A lot of people just piss me off. I want to disconnect from people. Disconnect from everybody. But that would probably be too much for me to be able to do. I feel like I can't talk to anyone. They just constantly judge you and no matter what you say it doesn't help. So I just want to stay away from people. Just disconnect from people and society. I'll probably end up being alone. Which I really don't want but I'd be alone anyways by being around people who make me feel that way. So either way it's gonna suck. My anxiety around people doesn't help either. But it's not just because I have anxiety around people they also give me reasons to have more anxiety. One day everyone is just gonna disconnect from people and quit interacting with each other cause no one will try to understand each other whether it be emotionally or logically. People will be stuck in they're own heads and they'll quit trying to understand each other and then everyone will just disconnect from each other cause right now that's what I want to do. So what if that were to happen? What if humanity just quit being social and they didn't interact with each other? Would that be a good thing? Maybe it would be I don't know. We could all just quit talking to each other and just be by ourselves.

[MickeyCheeky]

Humans are social creatures.. they need each other to survive. I'm sorry you can't connect with others

[Agent Misty]

I don't hate people but I hate the games people play, so to speak. I am not a socializer so looking out a lot of people look 'portrayed' and fake to me in their social endeavors. I think this may just be reflecting myself onto others, though. When I socialize I feel myself picking the best parts of me to project and I feel like I have a lot to hide as far as depression/sad thoughts, my past etc. so I am aware that other people are doing the same with their public images. Hiding the less pleasant parts from view. I've only ever gotten along with the more seemingly transparent people who speak their first thoughts, even though I myself am not. I guess it is trust issues. But I do think if we all just stopped talking as you say to "be ourselves", well to me that is just hiding ourselves.

[Skeezyks]

People pretty-much just piss me off too. And I have disconnected from them. It works for me. But, then, I'm old. So it's okay...

Originally Posted by Agent Misty

I don't hate people but I hate the games people play, so to speak. I am not a socializer so looking out a lot of people look 'portrayed' and fake to me in their social endeavors. I think this may just be reflecting myself onto others, though. When I socialize I feel myself picking the best parts of me to project and I feel like I have a lot to hide as far as depression/sad thoughts, my past etc. so I am aware that other people are doing the same with their public images. Hiding the less pleasant parts from view. I've only ever gotten along with the more seemingly transparent people who speak their first thoughts, even though I myself am not. I guess it is trust issues. But I do think if we all just stopped talking as you say to "be ourselves", well to me that is just hiding ourselves.

Well I think I have trust issues when it comes to talking to people about things but then I really want to talk about it so it's frustrating.

[ArchieAus]

Your right to be wary . On the whole most people are ok to deal with on a superficial level , but true deep connection which can withstand our natural instincts as humans is hard to find . If you live your whole life and can count five people that wouldn't let you down , sell you out for gain , or desert you in time of crisis , then your indeed a very fortunate person . This is not something I would recommend for others , but I generally mistrust everyone I meet , I portray a congenial personality so I don't seem aloof or unfriendly , but I keep them at arms length and never confide in them anything I could possibly regret later . Some people need lots of others around them to feel comfortable , some need few and some need one or maybe none . For myself I do not have one true friend in the world , I don't require them , but I do have one soul mate . This is more than enough for me . So however you lead your life , all you have to do is get lucky once and meet that person or those few people . It can take a few days , or a lifetime to discover them .

[Medusax]

I have about four people in this world that I know I can count on. I have had very little positive experiences with humans. From the first day of Kindergarten, I was picked on. School was hell for me. In my adult life I don't socialize at work because everyone is into making up the most ridiculous story about things they know nothing about.

Originally Posted by ExplodingSun56

A lot of people just piss me off. I want to disconnect from people. Disconnect from everybody. But that would probably be too much for me to be able to do. I feel like I can't talk to anyone. They just constantly judge you and no matter what you say it doesn't help. So I just want to stay away from people. Just disconnect from people and society. I'll probably end up being alone. Which I really don't want but I'd be alone anyways by being around people who make me feel that way. So either way it's gonna suck. My anxiety around people doesn't help either. But it's not just because I have anxiety around people they also give me reasons to have more anxiety. One day everyone is just gonna disconnect from people and quit interacting with each other cause no one will try to understand each other whether it be emotionally or logically. People will be stuck in they're own heads and they'll quit trying to understand each other and then everyone will just disconnect from each other cause right now that's what I want to do. So what if that were to happen? What if humanity just quit being social and they didn't interact with each other? Would that be a good thing? Maybe it would be I don't know. We could all just quit talking to each other and just be by ourselves.

You know you are not the only one ... in this age most people are not polite and are mean ... they upset me too!

[ArchieAus]

I guess "hate" is either the wrong word you wanted to convey your feelings with , or a very strong emotion . I also don't hate people , but I have no confidence or desire to put my trust in them . Pretty much they have no impact on me , so I guess I'm apathetic to humans . The way you go from hate to apathy is to take their power away . Don't except them to care or understand . Expect the opposite and don't give them ammunition to use against you . If we all are truly honest our own issues are more important to us than other people's issues . So it's not surprising that people are not really invested in our issues . Up until the age of 15 I wanted people to understand and accept me and this caused me a lot of disappointment. It was then that I made a life long decision that no one would would have that control of my feelings again . Doesn't mean you have to become a b#stard p#ick , in fact you can be as compassionate as you wish to be , you just don't require anyone's validation or approval . Their opinion no longer matters and you no longer feel a strong emotion towards them .

