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Maybe cuz T broke my habit of cursing? And it was easier to break, not currently working and being around guys who curse. I would notice it more at family dinners, where my brother would give me the evil eye for saying a bad word in fRont of his precious child, so my question would be, how do you not curse in front of your kids (cuz I couldn't)? I didn't have a problem with it, but boy my T's did.

morning guys

Why did the therapist have a problem with swearing? And how did the therapist tell you about it?

i try not to curse much especially in T. my T never ever sweares at me unless it is to repeat back the tone of somethng i have said .i think the only word she has ever repeated back was S H I T lol

idk why they had a problem. they looked shocked. they say stuff like, "wow, do you always talk like that?" I think they don't want to get into the habit because some clients don't like it. My current T is a child psychologist, so I can see that; my prev T had a lot of brain-injured clients, so I can see it there too. so I guess I was a one-off, more or less, but maybe they thought it just didn't suit me?

Hi, everyone. I've got to get ready for yoga. I'm late!

I wish I could be in therapy until I die, too. But my T doesn't take Medicare and that is only a few years away. Maybe I'll have to quit then.

I swear. UNLESS I am talking to someone who doesn't (like my mother). I have an auto on/off switch. This makes therapy interesting. I have to push to say what I'm really thinking. The first time I dropped an F-bomb with ex-T, he asked me if I normally talked like that. Um, yes.

My current T is a little more laid-back with his word choices. It makes me comfortable.

I can't imagine wanting to be in therapy forever. It is a LOT of work and takes up a lot of my time. I'd definitely like to heal & not feel like this forever.

Hey everyone. Just a quick check in. Working today.

It's snowing here.

Kind of a quiet day. Cancelled T tomorrow. Can't justify paying to see her tomorrow when my regular scheduled appt is only a few days after that. If I made it this far I can live.

See you all later after work. Hugs and love

Morning all - I'm back at work ( ie. on the couch today...LOL)

MKAC - I cuss like an old oilfield worker, and my T went to seminary... its me, he knows that and is cool with it. * Like pbutton, I can turn it off when I have too.

Wiki - The couch is for support and we are all here for you... If we can talk about cool whip and various random things... then nothing is off the conversation list. If you ever wanna vent or talk.... spill it here or PM me.

Something weird is going on with me regarding T - I haven't seen him since last Tuesday and only emailed him 2 times.....its like I don't care about it anymore, he could terminate me today and I'd be OK. Is is because I haven't seen him in so long or that I'm sick? Whatever...now I'm rambling...LOL

same here i so don't want to be like this for the rest of my life. i want to walk in the world with others full of confidence.to be able to look them in the eyes.to be able to coexist and engage. to be able to feel care, love and acceptance.

I just wanna feel normal and feel like its ok to be me.

Sometimes I would like to be not alien. I would like to understand how people feel supported and comforted by others. Then I could choose whether I wanted it.

Hi Couchies. I've been awol for a few days, working extra shifts at the bird clinic. We have oiled birds in-house and they take a lot of care.

It's been an excellent way of distracting my mind from what I've been working on in therapy, though.

You aren't an alien and I wish I didn't need support and comfort from other people....If you and I could just teach each other.... ugggg

I sort of picture us as needing that mad scientist electric metal cap brain switch thing.

I have on occasion, sworn in front of my children. Mostly I don't. My husband is HORRIFIED when I do, which irritates me. I do not think that it will kill children to hear swearing and I know for a fact they hear worse all the time at school. For the most part, though, I do not curse around kids.

[as an aside, I do not consider the words "crap" or "pissy" or "pissed off" curse words and my husband does. What do you guys think?]

My has been very low key about my cursing from the beginning. The first time I used the F word, he didn't even blink. The marriage counselor commented on it though, and apparently both he and my husband dislike it, so I try not to curse around either of them.

EXACTLY! It's WORK and it's uncomfortable and absolute hell for me to actually look at myself, let alone with someone else in the room. Why would anyone want to do this forever????

I do not consider those swearing. I only do not swear around my dad, children or students. I don't think I would change my vocabulary for a therapist.

I don't think crap is swearing. I generally wouldn't say pissy or pissed off in front of my mom.

That is exactly what we need.... where are the scientist at?

I do swear occasionally in front of my kids, now that they are grown. Never in front of the grandkids and my W is used to it. They do hear worse at school... Ami ( youngest ) , when I picked her up from school her freshman year...I said
"how was your day?" She replies " It was Shhhhh - Crappy "...lol It almost slipped in front of me.

I agree T gets the real me.... all day long, he's a big boy he can handle it.

MKAC I say F em'.....lol

it's the 21st century - why is that not a viable solution??? btw, yeah, I can swear like a sailor when I am driving. it will also just pour out of my mouth if i'm too close to the bus driver and paying attention. you did NOT want to be around me when we had that little bus accident on T's first day back! but it would take an act of God to get me swearing mad at T, and i'm an atheist
ETA: italians/latins use sex terms to swear, wasps use bodily excrement terms.

I feel like a bad parent... Daughter stayed home from school yesterday b/c she had a fever. I sent her back to school today and just told her teacher that if she wasn't feeling well just to let me know if she was acting off. Well as the morning was starting one of my bosses came to me and asked it it had been 24hrs since her fever and I said no. She said that the rule is it has to be. So, I had to send Emma home. Then, her teacher went to the boss in tears b/c she thought I was mad at her. Omg- not a good way to start my day. I think the teacher is extra cautious b/c she is just finishing chemo therapy treatments for breast cancer and she is extra sensitive to being sick. I feel so insensitive.

Okay...so I just found out my job is changing again. Lord, help me. I don't know what to do!!

What's going in Chopin?

I don't swear much and nor does my T, although I have heard her say "bugger" and "********".