Is there something you'd like to tell your therapist but you can't?

Dear T,

I am jealous--so jealous--that your kids have such a great dad. Since my dad had his stroke I've had to take care of him. Part of me resents that my dad can't be as supportive of me as you are with your kids. Does that make me a bad person?

-whoswho

This is so incredible. I love that so many of you have poured your hearts out in here. You have been brave enough to put to words what you are afraid of, mad at, upset with, confused about, scared to admit, etc...

I have found such peace in being able to do this in here. By reading some of your posts, I am seeing that if you continue to process your concerns and fears in here, you may be able to find healing and answers.

I encourage you to continue using this thread as a way to get those feelings/emotions out. Thank you for participating and allowing others to see that we all struggle and we all need help trying to navigate through this thing called "Therapy and the Therapeutic Relationship".

dear t, you are confusing the hell outta me. and i don't like it one little bit. please stop., please just say go away. pleasepleasepleasepleaseplease

Dear T,

Now that I no longer idolize you, sometimes it just feels like there is nothing there. Will this change or is this my pattern? Is this all there is?

Could you be "directive" (sorry for the expletive) just for a little while?

to my therapist,

sometimes i wonder if you are the right therapist for me. it would break my heart if you aren't.

Dear T,

I am struggling really hard about what to do in our next session. I want to confess to you that I have pics of you that you are not aware of. I want to talk with you about how it all came about. I want to tell you what they mean to me right now. I know that you won't reprimand me, but I am afraid you may be disappointed in me.

Squiggle

Dear T,

I think you must be so tired of me. I know I am tired of me.

Let's have a bottle of wine next session, see how that "fits".

Dear T,

I'd like to spend just 1 day with you outside of the therapy room, doing the kind of activities I imagine you do with your real daughter. I'd like to be able to take you by the hand and show you all the things I've always wanted to do with a "mom." I'd like to go rafting and splash you in the water, go running and finish a race with you, go to the amusement park and win a teddy bear, go out to eat and have a heart-to-heart over salads and sandwiches, and go shopping at the mall (complete with one T make-over). I'd like to laugh with you and create the kind of memories with you that other girls have of growing up with their moms.

I know you can't be my mom, but I wish I could have that one day... kind of like David has that one last day with his mom in the movie "A.I. Aritificial Intelligence."

I feel maternal love and affection for you, and I want you to feel it for me, too.

Love,
ScorpioSis

p.s. I'm really embarassed about this because I'm a grown-up, not a child, and I feel like I should no longer have these needs. I'm also embarassed because I worry that if you knew I wanted to have these special mother-daugther fantasy-moments WITH YOU, you would think I'm creepy, pull away, and stop being so generous and caring with me. I'm afraid you would stop answering the personal questions I ask you and add more boundaries to our relationship.

Dear pdoc,

This Thursday will be my first appt in 3 weeks and I don't think I'm going to make that appt.

So there.

Dear T,

If you are mad at me, don't tell me. I don't think I could stand the thought of that!

Squiggle

Dear T,

I declare I am quitting therapy almost every month but we both know I am not going anywhere, no matter how serious each declaration may seem. It hurts that you gave my appointment times away so quickly, in less than 12 hours which includes the night. Did you call clients to rearrange your clients/schedule as soon as you woke up the next day because when I asked for my appointment by 10:30 AM, it was gone? It hurts. Then I learned you gave away my spot on another day too. I know you run a business but you could have paused to consider that I'd likely be back. Would it have hurt to hold my spots open for a week? Did you give away my other times too? (I see her 4X a week) I feel very unimportant.
Hurting,
Crazy

Dear T,

I have been seeing you now for two years. You know me. You know my history. You know my former T terminated me without cause four years ago which I still struggle with today. You know how important trust is for me.

So why did you share an email I sent you regarding my recent struggles in therapy and a request to reschedule my appointment with a staff member? I would have never known had she not responded to it by asking me what other times might work. It was a private email I sent to you. I was being vulnerable and sharing my struggles with YOU. Receiving it back from another person felt embarrassing and violating.

I want so much to believe I can trust you....now I don't know if I can.

Oh.my.god! I would be FURIOUS

Dear T,

Why do you say that you will call me on days when you don't see me and then go 12 days so far without calling me? That is just wrong. Sometimes you really suck.

Cats.

P.S. And then when I text you and you don't reply it Fu**ing pisses me off!! Stop it already!! Damn you T! Seriously.

Cats.

Dear T,

F--- you.

Anonymous.

I've actually done that minus the anonymous part. Went down a treat

LMAO!! I bet that went well!! What did your T say!?!?

The classic "Let's work on why you feel this way"

This was my previous t, the "I know we've crossed the boundaries so far we can't see earth anymore" one.

Lol. And why did you feel that way Flooded?? Sounds like you guys had issues with boudaries? Were they similar to the ones like with my T??

Now if I were to say how I feel, that would be putting a dent in my tough external exterior

Yes, we had very serious issues with boundaries. Nothing sexual or even close but when your t starts ringing YOU for advice, run

Hmm....does talking about her boyfriend issues count??

Yes - most definitely.

Well, I think it's too late for me to run. My roots run pretty deep...

Cats, let me ask you this..

You've been in therapy with this t for approx 8 years. Do you feel better after those 8 years? Can you cope better?