[Marla500]

ShyPoetGirl, if I may say so, you will be loved-but it's more important that you love yourselfand accept that you are worth being loved no matter what your weight I am realizing this about myself and it took me way too long

i'm 300 pounds, nobody but a blind person would fall in love with me. i'm 18 & have the sagging body of an old lady. it's doubtful anyone would find me attractive enough to date or kiss or sleep with. i know there's more to it than looks, but people see me & they don't even give me a chance. others would just want to fetishize my big body, and i don't want to be just somebody's fetish. the only way i can find romantic love is if i lose the weight. just because i'm worthy of love as i am does not mean i will get love. i must change.

i agree, i do need to learn to love myself. but it's hard when nobody else wants to. i don't want to be the only one in the entire world who loves me.

i am just so hard on myself.

[Angelique67]

Originally Posted by ShyPoetGirl

i'm 300 pounds, nobody but a blind person would fall in love with me. i'm 18 & have the sagging body of an old lady. it's doubtful anyone would find me attractive enough to date or kiss or sleep with. i know there's more to it than looks, but people see me & they don't even give me a chance. others would just want to fetishize my big body, and i don't want to be just somebody's fetish. the only way i can find romantic love is if i lose the weight. just because i'm worthy of love as i am does not mean i will get love. i must change.

i agree, i do need to learn to love myself. but it's hard when nobody else wants to. i don't want to be the only one in the entire world who loves me.

i am just so hard on myself.

No one is guaranteed love, SPG. I'm finding out, after living without it so long, that we really do have to love ourselves. Accept your strengths and be happy for them, and work on the weaknesses.

i just can't stand the thought that i might always be alone. that kind of life is not worth it to me.

i feel like i need to "love myself" so others won't need to.

[Angelique67]

Originally Posted by ShyPoetGirl

i just can't stand the thought that i might always be alone. that kind of life is not worth it to me.

i feel like i need to "love myself" so others won't need to.

Well, I wasn't always alone. In my other parts of life I had friends and relationships. But getting them is one thing, the problem is they don't always last. The only person guaranteed to be around when no one else is, is you. So you have to make peace with yourself.

[waggiedog]

[COLOR="MediumTurquoise"]Dear ShyPoetGirl. Don't beat yourself u too much, many more folk use food as an emotional crutch then we would ever realise. I mean. It's not illegal, we can buy it almost anywhere in whatever quantity we want and then we can get home and go off somewhere where we won't be disturbed and nosh away, AND we're not hurting anybody!!! Though in my case binging made me very irritable and snappy ~~ the sheer guilt I guess. I've been through it all and at 56, I still am, had rounds of anorexia of anorexia which I was hospitalised for, then it was bulimia, then binge eating disorder and Then severe restricting, and the circle commences again. Id urge everybody to seek help when they are at a young age, treatment works better that way hunny. Love and hugs. Love and hugs. Xxxxkm/COLOR]

[waggiedog]

Hello everyone. I'm trying to eat one meal per day, which is totally normal for me and trying to eat "normally" if that's ever gonna be possible. Trying to keep it relatively healthy, hot weather means lots of salads, but getting in the protein too, even a few complex carbs. Don't know how long I can do this, until I get scared because I'm gaining weight I guess. Yeah, that frightens me big time. In summer with very few clothes means everybody can see a belly fat gain, a definate no no even if I am old!!!!! Xxxxxxx

[Dancinggirl377]

I ate pretty healthy today, but I had a little trouble tonight. I finished off an entire bag of yogurt-covered raisins, plus some frozen bananas with chocolate and cashew butter and some oatmeal with chocolate and cashew butter. I swear nut butters are my weakness. But I think I am making an improvement. I was able to stop myself after the oatmeal

[waggiedog]

Hello Dancinggirl. Yes yes, we all have certain "triggers" which knoor away at us until we give in. Best things, if you can possibily do it is to not have any in the house. However if you find yourself eating them because you are genuinely hungry, then it may be better to eat more of the good things at meal times. Don't know, just a thought.
I'm not doing so well, although I only eat one meal per day, I eat too much at that meal and I'm terrified of gaining the weight I lost when caring for my Dad. I'm def NOT underweight now, the bottom end of correct weight to height as Dr's would say, but it feels far too much to me and is begining to depress me. I can't seem to restrict anyone more as I once did, maybe being older and having a messed up metabolism doesn't help. Take care everyone, hugs. Xxxx

[Dancinggirl377]

Hey waggiedog! Thank you for the advice. I think the best thing you could do is focus on eating healthy and not focusing so much on your weight. One thing that I've learned in this journey is that there are more important things than weight and what the scale says. I feel much better now that I am closer to an average weight than when I did when I was constantly restricting myself.

