[struggling2]

I apologize if this has been asked before but how many of you go to therapy more than once a week?

I have been going twice (my own decision) and feel really ridiculous for it....like I should be able to manage on my own. I CAN manage on my own but I feel like I might explode if I do and I want to speed this process up. I dont feel depenedent on it to survive and feel like if i just keep pushing and pushing forward going twice will speed up the process..

Please tell me im not the only one in this boat cause I really feel like an idiot.

[lostmyway21]

I go twice a week. It was T reccomendation at start of my T in NOV. I am now dependant on the frequency. I don't know how I would function with once a week. The mere mention of it makes me panic.

My insurance only covers once a week, but I'd LOVE to go twice a week. I'm working very hard on my therapy - outside of therapy - and I have lots of thoughts/ideas/insights that I want to discuss with T. I value his opinion, and also just talking things out with him helps so much rather than just have it all in my head. I think it's great that you go twice a week and that you're so motivated.

[WikidPissah]

you're not an idiot struggling...definitely not. A lot of people go 2 even 3 times a week, some even see multiple t's. You and your T decided what's best for you in spite of what others do or think...it's YOUR therapy.

I usually do 1x but sometimes I falter and I get an extra crisis session. Sometimes I have a hard time getting thru the week until my next scheduled session.

[critterlady]

I see T twice/week most weeks. I'm very fortunate that my insurance doesn't limit visits and I've been dealing with some big things, including my mother's illness and recent death. We started out with once/week, but when I disclosed my CSA, he offered more frequent sessions to support me.

There have been a couple of periods where I thought about ceasing to exist and I think that plays into us continuing twice/week.

I don't expect to be on this schedule for too much longer, but I really appreciate that it's available to me now.

The only time I go more than once a week is if I am in crisis mode. Haven't been there in awhile. Currently we are spreading my appointments farther apart which so far is going fine.

[2or3things]

Hi Struggling. I'm just starting twice/week this week (though we'd moved up from once/week to 6 times/month a couple months ago).

I understand what you're saying about feeling ridiculous. But I also have to say that I felt a HUGE sense of relief last week when I emailed my T and said that I'd take her up on the suggestion. And I think there's absolutely nothing wrong with doing whatever works best for you!

[Crescent Moon]

Originally Posted by struggling2

I apologize if this has been asked before but how many of you go to therapy more than once a week?

I have been going twice (my own decision) and feel really ridiculous for it....like I should be able to manage on my own. I CAN manage on my own but I feel like I might explode if I do and I want to speed this process up. I dont feel depenedent on it to survive and feel like if i just keep pushing and pushing forward going twice will speed up the process..

Please tell me im not the only one in this boat cause I really feel like an idiot.

Man alive.. if going to therapy multiple times a week makes you an idiot - - then you're probably in a room full of idiots here!

Mine has varied. For a long period of time, I saw my therapist twice a week, and sometimes a third time. I was dealing with a lot of resurfacing trauma and I would not have been able to cope if I only saw her once a week. It took 2 to 3 times a week to keep me stable and functioning.

And as far as dependency, I have my own thoughts about that. i have always been as independent as all-get-out. Didn't need to lean on anyone. Turns out, though, that my passionate self-reliance was more about survival than anything else. My parents were wholly unavailable. I was the only person I had.

My therapist decided early on that I had attachment issues - and her goal was for me to become attached to her. I resisted it, had no interest in it, and thought it sounded very icky. I even told her "You won't ever have to worry about me becoming dependent.. the greater concern might be that I cannot depend." But she hung in there with me, and over time, her always being there, always emotionally available, always understanding me, connecting with me, making me feel like I wasn't alone.. eventually she 'caught' me inadvertently talking in a way that she said: "That sure sounds like attachment to me :-)" I eventually allowed it to happen. I think I had a deep fear of it not being 'real' or being unreliable because I'd never experienced real attachment before. Anyway, there was something about the way my therapist opened her whole self to take me in.. encouraging me to attach.. to depend.. and her being wholly responsive and reliable.. that left me fully capable of standing on my own two feet. If my attachment to her was insecure, and if I had not been able to feel dependent, I don't think I would be where I am now - with a healthy capability of attaching and being mutually interdependent.

I go once a week. I wish I could go twice. So much to deal with all week on my own, and in between appointments feels like the longest time. Don't feel ridiculous!

