How are you coping today? #3

What would happen if you step out of the middle?

I am this family member's only link to his family of origin. The way I am currently handing it is that I leave or end the phone call when things get negative. As far as the other family member, I listen but make few promises about following the advice. Though the advise is sometimes very good--it is hard to implement things another person's way. I am not the same person with the same characteristics/my style is very nonauthoritarian so I can't always be what they want me to be and I know this and keep it in mind in my head. When I have tried to be as they want and not how I am--that has always screwed things up.

I'm doing alright this morning. I'm working on chores and listening to HGTV. It's relaxing. I think I'll get my chores done. Then later I will play my games.

I seem to be coping well enough today so far. I'm planning on accomplishing some small goals & I'm crossing my fingers. A little bit of success encourages me.

I woke up early to adjust to work schedule tomorrow. I took some time off for xmas and new years. Trying not to go back to bed. I don't know what to do with myself when everyone is asleep. Just browsing through this forum.

am feeling lonesome and social distancing doesn't help. i am usually so passive but i am determined to find a hobby this year and hopefully make more friends. lost so many when i was depressed.

@TunedOut, your post really rubs me the wrong way. it is very ignorant about abuse and full of blame. I am not an angry person in general, and I do not have "anger issues" as you so incorrectly labeled me as having. Naturally, I am reacting to all the abuse I have experienced in my marriage, and naturally I am angry and enraged at him for how he has treated me. Please refrain from victim blaming because that is what this post is about.

Today I feel I am coping better.

@Have Hope I know how scary divorce can be because there is so much at stake. A family member went through it and had to work through a lawyer because it was so contentious. If he is the only one you get angry about, that is a good thing. I shared those videos because the stress of divorce can cause us other problems until it is finalized. I admit to judging this--when you told him "he appalls and disgusts me and is a despicable human being"-- I thought to myself that these words are better left unsaid. Sorry. Perhaps I also should have kept my thoughts to myself...

He is highly manipulative, he is beyond hurtful and beyond harmful towards me, he has abused me to no end and he has been very damaging to me AND my entire life. He HAS behaved in appalling and despicable ways. And yes, this is a very contentious divorce.

Please do keep any judgements and mislabels to yourself in the future. And thanks for the apology.

thank you. i will check it out. yes i am on multiple meds for antideppression

I’m doing ok today. I’m dead exhausted though. I haven’t done anything I don’t normally do. I didn’t take my second Xanax yet. I feel like I’m going to fall asleep at any moment. I feel ok besides a runny and slightly stuffed up nose that I’ve had all day.

I feel a little stressed at the moment. I just need to get up and get busy. I'm feeling overwhelmed. But I think I need to change my mindset for the day. I'll just do the best I can. And show myself some compassion.

You're welcome. So sorry you are struggling even with the medication. I know I am lucky that my meds pull me out of depression but I still have to stay aware of it. No need to be specific about your circumstances but has life thrown you a curveball or multiple curveballs? Sometimes I think that meds just can't cure all of our sadness. Some things in this life are sad or hard. If you are dealing with stressful things, I hope they get better.

Funny old day, but very active which is good.

I want to cry and scream at the same time. I woke up and got up at 3 AM. I am exhausted and overwhelmed and am having a bad day so far.

I learned something that reopened the wound. I feel upset about it. I do not fight, flight, freeze, or fawn anymore. I have very good emotional control now. I’m still hurt. It was a hurtful thing that happened. My feelings are valid, and I am calmly choosing how to proceed.

I’m coping fine but I don’t feel very good mentally because of my PMDD. I also had my shot half an hour ago. The shot can also make me pretty moody and sometimes downright angry. With the shot and my PMDD combined my moods can get pretty out of control. I have skills now to use and all the meds are locked away as well. So things should be ok.

Doing okay.

I'm coping with a cup of cappuccino, and I'm posting here. Tonight I am sad, tired and lonely. I tried to sleep but woke up a few hours later. I'm not sure if I'll try to go back to bed or if I will play my games. I wish I could meet someone in my game and chat or even go questing together. It's so hard to meet people. I'm standing in the gathering spot of the server just waiting for someone to give me a guild invite. I have other characters with guilds. Maybe I can try them for a while.

So far I've had 2 cups of coffee & I've been trying to organize my thoughts & plan my day.

Another calm discussion that goes no where.

Thanks @breakingdawn, I have to get enough sleep thats so true.going to enjoy my hotchocolate tonight and hit the bed and get enough sleep

I’m coping fine today. I’m not feeling the best and I’m very tired but I took a cepacol and I feel a bit better. I did good in group. My case manager challenged me to do something and I did it. I’m getting better at being challenged and pushed. My anxiety isn’t that bad. I haven’t had my second Xanax yet. I’m also not too depressed today despite crappy weather outside.

Okay today, I got some exercise and that helps.