Best wishes,
Claire

my overeating's been okay, i guess.

though i seriously messed up last friday- and since then it's not been exactly perfict, but i'd say it's not been too bad

i keep falling off the diet wagon. i'll be doing good for a couple days, then i'll want something really bad, and so i'll eat it, knowing i shouldn't. i need new coping skills that aren't food. i've always relied on food for comfort, because the people in my life don't/won't comfort me. i've tried other things, but nothing works like food. if it's not food, i always feel dissatisfied and bitter.

being loved would really make my life better. but nobody wants to love me because i'm fat. and i'm fat because i eat too much food. and i eat too much because i'm not loved... and it comforts me... because no one/nothing else will.

Originally Posted by ShyPoetGirl

i keep falling off the diet wagon. i'll be doing good for a couple days, then i'll want something really bad, and so i'll eat it, knowing i shouldn't. i need new coping skills that aren't food. i've always relied on food for comfort, because the people in my life don't/won't comfort me. i've tried other things, but nothing works like food. if it's not food, i always feel dissatisfied and bitter.

being loved would really make my life better. but nobody wants to love me because i'm fat. and i'm fat because i eat too much food. and i eat too much because i'm not loved... and it comforts me... because no one/nothing else will.

you are certainly loved here, and we will all be here for you anytime

[Nammu]

I was doing pretty good, then today I didn't feel like eating anything I had, so when I returned my DVD I stopped at long john silvers. Haven't been there in years, I planned on getting the baked fish and healthy sides until I got inside and smelled all that food. Not even the coleslaw is healthy. Coulda, woulda shoulda had the corn on the cob and green beans...but

[LifeGetsBetter]

Simply put, when I stopped drinking alcohol 13 years ago, I replaced it with food. So, my drinking addiction now has become my eating addiction and I hate it and often hate myself.

[IzzyMarie]

I told myself not to buy that bag of chips at Costco. I feel so gross and ashamed. Back on my diet tomorrow.

ate very little yesterday in the morning.

but when i realised i was getting overly hungry, started eating bag apon bag of harybo

want to try and do better today

finished off the whole box yesterday and that was quite bad of me

[LifeGetsBetter]

Not bad today. But feel hungry and will stay hungry and go to bed hungry and probably won't sleep because I got an occupied squirrel cage in my head!

had a positive day yesterday as far as food is concerned.

healthy breakfast of strawberries and black currants and a smoothy

and nothing but a pizza later on for dinner.

success of the day.. i was asked if i wanted a burger and i refused

eaten very little today.

only breakfast. but it was a healthy one.. bowl of strawberries again

all in all a pretty good day for food.

plan to eat a little dinner later, but that's it.

no snacks, nothing else

[IzzyMarie]

I did pretty well yesterday. I skipped breakfast today so hopefully I can keep it under control.

i ate a huge breakfast, which was bacon, eggs and toast. but it was also my lunch and dinner, so i think i will be fine.

well i just ate a kind of midnight snack. the bacon & eggs & toast was quite a few hours ago, and i felt my stomach rumbling. i almost didn't eat anything (i know - bad to deny myself food when i'm truly hungry, which i do often, just like i emotionally overeat when i'm not really hungry and then try to make up for it later by 'starving'). but then i found baby carrots and ranch. after the carrots mom reminded me there were peppers, and so i had those too. as for the ranch, i only had a shallow dish (and i didn't drench anything in it either).

for once i was both physically and emotionally satisfied with a snack, which is nice. i'm not craving for more, like i would be if i were eating chips. i don't feel deprived, or guilty. it's great. and it helped some stomach/digestive issues i've been having (probably from all my eating-too-much-and-then-not-eating-at-all). but yeah... nice to have a good snack.

in all, i feel good about my choices today, although i could have drank less soda.

think i can safely say that today was another good day for me as far as eating is concerned.

breakfast, 1 snack between that and dinner, and of course dinner

my dad is bringing home pizza after work today. i know i ate way too much pizza last friday. pizza's a weak spot for me. i'll have to exercise a great deal of restraint. please wish me luck.