I quit

I have just written to T to tell him that I quit - it is all too much at the moment - lots of life stuff going on and I don't really need to be piling up past stuff on top right now - so guess that means I am not a member of this forum anymore - may check in to see how you all are from time to time though - Soup

(((Soup))) He still gets to respond, right

Maybe you could continue but back off on the intensity of therapy for now, have therapy be more supportive for a while?

soup...you're still a part of us, you have been in T so you can respond and even post. Just write T every here and there so your post doesn't get moved Hope quitting works ok for you, if not please remember you can always go back.

Soup, I can't begin to know what all is going on in your life right now. But I've done what you are about to do and I just want to give you some things to think about:

I noticed you said you "quit" therapy. You did not use the term...need a break...stopping... Are you sure you aren't running away from dealing with the tuff stuff... because if that is the reason you could back off the intensity of the therapy for a while..

I've found that the life stuff has not been easier to deal with by myself and it was probably helpful to have dealt with some of it in therapy.

Also you mentioned adding past stuff will not make life stuff easier to deal with. The past stuff is still there. What we bury we bury alive. Its not going anywhere...so now you will have life stuff, past stuff, disappointment from quitting, self doubt, and missing your T. terribly to deal with (basing on my experience)..

My suggestion is to go talk to your T. about it all. And "Un Quitting" is so easy!

Soup I stopped therapy and I'm still around. You don't have to leave.

Better not leave here! I think you get psychotherapy emeritus status after a while. as long as you can still talk the dragon talk? but it's up to you

Echoes - you and my T are both wiser than me - I didn't really think of a response he could make beyond - OK come back it ever you change your mind.

But no he has a way of avoiding my directness and actually responds offering an extra session! And saying to let him know a few days before if I don't want to go to the session - well I thought that was what I had just done -

Now confusion rules my head - the possibilities are there aren't they?

Hey wikidpissah - thanks for that reassurance that I can still hang out here - and the tip re: T - I have my T's response to process now, more head stuff to work through - Soup

Thanks for putting a different perspective forward Readytostop - I had lost sight of the fact that the past stuff maybe exactly the stuff that is making things more dificult generally in my life. T has the door open and I am at least hesitating before running for the hills.

Thanks Hankster - I would miss this place more than anything I think

Just when I thought I had made the decision and felt OK about it - T stirs it all up again - I beginning to think that T stands for Terrier rather than therapist - how do you shake them off when they have a tight grip around your ankle!

The added difficulty was in the letter of resignation, for the first time I was really honest with T about how I perceive him and so now he knows - is there the option of going back but retracting all I said?......no I guess not - feels like I have just made it worse for myself.

Hey ho - Soup

"JUST when you think you're OUT - they DRAG you back in!"
-- Al Pacino as Michael Corleone in "The Godfather"

lol - spot on!

Soup - there are many on PC who are not currently in therapy, but if they can help & encourage others, or if others can help or encourage them, hey, that's why we are all here.

Please, do not make a change while you are upset. Talk to yr T, and let T help you reach a peaceful frame of mind in which you can wisely decide what is best to do.

I hope you'll not leave us, but let us know how it's going for you.

I'm beginning to see therapy like an ocean with an ebb and flow, if your find yourself beached run into the surf, rinse and repeat!

I don't think you've made it in any way worse for yourself by being honest with your T about how you feel about him. That honesty is more likely to make your relationship with your T more real and it'll help him understand you a lot better. So, I don't think you need to worry about that aspect at all.

This phrase jumped off the page and grabbed me by my lapels!

This is precisely what a writer does throughout a novel to develop her characters ability to handle life & become a stronge, independent person. It's the key to a successful novel.

Roadie

i am so glad you didn't leave us or T .i am glad you are giving your T another chance.i bet you can tone your sessions down a bit and be able to deal better.

Of course it is up to you...

But you better not leave!

I am with Hankster again at the moment (this could change rapidly!).

I am not currently in therapy after the horrid melts that I have had in the ROOM. However, I am thinking I may go back at some point and am shopping for therapy and
I am going to put you all through every gyration that I do!

Ha!

Please feel free to do the same, SD!

Blessings,

MCL

Ha! what is that little sing-song thing that j-lo does, "you like me!" is there a lips smilie?

Soup, that is great news What a great T - I'm glad you have him!!

Therapists are wily.

I hope you stay.

I hope you stay. I happened to send a "I quit" email last night to my T too. BUT I showed up to session this morning and un-quit. I hope you un-quit too! My T laughed at me.

- do you think they are used to getting them? Hmmm I hadn't contemplated the option of un-quitting - thanks for opening that possibility. Soup

I unquit all the time.