[avlady]

i am a social person, but because of my disability, i can't be. I love people and have been burned by them too, but prefer people even so. I hope you can get to forgiving some people in your life, i know i had to forgive alot of people in mine, but it was worth it in the end.

Originally Posted by MickeyCheeky

Humans are social creatures.. they need each other to survive. I'm sorry you can't connect with others

I connect with those that DESERVE my connection

The other miserable ones that want company ... get away from ME

[Quarter life]

Friends are the Family we choose for ourselves....Choose Wisely.
After all, there are over 7 Billion to choose from.

Sorry for being hateful everyone. I just wanted to express my strong emotions. I hate sometimes and I know that's not really a good thing but I'm so angry. I don't know what else to say.

[Quarter life]

All good...My Anger is what has kept me alive over several decades.

[Curry]

I sometimes think I love my cats the most. I loved the country I was born in, everything from the dust to the stars at night. I am in a new phase, figuring out who I am, what I like, how to ask for it, and how to tell people when my feelings are hurt. It is pretty cool figuring out how I feel and letting other people feel their feelings. My world is much safer, nicer and understandable. I really went in the wrong direction growing up by focusing on when my mom was going to come after me, it was like trying to predict the weather on a mad planet. So now I try to reach out to people, even my mom, and decide how much of their company I want, when for instance they offer me less affection than they would to their cable man.

[Medusax]

Originally Posted by ExplodingSun56

Sorry for being hateful everyone. I just wanted to express my strong emotions. I hate sometimes and I know that's not really a good thing but I'm so angry. I don't know what else to say.

Don't apologize, dearie....I can relate to you.

[Curry]

Thank you for expressing your emotions ExplodingSun56. You helped me feel my elemental feelings. I tend to get stuck in my head when I am avoiding life. I usually eat until my mind pays attention that I have deep feelings that are not being honored. I like to know that it is okay to love and want people and especially to hug them as well as howl at the moon. My ex was muttering that my son is bleeding him dry. It's hard not to get stuck in the hate and to not take a breath and see my ex's darkness is just speck in the whole universe of my son's recovery, and of my freedom.

Originally Posted by Curry

Thank you for expressing your emotions ExplodingSun56. You helped me feel my elemental feelings. I tend to get stuck in my head when I am avoiding life. I usually eat until my mind pays attention that I have deep feelings that are not being honored. I like to know that it is okay to love and want people and especially to hug them as well as howl at the moon. My ex was muttering that my son is bleeding him dry. It's hard not to get stuck in the hate and to not take a breath and see my ex's darkness is just speck in the whole universe of my son's recovery, and of my freedom.

Well I'm glad I was helpful. Didn't think I could be helpful to anyone.

[Curry]

I was with my fiancé and talking to my ex yesterday. We were letting my ex know we were going to match the kids salaries to help them start their lives. I am going to sell my house soon, that I got in my divorce settlement. My ex started saying that was all fine but why didn't I now pay for my daughter's university since I would be richer than him with the house money. I am already letting him off most of the things he agreed to pay for in our settlement. He started telling me what an awful person I was. I feel like we are endlessly divorcing. I started off by hating my ex for the hurt and ended up hating myself. It is so hard to believe someone could say I was so awful and for it to not be true. I know I am okay, but having hate in the room is like bullets flying and often I don't feel like superman.

Hate can be hard to deal with.

I feel the same way. I feel like in the past there was a real need to connect with people but back then things were different.

(1) there weren't that many people around and so each one was special...
(2) because of the above.. most people were on their best behavior. So that interacting with people was a pleasant experience.

But now.

(1) there are people every place and
(2) people are ill-mannered and unpleasant. I actually think it is a natural human reaction to the "over population" issue.

There was a time when I was younger that i felt people were a good thing but now I don't. I can't tell if people have changed or I have but I think it is people... there is something really wrong and negative about them.

[Curry]

I have dug underneath the hate, just like you can dive under a wave when it is crashing, and get safely to the other side. I figured out what my needs were in the situation with my ex. I tried to figure out what his needs were. My need for financial security and independence can coexist with his need of being known and included. I need to practice diving under. I prefer to fire back or duck for cover and feel sorry for myself, or deflect, or detach. I think I will always come to the back of the classroom and sit with the people who feel better when they are alone because that is what usually happens to them and that is what will probably happen in the future, given their circumstances. I just need to master not turning into the Terminator when I feel other people's **** crashing onto me. Maybe I can say my needs and then transform. I have had some really troubled people in my life.

[katydid777]

Several years ago, I enjoyed being around people, like going to see a parade, movies, malls, fairs, ect... Now I won't go around large amounts of people if I can get out of it. It makes me uncomfortable, awkward, and sometimes afraid.

[cool09]

Everything you were taught as a child goes out the window when you become an adult. It's everyone for themself.

Have you considered how you respond to those around you? Sometimes the responsibility for the positive engagement of others lies with us.

Are there people you note that are successful socialising? Perhaps make some observations as to why. Would you consider learning from their success and emulating some of their behaviour? Is it worth trying?

I say all this because, as another pointed out, we are a social animal and as such need the nearness and engagement of others.