most confusing T on the planet

Ok. She suggested i forget the abuse. When im depressed tells me she' s been abused and she is abele to be happy, tell her about some of my symptoms and she says, ive never heard of that before, oh did i mention in our first session her cell phone kept vibrating she had to keep checking it when it did? - and today she cancelled 3 hrs before appt. I called the counseling center to ask if i can request a different counselor- they said she has to refer me. So i called her and asked her if she could refer me to therapist more specialized in trauma and she said she wants to start emdr with me. No i dont want emdr with a T thats clueless. I was going to one of best in the city and he did emdr once, and decided we will do something else because i get pulled too far in memory to process. I will at least ask her to call him. Problem now is all i can afford is this low cost place with students.

(((((Oh Likewater))))) I am so sorry. At least you now know your therapist is truely not qualified to give you the treatment that you need. You really have to call again and request a different therapist and make it a point to tell them that your therapist doesnt truely understand how to treat PTSD and is not helping you. Make sure you tell them that you requested a referral and the therapist is still not understanding that you would prefer a different therapist, you are not happy and need to change.

I am sorry that you had to experience someone who isn't there for you. I have to say loud and clear, YOU HAVE TO BE YOUR OWN ADVOCATE. I had to learn that the hard way, I completely understand and yes, there are clueless therapists out there. I wish I had discovered PC before I had to experience what I did experience. At least I am here to tell you to stand up for yourself and demand a therapist that truely understands PTSD treatment.

Let us know how you make out, we are here for you.

Open Eyes

Are you being too "nice"? You are not being heard. You might not be acting assertively enough. I'm only saying this because I have had this issue. Then when I finally blow up, people are all like, gee, you need to learn how to be assertive, not aggressive. And I'm like, I only told you a hundred times! This is why I have not talked to anybody in the past 8 years, pretty much, BTW. Are you the person I kept telling young people are great T's? I owe you a major apology. Give this girl T an education.

She certainly is confusing and clueless and unprofessional too. The therapist said about you forgetting the abuse. That sounds like a lame answer to me. You can't forget it. The memories of the abuse will be there. I hope you find a better therapist.

Hankster, i think you hit the nail on the head. Today was first time i let her know i had a problem with herWe left it that we would
discuss my concerns next week when i see her. Im going to write them down so i can keep them clear in my head. Thanks open eyes, hankster, and happy cheeks.

If she is a student and not providing you with what you need and will not refer you to someone else tell her you want to speak to her supervisor. Then take it up with her supervisor. She may be a student but her behavior is inappropriate. If you do not feel comfortable talking to her about this, call the clinic directly and tell them you want to talk to her clinical supervisor.

Thank you. I meet with her Tuesday. I'm making a list of all my concerns so i can discuss them with her. Thanks googley. :-)

I'm glad you're making a list of all your concerns. She sounds like an unprofessional, clueless nitwit, to be honest. Completely unhelpful. :/ (Very unprofessional to keep answering your phone like that, especially if it's not an emergency, and she has no right to tell you to forget the abuse.) I hope you get a referral and can see a proper T who knows what they're doing.

Thank you. I have trouble figuring out if it's just me or is this not a good situation. Even the reason she canceled was bizarre.her 18 yr old daughter lost her id and needed a ride. Hmmm. Really? She's 18. She can't figure anything else out like bus or cab? Im in crisis and you know it , but your 18 your old daughter lost her id. Omg. I hate that my insurance is so crummy. Hopefully, in January, it will be a lot better. Our benefits at work are changing. If they are better, i can go back to old T. I saw him like a month, and he was seriously the best T ive ever talked to. Of course i dont expect a student to
be like him, but this lady is kind of kooky and seems to be helping me get worse.

I met with her today. Part of the problem is i spend most of the session dissociated and she didnt know. Other problem is miscommunication as well. She is Filipino. English isnt her first language. She meant forget trauma as in remember but without bad horrible feelings. Yes!!! That's what i want. She will refer me to another student if i want, but i can work with her. Another part of the
problem is i was so atrached to my old T, and it's so hard for me to start over . it's so scary , and i dont trust people. I trusted her andothen i didnt.

Language barriers can be an issue sometimes.

I hope things work out.

Billi

Billi, you are a very kind person. Thank you. I'm being hopeful, probably because i saw a dr and doubled prozac. Now i think i'll go
back to dr bc still not sleeping. I think my T is probably ok though. I think i like her, just afraid to. i had one T i loooved get fired or
quit unexpectedly. One drop me, and one i had to stop seeing bc of ins. And i really loooved all of them, and i cried and cried, and i'm not doing that again.

I really have to respond because I really identify with fear of getting too involved in a therapeutic relationship only to have to let go of them.

It does hurt a lot and it can feel like a kind of betrayal even though we know that they dont' mean to.

Also I don't like going to a place, either, where I cry nonstop.

Life is just so short to be there so much.

I also relate to not sleeping.

Billi

Thanks, Billi. Not sleeping is the absolute pits.

I know.

Had another bad night too.

Pain.

Billi

Sorry. I slept last night. It was a miracle. I think hell froze over and pigs were flying.

They did fly by, just passed my window.

Penny, you are funny. :-)

Im supposed to exercise so i can sleep better. Im tired and sleepy. Ok ill do it but this sucks.

Chin up! Hopefully the exercise will energize you and then make you sleepy so you can rest!

Exercize exhausted me. I wanted to take a nap after. Oh well . :-)