I want to see a professional but....

Everyone i talk 2 online has said i need, or even "desperately" need to see a professional. I think i will, but im ONLY going to if im absolutely 100% sure theres no way ANYONE even if i dont know them, will see me or know im going. I want it to be totally 100% anonymous. Dont try and talk me out of this i want it this way.

But the problem is if i go to see sum1 and im like waiting for the door to open for me or something and i dont care if the others waiting have problems worse than me i still dont want them to see me go in. And while im in the room i would be really uncomfortable that someone could know, or when i go out someone might see me. I know the world good enough to know that people in areas are nosy, and would know what a building has in it including a psychologist.

So i thought maybe phone help, but i dont like the idea of my voice being put out into the telephone when i cannot even see the psychologist or whats around him. Makes me feel insecure.

Plus, when i talk i mostly use body language and it would be so awkward and he might get wrong idea as opposed to if he saw my body language.

I guess I am a bit stumped by all your restrictions on seeing someone to help you. I can say that depending on your choice of therapist (maybe one in private practice in their own office) you could lessen the chance of meeting someone if you went in at the time of your appointment and not before. Maybe you could talk to them about your fears and you could work out some solution. As far as anyone finding out it is completely confidential. I would guess your meeting someone you know are very slim if you live in any size city but of course you are the only one that can tell if it is worth the risk.

I hope you find a solution to the dilemma you find yourself in.

perhaps you could explain to the scheduling employee that you're fearful of being seen and the T could see you either very early or after the office officially closes.

You're putting so many restrictions on getting help that I'm wondering if you really want that help or not. Seems like you've pretty much shut down all the avenues to getting that help.

If I remember right, you're a minor. How are you going to pay for your therapy if you even get there?? Rethinking your restrictions, I think, is in order here.

Do you realize that in some circles it's a "status symbol" to have a therapist?

Think it can remain anonymous,patient/doctor privilege applies.Unless you commit a crime that warrants access 2 your files,noone can/should get into them?You may want to check4your state,county,city legislation?

It is very hard2want 2 get help when u dont' know if it's going 2 remain private.I am finding this out in an insurance claim post a MVA right now.Whatever insurer wants 2 dig up,they are.

Regardless,your health is key,if it's stopping you from getting a quality of life,I'd get the help.Talking to someone professional may help <font color="blue"> </font> .Make sure mental health professional will work4u, or u won't get much progress?As with personal relationships,their personality may not work with yours?

Good luck*

Putting so many restrictions on getting help is going to make it very hard to get the help you want, on your terms. Please rethink this. What is more important to you, what people will think or the fact that you will be getting the help you need?

Hi, badthoughts...I'm sorry to hear you sound so troubled...

I have to ask--why do your aquaintainces insist you need to "see someone"? What sorts of bad thoughts are troubling you?

As for your reticence, all I can say is that I have been to many appointments at pdocs and tdocs, and I almost never see anyone else there, period. And even if you were to see someone you happened to know, what's the big deal? They are there for the same reason you are!

It's kind of like the time I ran into my Sunday School teacher at the gay bar...I freaked until I realized he wasn't going to be saying anything!

Anyway, thanks for coming here with your concerns....love to help if I can!

DJ