I just get a little drunk every time I'm overwhelmed, oh boy, it helps so much!

When I'm a little drunk, I can actually talk to people, maintain eye contact, smile, laugh, make a joke, deal with all the douchebags that surround me. Everybody in my life is a d-bag.... some more douchy than others.... wait... some are not.

I don't know, I can cope with life a little better when I'm drunk just a little, I have my senses all the time, I don't overdo it.

I thought they were my friends, but they're not really my friends at all. 'friend' is a word that is so over-used and abused these days, I'm sick of it.

[kaliope]

i agree with you about the word friend...that is why i just have acquaintances.

i hope youre not drinking EVERY time you get overwhelmed...or that you at least dont get overwhelmed a lot. that could get out of hand...or at least not getting drunk. a drink or two may not be too bad, but could still lead to problems...not recommended.

take care of yourself.

I feel like a normal person with just a little bit of booze, I don't overthink things, I live for the moment, I can express my emotions to someone without feeling guilty. I did something I needed to do today, and I also learnt something.

Hm-m-m-m-m... Bro I don't know about this. I understand what you're saying. I used to have a similar experience. I was SO much more at ease & "with it" after a drink. (I stopped drinking once I went on antidepressants.) The problem is, as others have pointed out, this can become a habit. So I'm not saying: "don't do it." But do be careful.

I have only one logical explanation, other people's brains are drunk always, they don't need a dose

Originally Posted by brokenentity

I have only one logical explanation, other people's brains are drunk always, they don't need a dose

Just speaking from experience, drinking is only a way to cope with real life issues that are bothering you and you don't know any other way to deal with them.

[bigblackdog]

“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind.”
― Bernard M. Baruch

They don't matter. You do because you are you and saying how you feel.

Problem is a little bit of drinking has a tendency to become slightly more drinking.

Alcohol doesn't fix your problems it hides them for a little while and in the case of severe alcoholics spreads that pain onto the people around them.

I'll keep it in control guys but I amazed at how bolder I was after some drinking, I did what I had to do, and I did it well.

Originally Posted by brokenentity

I'll keep it in control guys

I'm sure more than one alcoholic has started off with those exact same words.

Thing is just like other drugs the body develops a tolerance so where one drink used to give you that feeling, suddenly you need two and then three. Next thing you know you're drinking a bottle of vodka a night to get the same feeling you used to get from a couple of shots.

Seems to me you're using alcohol to become a person you feel you want to be. (Your perceptions are also skewed when you've been drinking so what may be confidant and fun to you may be abrasive and annoying to the people around you.)

Wouldn't it be better to work on yourself and change those things rather than relying on a crutch that may just make things worse?

Originally Posted by BeteNoire

I'm sure more than one alcoholic has started off with those exact same words.

Thing is just like other drugs the body develops a tolerance so where one drink used to give you that feeling, suddenly you need two and then three. Next thing you know you're drinking a bottle of vodka a night to get the same feeling you used to get from a couple of shots.

Seems to me you're using alcohol to become a person you feel you want to be. (Your perceptions are also skewed when you've been drinking so what may be confidant and fun to you may be abrasive and annoying to the people around you.)

Wouldn't it be better to work on yourself and change those things rather than relying on a crutch that may just make things worse?

How can I do that?

When I was a kid, I was bullied, so I had to hide, as an adult, everyone around me wants to hurt my feelings and push me (Ok, I admit I am sensitive)

You know I don't know the answer to that. I do know alcohol is rarely the answer. It's a band-aid that covers up the wound but doesn't heal it maybe even makes it worse.

If you can be this person while under the influence then there's a good chance you can be that person without. It might take a lot of work but you won't know if you keep hiding.

Why does alcohol help you so much? Does it make you feel braver? Do you care less about the consequences of what you do when you've been drinking?

[avlady]

Drinking alcohol is not the answer to problems. You need more and more as time goes by. I know i ruined my life from drinking alcohol. I was to the point of death after drinking alot one day after another. Thankfully my family and friends got me to a hospital even though i fought it the whole way.

Originally Posted by BeteNoire

Why does alcohol help you so much? Does it make you feel braver? Do you care less about the consequences of what you do when you've been drinking?

I have no idea, I don't overthink things, I just am a little more spontaneous and I can talk to people without worrying about what might happen next. I don't really like talking to people much either. But my body language is so much better when I'm drunk, I'm completely in control of my wits, but I walk with my head held high and make eye contact with anyone who tries to make eye contact, when I usually just shy and cower away.

Originally Posted by brokenentity

I have no idea, I don't overthink things, I just am a little more spontaneous and I can talk to people without worrying about what might happen next. I don't really like talking to people much either. But my body language is so much better when I'm drunk, I'm completely in control of my wits, but I walk with my head held high and make eye contact with anyone who tries to make eye contact, when I usually just shy and cower away.

So, maybe the alcohol gives you confidence?

