Are you a friend requester on PC or do you wait for people to send one to you?

I send requests out to anyone who posts something that makes me smile. I've made some good friends on here. Also met some stinkers, but they likely feel the same way about me. Lol.

As a side note, I am always looking for more friends who dont mind a little (lot) crazy.

[seesaw]

I don't send friend requests unless I want to PM with someone, because I limit PMs to friends and contacts. If someone sends me a PM, and I feel I have gotten to know them enough on the forums, I will accept. Otherwise, I do not. I've had bad experiences before, so I try to be a little discerning. Unfortunately, there are people who troll forums on the internet, so that's one of the ways I screen people. It's not personal, just trying to protect myself.

I love making friends on here, but I have a process for vetting people. I think we all do, on some level.

Originally Posted by seesaw

I don't send friend requests unless I want to PM with someone, because I limit PMs to friends and contacts. If someone sends me a PM, and I feel I have gotten to know them enough on the forums, I will accept. Otherwise, I do not. I've had bad experiences before, so I try to be a little discerning. Unfortunately, there are people who troll forums on the internet, so that's one of the ways I screen people. It's not personal, just trying to protect myself.

I love making friends on here, but I have a process for vetting people. I think we all do, on some level.

I get that. I hesitate with newer profiles. I had a bit of stalking going on at one point. Someone kept creating new profiles. Mostly though people are good or so I believe.

[amicus_curiae]

Originally Posted by TheSadGirl2

Are you a friend requester on PC or do you wait for people to send one to you?

I send requests out to anyone who posts something that makes me smile. I've made some good friends on here. Also met some stinkers, but they likely feel the same way about me. Lol.

As a side note, I am always looking for more friends who dont mind a little (lot) crazy.

I don’t know how to send a friend request (but I’ll find out now!) so, yeah, I wait on others.

I relish crazy. I really can’t stand to be amongst those who consider themselves sane; that consideration may be the proof of insanity.

Hmm. I’ve always been drawn to the different because I’ve always felt that I was different. This sounds weird, but I was always the most popular boy in high school only because I ran in every circle — every clique — and had an enormous amount of friends. I don’t mean to be bragging, only to share my experience. But all those that I loved were, in some manner, different and distinctly unique from those anchored to a single clique.

And even here, now, amongst all the crazies, I’m drawn to those unique, those distinctly different — those crazier than others.

Now, I’m going to discover how to send out friend requests!

Thanks so much!

[Raindropvampire]

I don't like feeling like I'm bothering someone so I don't usually send requests. But I've made a lot of friends in the games section here and some of them have sent me a request.

[LiteraryLark]

I don't like to do friendship requests with anyone. It's not my thing and I usually delete them whether or not I really like that person. It's a personal choice.

Yes, I've met amazing people here...but it's hard to be friends with someone I've never met let alone know who they look like. I just tend to "root for people" who I like here.

I've met people on here who became Facebook friends and people I've met in real life. Not often, but it's nice when it happens.

[amicus_curiae]

Originally Posted by LiteraryLark

I don't like to do friendship requests with anyone. It's not my thing and I usually delete them whether or not I really like that person. It's a personal choice.

Yes, I've met amazing people here...but it's hard to be friends with someone I've never met let alone know who they look like. I just tend to "root for people" who I like here.

Well, damn.

I was this [] close to sending you a friend request. When I have teeth, I intend to plaster my old-man, chicken-like, bum-for-certain face all over this website.

Three (almost four!) weeks ago I accosted a man — upon learning that he was a neighbor — outside, sitting on a bench under the apartment portico. Having been penned up for many years, I started babbling and he accused me of, perhaps, the worse that anyone can do ‘round here: Getting ‘into his business.’

Now we call one another and say ‘come outside, I need to talk’ and we exchange intimate details (when there are no women around — or if the only close-by women are the three crack hos or the one meth ho who hang around; that’s bad, yeah, I know).

So, after I’ve teeth, I’ll send you a photo along with a friend request.

I usually wait until someone requests to be my friend. If I add them, they might reject me.

[Calla lily12]

Originally Posted by TheSadGirl2

Are you a friend requester on PC or do you wait for people to send one to you?

I send requests out to anyone who posts something that makes me smile. I've made some good friends on here. Also met some stinkers, but they likely feel the same way about me. Lol.

As a side note, I am always looking for more friends who dont mind a little (lot) crazy.

I'm the same.... Did I make you smile? I hope so. I can be a stinker, but not usually!

[marvin_pa]

Having witnessed a few too many rounds of defriending drama in the prototypical social media days of Live journal, I traditionally didn't initiate friending on PC, but I will do so now. That said, 99% of my official PC friends are from incoming requests - the forum interactions matter more to me.

Still nice to be friended, though...

Originally Posted by Calla lily12

I'm the same.... Did I make you smile? I hope so. I can be a stinker, but not usually!