I usually go 3 to 4 times a month. it works out well for me because more than that and I get really obsessive about it. I have OCD. So it wouldn't be good for me to go more, but I think for some people it works really well and that's what they should do.

I have therapy twice a week (right now its just online chatting while my T is gone)-- have always gone twice a week, and there is NEVER a shortage of things we need to discuss.

[healed84]

I go once a week with an occasional 2x a week thrown in there. I have said many times to T I hate coming 2x a week b/c it makes me feel like I need extra help and I hate that. He always reassures me that if I need the help, it is good to ask and just because I need to be seen twice in one week doesn't make me any worse than somebody who goes once a month.

[BonnieJean]

I started 2x a week a year ago. Still need it that often.

[struggling2]

thank you for the responses everyone. it really makes me feel better. therapy is the most miserable and bizarre helpful thing ever! im afraid if i cut back or take a break i will lose footing and motivation but i feel consumed by "therapy stuff" and i dont know if thats good or bad. all this talk and thinking about emotions and feelings is so new and insane to me. its a constant tug inside of me....like...

dig deeper......PULL BACK........be vulnerable....&$%* THAT...... keep going....IGNORANCE IS BLISS!

*sigh*

2 times a week for the past year and no plans of returning to once a week. We'd done once/week for the first 8 months together, but then realized that I needed more to get through the tough stuff and with everything going on in my life.

I totally understand the constant tug... It's so hard to know when one should stop and focus less on what's going on inside, when one is *done* w/ therapy, etc. I don't believe, though, ignorance is bliss as having done intense therapy now for a few years, I can feel myself calmer and really notice a difference in how I interact with myself and others.

we only get to go once every 2 weeks. it needs to be more much more but its what it is

[Honeybun]

I go 3x week with one T, and 1x with the other T, so 4x week. Oh my!

[ECHOES]

I go twice a week. It is my choice and I love it. Having the regular support is wonderful and twice a week works much better for me than once a week.

[linda24]

I go 4x a week (psychoanalysis). It helps a lot, staying connected, for example. Sometimes I feel like I should be able to live seeing my T once or twice a week. I am completely dependent on her, I don't see myself living in this world without her. All people around me don't understand how special the relationship between my T and me is and now and again try to convince me to try to go not so often or even change T.

currently once a week, usually two to three times a month, which i prefer
right now we are working on some new concepts, so once a week it is...

i get tend to get scared of the connection. when i feel we have gotten too close, then i back off. there is a tiny part of me that thinks he really doesn't like me, even though he has proven otherwise. i think for me it is a protection mode...

[likelife]

I go twice a week every other week. I've played around a lot with frequency over the years, and this has worked okay for me. Part of it is dependent on my T's and my availability.

[ECHOES]

Originally Posted by linda24

I go 4x a week (psychoanalysis). It helps a lot, staying connected, for example. Sometimes I feel like I should be able to live seeing my T once or twice a week. I am completely dependent on her, I don't see myself living in this world without her. All people around me don't understand how special the relationship between my T and me is and now and again try to convince me to try to go not so often or even change T.

They just don't get it. I think you are very fortunate!

[2kidsandadog]

Originally Posted by WikidPissah

you're not an idiot struggling...definitely not. A lot of people go 2 even 3 times a week, some even see multiple t's. You and your T decided what's best for you in spite of what others do or think...it's YOUR therapy.

I usually do 1x but sometimes I falter and I get an extra crisis session. Sometimes I have a hard time getting thru the week until my next scheduled session.

Gosh, not to sound jaded here but I believe that the amount of attendance a person seeks out of a counselor is totally dependent on what's going on in the person's life and is the decision of the person.

I don't think it's indicative of a person's mental state how often they attend. I do think that some counselors are looking for the extra $$ if they recommend weekly sessions. It really all needs to be decided by the individual and NOT the counselor.

I've been in and out of counseling since I was 16 years old. Now that I'm 48, I've learned a thing or two about how dependable they can be, and if their professional enough to trust. Some are real idiots.

2 x's a week and now 1x a week for Marriage Therapy , same T..... not to mention we email back and forth (T and I) everyday , even on weekends. Maybe i should cut to the chase and just move in with him....LOL *The email contact is NOT just me, may I add. T emails me to check on me.

[Emptty]

I'm in the same boat as lolacabanna with the emailing daily! I am in one on one therapy three times a week now... I started out once a week for about four months than he suggested twice so I started that and every week he offers me a third which I usually take.

My T says I signed up for the "unlimited plan" hehe