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#126
Jun 26, 2011, 07:21 PM
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Really Flooded?? And why is that??
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#127
Jun 26, 2011, 07:28 PM
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Sorry, was thinking about what I do when I'm pissed with my t. I'll say I'll cancel, and I do cancel but then **** myself that I've cancelled and madly try and arrange my appts again..
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#128
Jun 26, 2011, 07:30 PM
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I have been with her over 8yrs now and have never cancelled yet...
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#129
Jun 26, 2011, 07:31 PM
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IMO, she didn't validate you and I think what she said would make you want to hate yourself. IMO good therapy is the therapist coming to where the client is at no matter where that is and from there the therapist needs to help the client move forward from where they are at. IMO, what she is doing is standing far away from you and yelling at you to come over. Well, if you knew how to move forward in your life, why the heck would you need her?
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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#130
Jun 26, 2011, 07:35 PM
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I return the bow  I cancel at least 1 session a month. |
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#131
Jun 26, 2011, 07:36 PM
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Sannah, Thank you. Your replies always get me thinking. I was worried people would think my response was whiny or manipulative. As far as how did her response address my needs? I don't think she did. Only let me know that is was sickening to hear and not true and that it is all victim sh--. I really don't understand why she responded to me like that and in that tone. She is usally a lot nicer to me and I STILL haven't heard from her. That probably doesn't sound like much but this is coming from a T that texts me almost everyday...
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#132
Jun 26, 2011, 07:37 PM
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 So do you give blood or do I have to go to the other forum to check??
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#133
Jun 26, 2011, 07:39 PM
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I did prior to my kids, but I've been a cocktail of pain and brain meds and now can't until I at least come off the pain ones. Could be awhile...
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#134
Jun 26, 2011, 07:41 PM
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Maybe she isn't replying now because you stood up for yourself and it made her look dumb????????
In your other thread you write that you have been with her for 8 years and that you had 3 terrible pdocs before her. How about keeping her as your pdoc and getting a new therapist?
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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#135
Jun 26, 2011, 07:41 PM
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The other thing I feel guilty about is when she says that I should go out and help others more. Inside I am thinking "WTF about me!?!?!? T, Who is helping ME ??" is that wrong or common in this instance??
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#136
Jun 26, 2011, 07:42 PM
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I was wondering the same thing. If someone needs therapy the focus should be on them. When is treatment for yourself focusing on others? This is how we all got this way, by caregivers not focusing on US!
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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#137
Jun 26, 2011, 07:52 PM
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But sometimes when we focus on ourselves too much it becomes counterproductive, especially after being in therapy for several years. My T didn't push me to help others early in our relationship while I needed to focus on myself and while my kids were still young but now, 10 years later, he is pushing me to be somewhat less focused on my own issues and more focused on ways that I can be "needed" by others. It is definitely possible to become too self-absorbed after several years of therapy and that can make it difficult to form healthy relationships because we become accustomed to the one-sided therapeutic relationship where the attention is primarily on us.
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Conversation with my therapist: Doc: "You know, for the past few weeks you've seemed very disconnected from your emotions when you're here." Me: "I'm not disconnected from my emotions. I just don't feel anything when I'm here." (Pause) Me: "Doc, why are you banging your head against the arm of your chair?" Doc: "Because I'm not close enough to a wall." It's official. I can even make therapists crazy. |
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Jun 26, 2011, 08:05 PM
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Jun 26, 2011, 08:05 PM
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Jun 26, 2011, 08:06 PM
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Jun 26, 2011, 08:06 PM
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Jun 26, 2011, 08:13 PM
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I think that if a person has made progress on their issues then it is time to focus on others. If a person is hearing voices, SI ing and is suicidal I think that it is time to focus on them.
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Don't let your problems or the world make you feel small. Stretch your arms out over your head. Take a deep breathe. Tell yourself that you are big. You are big, not small. You always have space, you are not trapped........ I'm an ISFJ |
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#143
Jun 26, 2011, 08:21 PM
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Jun 26, 2011, 08:22 PM
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Hard to say. Sometimes it's a vicious circle. If you have nothing but your own problems to focus on, sometimes your own problems become bigger because you lose sight of what other people are dealing with, and you can become disconnected from others and isolated, and that makes it more likely you will resort to SI or feeling suicidal.
I'm not saying that's definitely what's happening. Just throwing another possibility out there to look at.
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Conversation with my therapist: Doc: "You know, for the past few weeks you've seemed very disconnected from your emotions when you're here." Me: "I'm not disconnected from my emotions. I just don't feel anything when I'm here." (Pause) Me: "Doc, why are you banging your head against the arm of your chair?" Doc: "Because I'm not close enough to a wall." It's official. I can even make therapists crazy. |
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#145
Jun 26, 2011, 08:26 PM
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PreacherHeckler you have a valid point. I do think that time is also a factor. If you are working part time or full time and really don't have much time for yourself I think then the time needs to be spent on taking care of yourself versus others to prevent one (or me) from self destructing. Just my 2 cents.
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#146
Jun 26, 2011, 08:31 PM
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Sure Cats, time is definitely a factor. If you're working full time or attending school or you have young kids, there may not be enough time left in the day to even begin to think about helping others when you need help yourself. I don't know what your situation is so that's why I said it's hard to say.
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Conversation with my therapist: Doc: "You know, for the past few weeks you've seemed very disconnected from your emotions when you're here." Me: "I'm not disconnected from my emotions. I just don't feel anything when I'm here." (Pause) Me: "Doc, why are you banging your head against the arm of your chair?" Doc: "Because I'm not close enough to a wall." It's official. I can even make therapists crazy. |
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#147
Jun 26, 2011, 08:34 PM
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Thanks. I am working pretty close to full time and trying to finish me college degree as well. Sometimes I wonder how thin my T would like me to stretch myself...
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#148
Jun 26, 2011, 08:38 PM
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Sounds like you're pretty busy so it's not like you have too much idle time on your hands. Have you asked her why she thinks you should volunteer since you're already busy with work and school?
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Conversation with my therapist: Doc: "You know, for the past few weeks you've seemed very disconnected from your emotions when you're here." Me: "I'm not disconnected from my emotions. I just don't feel anything when I'm here." (Pause) Me: "Doc, why are you banging your head against the arm of your chair?" Doc: "Because I'm not close enough to a wall." It's official. I can even make therapists crazy. |
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#149
Jun 26, 2011, 08:40 PM
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Apparently I need to get out of my head and out of the "Victim sh--". That's what she said anyway...
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#150
Jun 26, 2011, 08:43 PM
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Does your job keep you isolated in any way? How about school -- is your major something that keeps you focused on trauma related issues?
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Conversation with my therapist: Doc: "You know, for the past few weeks you've seemed very disconnected from your emotions when you're here." Me: "I'm not disconnected from my emotions. I just don't feel anything when I'm here." (Pause) Me: "Doc, why are you banging your head against the arm of your chair?" Doc: "Because I'm not close enough to a wall." It's official. I can even make therapists crazy. |
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