[Heather11]

Im trying very hard to keep my feelings in check with positive affirmations and self talk but it works infrequently. I dont know what else to do. Im having to hold back tears a lot at work and home. I just have this natural teary emotional response. It shows all over my face. I turn red.
I'm swirling with anxiety about dating, money, work, family,parenting. I'm trying not to obsess about where a new relationship is heading, or of it is already done and he's just withdrawing. It has potential but now I don't know what's happening if anything, maybe it's all in my mind.
I have some moments of strength but mostly it's a fight.
How do you get through the day?Right now I can't wait to take my sleeping pill and go to bed! Sometimes that doesn't even quiet my mind.

[spondiferous]

I can see you're pretty new to PC, so welcome, Heather. It sounds like you're pretty overwhelmed right now. Could this be what's triggering the crying? Do you have any way of calming yourself down? Doing something soothing?

[Leed]

Heather, is there ANY way you can get into therapy? Believe me, it would be the ideal solution to your problem. A therapist can help you deal with this severe anxiety and panic. I went thru therapy as I suffered from it too, as well as severe depression, and therapy was extremely beneficial for me!!!

If you cannot manage therapy, then PLEASE talk with your medical doctor AT LENGTH about this, as he can help you too! Let him know exactly what you go thru during the day, and what happens! Yes, I know -- no one wants to take medication, but there are times when it's ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY in order to get thru life! After awhile, things calm down, or perhaps you can manage therapy.

I wish you the very best. Please keep us posted, okay? God bless and take care. Hugs, Lee

[gary290]

Hi Heather, nice to meet you. I agree with Leed. Going to therapy sounds ideal. Maybe having the doctor/psychiatrist tweak your medications would be helpful. Life can be scary and overwhelming at times. I've found for me that talk therapy and medication management can really help a lot. It sounds like you're working hard on the self talk and affirmations - that's great! I wish you the best.

Gary290

[Heather11]

I have phone consults and emails with my therapist. She's known me for about 20 years! It's just a constant struggle to fight the anxiety and emotions from showing. I was doing so well about a month ago. I FELT happy for an extended time and then life kicks in and drains me. I know I always get through but it's the fight that is so hard to keep up.
Thanks for replying.

Originally Posted by Leed

Heather, is there ANY way you can get into therapy? Believe me, it would be the ideal solution to your problem. A therapist can help you deal with this severe anxiety and panic. I went thru therapy as I suffered from it too, as well as severe depression, and therapy was extremely beneficial for me!!!

If you cannot manage therapy, then PLEASE talk with your medical doctor AT LENGTH about this, as he can help you too! Let him know exactly what you go thru during the day, and what happens! Yes, I know -- no one wants to take medication, but there are times when it's ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY in order to get thru life! After awhile, things calm down, or perhaps you can manage therapy.

I wish you the very best. Please keep us posted, okay? God bless and take care. Hugs, Lee

Originally Posted by Heather11

Im trying very hard to keep my feelings in check with positive affirmations and self talk but it works infrequently. I dont know what else to do. Im having to hold back tears a lot at work and home. I just have this natural teary emotional response. It shows all over my face. I turn red.
I'm swirling with anxiety about dating, money, work, family,parenting. I'm trying not to obsess about where a new relationship is heading, or of it is already done and he's just withdrawing. It has potential but now I don't know what's happening if anything, maybe it's all in my mind.
I have some moments of strength but mostly it's a fight.
How do you get through the day?Right now I can't wait to take my sleeping pill and go to bed! Sometimes that doesn't even quiet my mind.

Hi Heather!
You have been given some great guidance by some awesome members here and I agree with them.
I had talk therapy and that really helped me alot. I also read alot about anxiety and depression and did my best to understand my responses to certain situations in order to better cope with them.
I was on meds for a few months, but ultimately I realized I had to do something else.
I can feel my anxiety rise and I immediatley start working on my coping skills and usually find my favorite music to listen to....music always helps me!
To be honest, I think I will fight this the rest of my life. It's when I least expect it that it hits. I am hoping the anxiety will go away completely in the next few months but who knows for sure.
Hope I was of some assistance.
Good luck Heather and welcome to the PC family!

[BonnieG2010]

Looks like when anxiety knocks, about any issue, you add to it all other possible reasons for anxiety. Instead of trying to think clearly about that one problem and find some solutions you add other issues that may go wrong.

Now, believe me, everything can go wrong, potentially.
It is our guidance, our faith and our hope that everything will turn out well (have you seen 'shakespeare in love'?) that lead us to positive outcomes.

Yes a T would definitely help. In the while try and face one problem at a time. Saying to yourself that you will solve it. And keeping other problems away from that one. Do not add problem to problem or it may be too much

[almostthere]

Hi Heather,

I know how u feel and the struggle you're going through. All of us feel lioke that and that's why we come to this website to share without being judged.

I'm a man and always thought of myself as a very strong person capable of handling everthing that came my way. However, as I got older I was challenged by adversity the likes I had never known in my entire life.
I had to seek therapy and was disappointed when after fourteen years of seeing T's, and being om medication, I wasn't getting, or feeling, any better. I stopped going about a year and a half ago, I stopped taking my meds but recently I was faced with another challenge and have made an appointment to c a T this coming Thurs to give it another try, but this time I want to approach it with an open mind and some optimism.

GOD bless u Heather and I wish u all the best in your journey to find happiness... U deserve it!!

Originally Posted by Heather11

Im trying very hard to keep my feelings in check with positive affirmations and self talk but it works infrequently. I dont know what else to do. Im having to hold back tears a lot at work and home. I just have this natural teary emotional response. It shows all over my face. I turn red.
I'm swirling with anxiety about dating, money, work, family,parenting. I'm trying not to obsess about where a new relationship is heading, or of it is already done and he's just withdrawing. It has potential but now I don't know what's happening if anything, maybe it's all in my mind.
I have some moments of strength but mostly it's a fight.
How do you get through the day?Right now I can't wait to take my sleeping pill and go to bed! Sometimes that doesn't even quiet my mind.

[Perna]

I would try to get out of your head more, into physical or less emotional things. Have you ever tried practicing living in the moment (instead of worrying about the future, which you can't know or change; it doesn't exist)? 5 Inspirations for Being in the Moment

[me2001]

girl... THANK YOU! no matter what i try i have realized because i say it will not work, it wont. the affirmations, the notes on my mirrors, my cellphone, and anywher to help me remember. Still don't fix it... why... because we have to "try and fall and get up..." and do that every day 100 times a day until it is over (for the day at least) until it becomes just a little easier.

At least that is what i a feeding myself right.