Of course you made me smile. Thank you for that

[LiteraryLark]

Originally Posted by amicus_curiae

So, after I’ve teeth, I’ll send you a photo along with a friend request.

I'll be looking forward to it my dear amicus.

[MuseumGhost]

I have done a fair amount of both over time. I do like to have shared a laugh or 2, and have some things in common with people I ask to be friends, definitely.

I also prefer to wait until I know people pretty well, and can imagine conversing with them more in PMs.

I've met such amazing strong and brave people here, over time. It's definitely one of the safer forums to participate in.

[amicus_curiae]

Originally Posted by Raindropvampire

I don't like feeling like I'm bothering someone so I don't usually send requests. But I've made a lot of friends in the games section here and some of them have sent me a request.

As this is my one-and-only internet hangout, I never feel bothered by requests (the few I’ve had) or PMs.

I don’t do games and didn’t know that there was a games section!

I just, just, just find so many fascinating people here — none more hobbled by insanity as myself — but such interesting folks; I believe that (rarely, maybe) you come to divine the personality of others by what they write rather than how they write.

Cheers!

[eskielover]

Combination of both over all the years I have been here.

I only send friendship requests to people I find I have something in common with & sometimes I get surprised because I feel like I've known someone here a long time & either they friend me or I realize they aren't on my friend list & will friend them.

I have also friended new people here that I have posted with who I have something in common with.

Most of the ones on my friend list no longer are even on PC anymore or haven't posted in years....I just don't clean up the list very often.....takes to much time for me.

Sometimes I send friend requests out, other times I just accept requests that get sent to me. I'm a bit careful though after having a online stalker elsewhere

Originally Posted by TheSadGirl2

Are you a friend requester on PC or do you wait for people to send one to you?

I send requests out to anyone who posts something that makes me smile. I've made some good friends on here. Also met some stinkers, but they likely feel the same way about me. Lol.

As a side note, I am always looking for more friends who dont mind a little (lot) crazy.

actually I only tend to send friend requests to the people I like the usernames of.

haha yes, really. I'll go through the online list, find a user I like the sound of, and friend them

if anyone friends me though, bonus. lol

* makes a mental note to go through her friend list*. a lot of people on my list don't use the site anymore

[divine1966]

I got friend requests from several random people with whom I never had any interactions and never read their posts. It seemed strange to me so I had to decline. Other than that I accept. I don’t believe I sent anyone requests.

[TishaBuv]

I don’t understand what friending on here does. Does it allow them to PM you? I haven’t sent any requests, as I don’t understand what the function does. I have accepted requests from anyone I interact with on the forums. I have also received requests from brand new users who never interacted with me on posts and I ignored the request, suspiciously.

Because I have laid out all my personal issues and like the anonymity here, I view this as a peer support group, and haven’t taken friendships here to RL. But I truly do think of these anonymous strangers as friends. On some level we are very good friends in the abyss of the universe ;-)

[Carmina]

Thank you for being my friend

[marvin_pa]

Originally Posted by TishaBuv

I don’t understand what friending on here does. Does it allow them to PM you? I haven’t sent any requests, as I don’t understand what the function does. I have accepted requests from anyone I interact with on the forums. I have also received requests from brand new users who never interacted with me on posts and I ignored the request, suspiciously.

Because I have laid out all my personal issues and like the anonymity here, I view this as a peer support group, and haven’t taken friendships here to RL. But I truly do think of these anonymous strangers as friends. On some level we are very good friends in the abyss of the universe ;-)

At a core level the buddy (friend) list is just a convenient gathering place where you can quickly go to PM folks you know, or scrawl on their visitor wall. But, it can also be another way to offer, or seek support, or indicate a feeling of friendship/connection. I don't think being on a buddy list gives you any special powers, like PMing/X-ray vision...

Originally Posted by marvin_pa

At a core level the buddy (friend) list is just a convenient gathering place where you can quickly go to PM folks you know, or scrawl on their visitor wall. But, it can also be another way to offer, or seek support, or indicate a feeling of friendship/connection. I don't think being on a buddy list gives you any special powers, like PMing/X-ray vision...

Woah woah woah. No xray vision? I was quite seriously misled. So you're telling me I've been making friend solely to make friends? I'm stunned. (Note I'm feeling silly today).

[eskielover]

Originally Posted by TheSadGirl2

Woah woah woah. No xray vision? I was quite seriously misled. So you're telling me I've been making friend solely to make friends? I'm stunned. (Note I'm feeling silly today).

Lol....I was thinking the same thing

[marvin_pa]

Originally Posted by TheSadGirl2

Woah woah woah. No xray vision? I was quite seriously misled. So you're telling me I've been making friend solely to make friends? I'm stunned. (Note I'm feeling silly today).

Yup. I had to actually buy my own X-ray specs & I'll let you into a secret about those things... I paid $9.99 (plus $29.99 super value post & packing) for a pair from the interwebs - if I didn't know better, I'd swear that they're just a pair of crappy shades.... *grumbles*