How do you handle the feelings?

I'm new to PC and I guess I just don't know where to put all these emotions. I feel so vulnerable and ashamed. I have only told my whole story to one person, my T. I started to post some of my deepest secrets, because I read somewhere that "your secrets make you sick". I believe in the end this will be a tool to my recovery, but in the meantime, I feel exposed, ashamed, and scared. I don't know what to do with all these feelings so that I can continue to function. Too many people need me for me to fall apart...

just post when u feel comfortable, can't stop. i believe you'll find others here who may be able to relate to your feelings. pc's a very supportive community. we're here for you and glad u found us!

Just feel the feeling for what it is. Once you have felt the emotion, move on to feeling something else much like you would do if you were watching tv and didn't like what was on and changed the channel. I learned this in DBT therapy. It is hard at first but with practice it works. You can also journal to help get out the emotions you are feeling. Good luck to you.

Sweetie, you say you feel shame ~ BELIEVE ME, there are others, me included, who have done things that would make your hair stand on end -- so you don't need to feel shame!!! We aren't THAT bad of people -- we've just been hurt - and perhaps we said and/or did some things that we're not proud of, but we don't deserve to go to prison for it or to be put in the middle of town and stone to death!!! lol

All of us have felt vulnerable at one time or another but we had to get over it in order to talk to our therapist. Once we got over that, then we were better able to share here. This is a great place to share because no one knows us -- the people are GREAT -- and they truly want to help!!! So don't be afraid - I wish I'd know this place existed before now -- I haven't been a member very long. I sure could have used this place several years ago!!! I just didn't have sense enough to look!! lol

Post only what you feel comfortable with -- perhaps the rest will come later. Take care and God bless. Hugs, Lee

Can't stop, I agree with others, that you might feel safer telling little bits of your story, then putting it away for a while and doing soothing activities, until you next feel ready to look at and share another piece. It's helpful to have tools to help make yourself feel safe again, after examining the hard stuff. We've all done things that we regret. It's what it is to be human, and the mistakes are infinitely forgiveable. Those experiences deepen and burnish our souls, and make us more compassionate toward others and their frailties.

I heard this from Wynona? Judd being interviewed on Oprah and it really spoke to me because I had been discovering the same thing in my own life, but she put it like this..."lean in to the pain"...that is so very true to me, seems I spent all this time running from the fear of the pain instead of just allowing myself to feel some it. I don't have all the answers, want to be healed completely from a brokenheart lingering for 3.5years now so I relate. I would like advice/help also. My heart is so soft and full of love for people.

madisgram is so right, for me pouring out my feelings helps so much, I hope it does the same for you. PC is a really supportive place and for the short time that I have been a member I got such love and wise advice here. Please keep us updated and a big welcome to you.

For the first time ever that I can remember anyway I actually let myself feel the emotions and just breathed my way through to the next, I was in my therapist office but I did it with out taking too many meds or hurting myself and I have to say I am starting to think that concentrating on your breathing helps... for me it has and this is after five yrs in sessions that I actually finally did it, not saying it works all the time but I find lying down and taking in every breath seems to help calm at least... Hope this helps! Be Well
J