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Old Dec 07, 2012, 01:23 PM
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My T usually will just express empathy and say something like "I imagine the fear you felt when that was happening" or "Wow, that's really sad for that to happen to a little girl" and then that will get the ball rolling.
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Old Dec 07, 2012, 01:24 PM
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I need to get past the fact that he is a man.... I think Ill lay on the couch feet and all today and stare at the ceiling....
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Old Dec 07, 2012, 01:27 PM
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There you go Lola. Good idea for you to try that. Or bring him a wig. lol.
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Old Dec 07, 2012, 01:28 PM
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He would be one ugly chick!
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Old Dec 07, 2012, 01:28 PM
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Can you also maybe close your eyes when you talk to him?
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Old Dec 07, 2012, 01:33 PM
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I told my xT when we were sitting side by side looking at his book shelf that I was concentrating of thinking of him as "gender neutral".... it worked... I just didn't look at him
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Old Dec 07, 2012, 01:49 PM
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I want T now. This whole week it feels like when I'm awake I'm sleeping and when I'm sleeping I'm awake.
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Old Dec 07, 2012, 01:50 PM
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Thanks RS, I may use this. Sila, I have no off weeks ... I go 2 x's a week.... because for some reason without it ....I obsess over it and spiral out of control, so 2 x's a week keeps me on an even keel. 35 minutes to think about it or swing by the bar and do shots....LOL
I meant off weeks conversation wise. Like, weeks you can't think of what to say.

Also wiki, thanks for the breakfast suggestions. Wrote some of it down. I'm guilty of never eating breakfast.

What should I do though if my thyroid meds say take on an empty stomach 30 mins before eating, but metabolism supposedly shuts down after 30 mins of waking up? >.<
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Old Dec 07, 2012, 01:55 PM
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Im off to see the wizard... Thanks everyone!
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Old Dec 07, 2012, 01:57 PM
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Good luck Lola
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Old Dec 07, 2012, 02:05 PM
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Ugh. It's taken me 4 hours to catch up on the couch thread....darn customers. LOL

Good luck at T Lola

(((MUE))) I really feel for you. Sorry you are going through such a rough patch.
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Old Dec 07, 2012, 02:28 PM
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Back from lunch....Not feeling much better, but it served as a distraction at the time. I am not having a good day at all.

T responded to my email saying, "Let's talk about this on a better day. I simply wanted to make it easier to talk about, not create undue distress. See if you can find something constructive to do today so you aren't continuing to harm yourself. I had a cancellation at 3:45 if you need to come in."

Yeah, just what I need, another session that I can't afford...
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Old Dec 07, 2012, 02:30 PM
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MUE, please don't hurt yourself. You mean so much to so many people. I hope your lunch went well and lifted your spirits.

Lola, I've had that happen several times lately. They're actually the sessions I dread the most, because T gets to start the conversation and we almost always go somewhere I don't really want to go. In the end, though, sometimes they turn out to be the most effective.

I'm starting to get over T yesterday, but now I'm just feeling embarrassed and ashamed and exposed.
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Old Dec 07, 2012, 02:31 PM
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GAAAH!!!
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Old Dec 07, 2012, 02:32 PM
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Old Dec 07, 2012, 02:33 PM
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its so awkward..I just walk in and go.... "ok what today".... Makes me wonder if I even need T anymore.

He wants me to learn to let out little Lola in session.... I don't know how to do that. I told him he should take me drinking then!
Doing sand play in t always brought out little artemis - I would catch myself like skipping between the sand tray and the shelves where the miniatures were and back, and I could almost feel my old ponytails bobbing up and down. i had to change that to past tense since she's not HERE anymore. Bah.

In fact I found the sand play so helpful in figuring things out that I'm putting together my own set - a plastic box w/ a lid so I can close up the sand and keep it clean, and I'm slowly gathering a collection of little miniature everythings to use with it. I got to the point where I was analyzing my own sand trays from memory between sessions w/out needing t's input. I love sand play it is so tremendously cool and recommend it highly!
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Old Dec 07, 2012, 02:51 PM
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I have/had same issue.... I had something that I didn't want to tell T about past and I had to have him sit on same wall and us not looking at each other to talk about it...

20 seconds of courage to talk about the one thing you thought you wouldn't say out loud... ?

once my t suggested we pick a feeling and talk about a time I felt that way... that really brought up a lot of stuff ....
that is kind of interesting RR i might try that sometime
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Old Dec 07, 2012, 02:54 PM
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spill chopin whats wrong
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Old Dec 07, 2012, 03:15 PM
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Chopin what's going on?? Co-Workers pecking at you again?
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Old Dec 07, 2012, 03:17 PM
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I was woken by a small earthquake after 3 hours sleep. So tired.Was too worried about my horse to get any more sleep. Still no word back from my T (who has contacted me during the weekend before, so no idea what's going on there, since I didn't even hear back during the week).

Going to head out to see my horse now, who I can't imagine will be looking any better by this morning.
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Old Dec 07, 2012, 03:19 PM
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Let us know how the horse is doing.
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Old Dec 07, 2012, 03:27 PM
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Well my farrier is a legend. My horses hooves grow really, really slowly, so I hardly ever call him. He's coming within about half an hour of where my horse is today before rushing off in the other direction...and he agreed immediately to come and see my boy.

Half the time in the past he wouldn't charge me anything for a first visit after months and months without, because that's how little my boys hooves grow too.

Some people are such good people. I'm glad something little went right today.
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Old Dec 07, 2012, 03:32 PM
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Hey couch! Been a busy day, still not done. Have practice for Christmas practice in a couple of hours. However, for now.. I am home. No T for me today like usual.

(((hugs MUE))
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Old Dec 07, 2012, 03:33 PM
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healed..... welcome home, grab you a nap before the practice!
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Old Dec 07, 2012, 03:44 PM
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healed..... welcome home, grab you a nap before the practice!

No nap for me.. I will relax at about 9pm tonight.

This is hard, being in charge of something, when my depression is getting worse and worse.. I have to show up and act like I have my crap together, and I don't! I want to be in bed!
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