Lonely

Basically to cut a long story short... I have one friend, my best friend John (my boyfriend). He's at university though 270 miles away
I've always had friends and after my whole health problem and having to leave college (I'm 19) and developing depression and anxiety I've lost everyone. They all went off to uni and such, but we grew distant before I got depressed.

I'm not used to being so alone... I never go out because I have noone to go out with, therefore cant meet new people. I try talking to people, but I've lost so much confidence and I think the only way I can get out of the whirlwind of depression is to go out with people my own age.

i just haven't a clue where to start and I just feel pathetic and immature. Anyway, just felt I had to get thoughts of my chest.

molly

hi supermans girlfriend... are there friendship groups you can join in your area? dont know how it works there, but here, they advertise for 'friend groups' in the paper and on craigslist.org to each their own and always be careful.... but, i understand.... ive thought of joining book clubs before, but my depression and social anxiety was a prob...

but those are some ideas to think about maybe? sorry you're lonely... that can suck... it can be good tho too...

Big hugs and best wishes sent your way.

Helped me to get myself out regularly to say a coffee shop, bring a book or newspaper or a journal, get a treat and hang out some. I'd count (and still do) talking in a friendly fashion to the workers there as a success. Even just being out and about, being around other people helped a lot.

Joining an interest group of any sort works too. Going bird watching, joining a group working for social justice, anything like that can help.

Do you have a faith community you can get involved with?

lonely
Depression is so hard .....I am so sorry...with your B/F being far away
I am sure that does not help....can you talk to him by the comp...
Also maybe some online courses
Maybe join a gym as that helped my son alot.....meet new kids his age.....
I am sorry you feel lonely , its a hard feeling to deal with

I agree with the others. Taking a class is an excellent way to meet people. Is that a possibility?

Molly, I felt the same way after high school. Only about 4 or 5 of my friends went to the college that I went to. We all had different majors, so we had very few classes together. I speak to my friends from that era once or twice a year if I'm lucky. You'll find that in time you will make new friends. As for your boyfriend, I know you miss him but if it is meant to be it will happen. I am very quiet and keep to myself until you get to know me. That sounds kinda like how you are. I solved my problem by focusing on making myself happy and doing things that I was passionate about. You will eventually meet people who are passionate about the same things that you are. Maybe you like riding horses, bowling, playing chess......doesn't matter what it is, there are other people that love the same things. It gives you something in common. You sound like a very nice person. Just give it some time. Good Luck, Cajun

Molly, having that pain in the background all the time is terrible, I know. Do you take any meds? Your case sounds like one that meds might help.

One great way to meet new people is to pursue what interests you naturally. Like books? Find a book club. Like, I don't know, billiards (pool to us colonials)? Find a pool hall to hang out in. Like cooking? Take a cooking class. By doing this, you meet people you already have something in common with and an activity to engage in right off the bat.

Be safe.

Cyran0

Thanks to you all you've brought back a bit of hope to me, even though I'm still finding it hard.
Yes I am the kind of person thats shy and keeps to myself, but once you know me I'm very outgoing. I just need that push really.
I do do yoga but everyone is 20/30 years older than me there. I'm going to look for a dance class (always wanted to dance but felt shy about starting)... I've got nothing to loose so I'm gonna give it a shot. The extra excersise might help lift my mood too.
I go bowling also and was asked recently to maybe start a womans team so I may consider that.
To start with though these were a problem because of my health but I'm now on medication for that.

I don't take meds for the depression (I'm determined to get through it without)

molly

it sounds like you have hope.. : )

hope is the only thing I have... and it's not always a good thing

I hold on to the hope's that my boyfriend will come home soon and when he can't I'm crushed and my depression gets worse and all my hoping that I'll someday make friends again are shattered

I might sound pathetic, but it sure as hell hurts...

i understand the pain.... lonlinrss sure can suck.... but, on the bright side, you've got us.... it beats nothing and no one...

i admire your will... its not easy to make it and no one should ever mistake that it is... just keep trying, you are a worthy cause....