That could be a good start in terms of what you need to work on? But I'm guessing you already know that lol

Self esteem and self confidence are crazy hard things to find especially when you've never known any better (I know, you're talking to someone who has only just found the ability to say "I'm not a bad person" without feeling like she has just perjured herself.) but when you find them I'm guessing it's probably one of the best things in the world.

Try not to hide behind the alcohol. I truly don't think it will help you in the long run.

Originally Posted by BeteNoire

So, maybe the alcohol gives you confidence?

That could be a good start in terms of what you need to work on? But I'm guessing you already know that lol

Self esteem and self confidence are crazy hard things to find especially when you've never known any better (I know, you're talking to someone who has only just found the ability to say "I'm not a bad person" without feeling like she has just perjured herself.) but when you find them I'm guessing it's probably one of the best things in the world.

Try not to hide behind the alcohol. I truly don't think it will help you in the long run.

Without sounding like a really lame person, I do not understand confidence at all. How can someone get to a point where they're so sure they are confident. Confidence, self esteem and all such things are really hard for me to wrap my head around, I don't think it makes sense to other people.

[glok]

Hello, brokenentity. You have been given something to think about. Please choose wisely.

I wish you well.

Originally Posted by brokenentity

Without sounding like a really lame person, I do not understand confidence at all. How can someone get to a point where they're so sure they are confident. Confidence, self esteem and all such things are really hard for me to wrap my head around, I don't think it makes sense to other people.

I get where you're coming from.

Me, I've always just assumed it'll be a time when I stop hating myself and stop thinking everything I do is wrong. Maybe it's something different? Maybe it's one of those insubstantial things that is different for everyone.

You mentioned over thinking. Do you know where that's coming from?

For me over thinking usually comes from doubting me and/or my ability. I question whether or not I know if I'm right/ doing the right thing/ not being a total stuff up/ going to make things worse and a million other thoughts.

Are you doubting yourself when you're over thinking? Maybe a little more faith in yourself/abilities could be a starting point?

Something that just popped into my head. Trusting ones self. Do you need to trust yourself for self confidence? (That's a legitimate question. Now I'm confused lol)

Originally Posted by BeteNoire

I get where you're coming from.

Me, I've always just assumed it'll be a time when I stop hating myself and stop thinking everything I do is wrong. Maybe it's something different? Maybe it's one of those insubstantial things that is different for everyone.

You mentioned over thinking. Do you know where that's coming from?

For me over thinking usually comes from doubting me and/or my ability. I question whether or not I know if I'm right/ doing the right thing/ not being a total stuff up/ going to make things worse and a million other thoughts.

Are you doubting yourself when you're over thinking? Maybe a little more faith in yourself/abilities could be a starting point?

Something that just popped into my head. Trusting ones self. Do you need to trust yourself for self confidence? (That's a legitimate question. Now I'm confused lol)

Maybe I'm a perfectionist ? lol, I don't know If I'm 99% sure of something, I don't see it as "I'm 99% sure", but "I'm 1% unsure". I don't like the element of doubt in anything I do as it's all I end up thinking about.

I don't like to try, just to fail or end up short. I'd rather not try unless I'm 100% sure of success, cause at the end of the day I'll have the comfort of saying "I did not fail, I just did not try". So I guess I'm afraid of failure. I don't want to find out that I'm not good enough to do something, I'd rather it remain in mystery.

[Jolisse]

I find a beer or two to be very relaxing. I never overdo it, alcoholism runs in my family and I know that I have a higher risk of becoming an alcoholic.
But every now and then, I like to indulge.

Originally Posted by Jolisse

I find a beer or two to be very relaxing. I never overdo it, alcoholism runs in my family and I know that I have a higher risk of becoming an alcoholic.
But every now and then, I like to indulge.

I prefer vodka or whiskey

There are a million quotes I could throw at you right now about not trying and never giving things a chance but I'll refrain. They annoy me.

So, alcohol lowers your fear of failure?

Does it work by making you just not care anymore?

Or by making you think that you can't fail?

Or..?

Most importantly how else can you move past this fear without drinking?

Originally Posted by BeteNoire

There are a million quotes I could throw at you right now about not trying and never giving things a chance but I'll refrain. They annoy me.

1> So, alcohol lowers your fear of failure?

2> Does it work by making you just not care anymore?

3> Or by making you think that you can't fail?

Or..?

4> Most importantly how else can you move past this fear without drinking?

1. I don't care that much about failing when I'm drunk

2. Thoughts of Self doubt don't creep in as much when I'm drunk.

4. I have no idea! I feel fear is a part of my personality, I actually do not understand how other people aren't as hesitant as I am.

I appreciate all your replies bettenoire

[kaw24]

I had problems with self confidence and self esteem for many years. I felt that when I drank alcohol I became numb to my feelings and never dealt with my emotions in a healthy way. Really, I felt that I was just self-medicating. I would advise you to be careful about drinking or using alcohol to make yourself feel better. If this is a regular pattern of behavior, I would encourage you to seek help before you develop a drinking problem.

[SteveJackson]

Just drink alcohol in moderation. In fact there are studies that shows moderate drinking is good for the health. It promotes longevity , prevents some diseases and take away your shyness.