how to develop a hobby?

I encourage you to continue your search for a hobby. That you are still searching is a good sign. I hope you reach your goals. Take care.

Play to your strengths. A lot of the time I have a really short attention span, so the hobbies I've stuck with long-term are things I'm good at or I'm very passionate about (reading and writing, languages, criminology, photography, etc).

There's such a wide range of things you can do that it can take a while to find your niche, but if you get bored of one thing or just can't get the hang of it, keep looking and you'll find something eventually!

hi,guys,Merry Chrismas!

This summer I started to expand my interests and try new things. It may be difficult to come up with ideas at first, but the best thing you can do is keep an open mind. You will never know whether or not you like something until you try it. It's all about stepping outside of your comfort zone and trying something new.

*Christmas.
sorry.

I suggest going to the library and reading over either a Boy Scout or Girl Scout badge book. There are hundreds of badges, meaning there are hundreds of ideas for hobbies! Of course you won't be earning a badge, but the badges are designed to allow the person to dabble in the topic to see if that is something they would be interested in as a hobby or a career later in life.

^^^ Wow, what a good idea, (JD)! And Merry Christmas to you

Merry Christmas, cusack! (You are many time zones ahead, so it is December 26 where you are, but it is still Christmas here.)
I have just found and read your thread here. Sorry I don't have any good ideas, but know that I admire your trying and hope little successes make way for big successes!

any one want to do language exchange,through voice chat appilaction?just asking.

yeee,no one?*application.

can't believe i am still struggling.i summarize 2 points,1,they,my family, oppose everything i do,including making friends,study,work.they're sick,2,if i don't accept their sickness towards me,i will be locked up by them in hospital.what now?
actually i can do a lot of things,i have proved this already,but back home i would always be sabotaged by them,and no one understands this,and i have to have their sickness in the end.
most of time,they talk to me with unreasoning inquires,i must accept them,or i got threatened.
just can't find support.for 20 years,and for 30 years since i began to know about the world,i can't find a single person near me to say no to parents and family members or admit that they're wrong.
even with news everyday that parents mistreated their children to death and fact that my two relatives suicided because of this family's abandoning of them,and i am for several times near death,still the 3 friends geoly here said that it is wrong of my family's methods to me,not intentions.come on,i didn't require them to admit on that their parents are wrong,just on my parents.they still can't utter an objection.

i just want someone say they are wrong,i can't find one in china.

Maybe if you moved to another province, one of the big cities, you might find people willing to say that. But I don't know if you can, if your family can prevent you from leaving. How about the Chinese forums online, are they all the same?

bark,your position?

intentional?could it be that they are intentional,but they,as extremly face saving people,would concern about others on talking bad about them if they do obvious harm to me.

i still don't know why in china all bad words can't be used to parents.there is a particular phenomana in china,that you can see it on every media,when a criminal confesses in prison,the first word from him/her must be that i am sorry to my parents,i shamed them.i still don't get it why they are so united on this.

Your parents are wrong. It's clear your family hasn't been treating you right.

China is a collectivistic society. Everything comes back to family. Honour is very important; dishonouring your family is a great sin. If a family has a member that is not "normal", they will hide them to escape the shame of not having a perfect family. What matters is what other people see. If someone does something wrong, it affects everyone else. And there is that constant feeling of being indebted to your parents: they raised you, and for that you should be eternally grateful. If they beat you, it's for your own good.

I might be wrong, but I speak from experience of my culture, and I think it's similar to China's in this regard, although we aren't as collectivistic.

You must feel guilty, ashamed, that there is something wrong with you: that's how their treatment would make you feel. But you are not to blame: they should care about you more than family honour. What is honour worth if it leads to suffering? In Japan, you have many young people committing suicide because they can't live up to their families' expectations and feel that they have dishonoured them.

I am sure many people are in a similar condition to yours, and feel the same way. You're not alone in that regard. I can't say your family will magically change. But you have to find out how to work with what you have. And I think the best option for you would be one of the big cities, away from family and with better services. Is that something that you could do? Many men leave to work in the cities, I'm sure. Perhaps your family would be able to save face by saying you had gotten better and gone to make good money. I don't know.

i've talked to my "dear" mom about one thing,about my job seeking or interviews failure today,cause every one in china uses this word for moms.again,i got hit,on every little matter,i am suppressed.
intentional to harm awaiting an pretext?or extremly face saving trying to ruin my every contact with the outside?
whatever,i got wrapped into it again,but i know i shouldn't get rotten by thinking about too much of it.i am gonna stick to my plan,it is tough,but it is it.ty.

i've been looking for a job to contact people,but got hit again by worrying the employee would call my residence admin. through my residence address on my id card to know about my information,although the mental disable certificate was cancelled,i am worrying about someone in the admin conduct evil by saying to the employee that i was a mental patient,with the social evironment having bios to mental illness,i got head attack again,fatal...

sometimes, despite their circumstances, folks find they have to find something or somethings positive to focus on, to keep their sanity. It's hard work not to give into despair or depression sometimes. But worth it! Too much joy to be had, despite it all! Gardening, or just growing one or two plants? Just one of many thoughts that come to mind. Well, I wish you well, I see you have many challenges, but I suggest you don't give up and find something that makes you happy, if only periodically. That should help you get thru, a little better! The best!

Yeehohhhhh.

many ppl suicided,the national college entrance test finished,in the news just now,3 students that failed the test suicided,toughest living here.while,i got food,shelter,and internet,comparatively speaking;and many bad ppl around and ppl who are in a big distance with me in understanding,i'm ahead of the times.all which makes me often feel hammerd.
idk,be in touch,i am methodical,contact me in skype if you feel methodical is somehow useful.

I have not developed a hobby yet but hopefully if you and i want to talk, we can always use an instant messenger. what do you use?

a news censored in domestic media in china,china gov't again lost hearts of the people.the rioters attacked local gov't and police station in xinjiang and killed 20,including 9 policemen,the others are gov't employees and civilians.

I have a hard time developing a hobby too. I mean all i do is read articles online but they can be pretty boring sometimes.