey. I’m now reflecting and brought to near tears in all the stuff I missed out on, the lack of photos, my isolation cause I was ashamed to show my bigger self outside my doors. Hell it sometimes affected my going to the gym or mma school (which I both love and miss considerably).

I’m now writing this with a possible sciatica problem that erupted last last week. I have to lose the weight. I know I have to. I want to. I need to.
But this is like the streets autobiography poem. I keep falling in the same hole, but it is still difficult to get out of and I keep taking the same damm street.

What do I need? Do I need a stronger push? A health scare? I have the want, but I can’t start the do. Someone help.

Maybe not depressed but bummed out.

Whew, I know that struggle with getting started all too well.

Don't beat yourself up. You can do this!
Maybe starting with something small could help?
Do you have anyone who could help your or join you with any of it, maybe even an accountability buddy?

I have become a grossly large skeleton with some - not -much - bits of crepey skin. I have to find methods of building my appetite.

Before this weight loss, though, I had to adapt to a low-calorie regimented diabetic diet and that’s what caused the drop in weight - over 60 lbs. - in my life. More than intended. Four light meals per day with an occasional snack. I never thought to waver.

Loosing weight is much harder, I’m sure, than sticking to a diet. But it may be a start? I don’t know...

Sometimes you can't wait for the motivation to come to you because it may never arrive - sometimes you need to give yourself a push and do those healthy things (exercise, eating healthy food and portions, etc) even if it feels like the last thing you want to do. Eventually it will become a habit if you stick to it. I've never needed to lose weight but I do exercise for the mental health benefits. Physical changes in appearance like increased muscle are just bonuses for me.

I have access to hundreds of free workout routines that you can do in the comfort of your own home, which puts the kibosh on the whole "I couldn't make it to the gym today" excuse. If you are ever interested in that, please feel free to let me know. I'd be happy to hook you up with some beginner friendly routines.

It appears from the outside as if you have gotten yourself into a helpless way of thinking, and are hoping that a weight loss drug or another person will save you. Yes, support groups and weight loss medication can help, but ultimately you need to do the work. If this is truly important to you, you will make the time. If not, staying stuck is the other option. I hope you choose what is healthier for you.

Sometimes I wonder if wellbutrin is really helping me shed the pounds or I just believed it would so strongly that I finally had the will power. I have been trying to start this diet since spring and I actually gained some in the summer. I was about disgusted and ready to give up. I bought a couple of more sets of fat boy clothes for work. Then I started the wellbutrin September 1st and was convinced that it would help me and this was my shot. I managed to stick to it so far and have lost 25# in about 7 weeks. Maybe the wellbutrin really is working to help me. Maybe the contrave really will work to help you. But first you have to believe it will.

Just. Do It.

Everytime you sit down and roam PC or write a thread , Add that time up and you can do the same amount of exercise.

My husband just lost 29 lbs in 4-5 weeks... Just by changing his diet , smaller portions and cut out the carbs, He ISNT able to cardio exercise at this point since he has recently has to use oxygen But he can use handheld weights which he using everytime a commercial comes on tv. It adds up quick.

Anyone can do anything for 15 mins, Just get up and do it .

Sometimes we want to Blame Bipolar for everything But that is a cop out in my opinion... You can and will put you mind into the effort regardless of having Bipolare or not.

Not being rude... Just blunt.

I never find you rude. I appreciate your posts. Sometimes I need a kick in the arse.

Lack of motivation is a big problem for many of us, I find that just getting out of the
house a couple of days in a row helps to get the juices flowing.
Even if it doesn't get you to the gym it will slowly build your motivation.
A good outdoor hobby can be a big help, for me it has always been fishing and probably
always will be but lately I have found another hobby that enjoy a great deal and it has
been getting me out of the house almost everyday. That's a great way to start building more motivation.

I’ll kick you in the @$s. Go work out. You already said Contrave helped you eat only 1/2 of a dinner.

It did. Took a nap that’s why was mia. Think I will and back isn’t hurting.

Hey, I’ll tell you what my doctor told me.

He said, it’s not your fault!

The standard American diet has too many carbs. This causes your body to release too much insulin. This causes you to partition anything you eat to the fat stores instead of energy. The more fat you store, the more insulin resistant you become. So your body makes more insulin! This is the fat storage hormone. It is a vicious spiral.

And it is not your fault.

He said the only way to reverse this problem is to eat low carb.

He is at burn fat not sugar online and on fb. He doesn’t sell anything. He is just trying to help his patients.

I hear what your saying. You want to lose weight you want feel good in your body. You want a healthy body. You want to not be ashamed of what you like in your body. You want to enjoy what a healthy body can do.

Many of these are admirable goals, to be sure. The most important of these being health, which is a priority. What I am seeing in some these others goals is some amount self-judgement, which is not healthy for the mind or body. It is nice to feel embarrassed to be photos? But why ever be photos? Should a person with an ugly face not take pictures? Should anyone ever be called out for having a below average looking face? As far as faces go, should self worth be apart anyone self-esteem?

I am certainly not hear to tell you not to exercise, eat right, and aim for health. That is not my point, but be careful how you are thinking about the things you are doing.

My thinking is flawed. I don’t know what I should be thinking.

IMO, the standard American diet has too much everything. As far as weight loss, it all comes down to calories burned versus calories consumed. Laws of physics don't have exceptions. The ratio of fat, carbs and protein can make a difference in how you feel including whether or not you feel satisfied after eating. Within the ratio, the choices you make to get the right nutrients and enough bulk to satisfy you makes a difference. If you feel like you are starving, you probably won't stick to the diet. If you feel tired and run down, you probably won't stick to the diet. If your face breaks out like a teenager's, you probably won't stick to the diet.

How you feel determines what you do. What you believe plays a big part in how you feel also.

There can be some change in calories burned due to changes in metabolism but that is usually pretty tweaky, like under 10%. If your metabolism dropped 25% you could still function but with noticeable deficiencies like staggering.

Anyway, IMO the best diet for you is the one you can stick to. There is no one-size-fits-all. I like the 5:2 IF + caloric restriction, which a lot of people think is insane. Works for me, but not for them. I know that it is recommended that you lose slower than I do. That doesn't work for me for purely mental reasons. If I am not seeing progress all the time I feel like there isn't any and give up. Knowing that I should be patient and the changes will come should enable me to stay the course but it just doesn't. Strange how we can realize our wrong thinking and not be able to change it.

I wish you well with the weight loss drug and the weight loss goals. I know how very, very hard it is sometimes to get started. I really believe you can do this. Sending big hugs.

I'm going to drag your *** to the gym, boogie!

(Just kidding.)

Coming from someone with an eating disorder, it doesn’t matter how much weight you lose if you already have a low self esteem. You can look like a model and still hate yourself. Trust me