C O U C H 39 -The Renaissance Period

Sometimes I feel like I am Reg and sometimes I am Judith. In real life, I am more often Reg. On this forum, perhaps more Judith.

Stan: It's every man's right to have babies if he wants them.
Reg: But you can't have babies.
Stan: Don't you oppress me.
Reg: I'm not oppressing you Stan, you haven't got a womb! Where's the fetus going to gestate? You going to keep it in a box?
Judith: Here! I've got an idea: Suppose you agree that he can't actually have babies, not having a womb - which is nobody's fault, not even the Romans' - but that he can have the right to have babies.
Francis: Good idea, Judith. We shall fight the oppressors for your right to have babies, brother... sister, sorry.
Reg: What's the point?
Francis: What?
Reg: What's the point of fighting for his right to have babies, when he can't have babies?
Francis: It is symbolic of our struggle against oppression.
Reg: It's symbolic of his struggle against reality.

(monty python - life of brian)

Why does my T never speak to me like that?

Perhaps it is not her style, perhaps she does not know how, perhaps she is just a giant bit ch. It may be time to find one who will talk to you like that if it is what you think you want.

Cuz your brain shuts off after you hear "I love you"? I don't see why your t would have cause to say anything else that Chopin wrote. And I can tell you blocked me!! (Mkac got me thinking!)

Ok well your my favorite Alien SD... Wanna hug me?

Hi couch! Just dropped by for a minute to say HI and hope everyone's having a good day. I'm doing laundry and cleaning the house but I took a lil break, I better get back to it. Hugs to all.

LC -Thank you. Shazbot. And no, of course not.

Afternoon everyone. I hope everyone enjoys their weekend.

God save me... About to enter Walmart on a Saturday to go grocery shopping!!!

How does one go about getting t couch condemned by the board of health? Yuck...he is Too cheap to get a new one. Guess I don't pay him enough, ha

We're pretty good at trashing couches. You could have us all pocket ride to your next session. that should do it.

Because it you I wont be offended!

I'm thinking. Oh the thinks you can think!

Nope. I didn't block you.
I hope you are teasing me, because I would be sad if you believed that for real.

Does my brain really shut off after I hear, "I love you"?

Just making sure (about the blockIng), like I said, I get paranoid. And doesn't everybody's brain turn off after they hear I love you? for good or for bad! I should have made that clear!

I think the real reason T is not gentle with me is that she does not want to sooth me. She wants to "hold me in the moment of discomfort". Or as we say in English, hurt me.

Hello all,

Rainy saturday here in the mid-atlantic. And what was just an annoying stuffy nose has now turned into a full buttload of sinus pain. I haven't sneezed this much since cleaning under my bed. Everything is clear though, so hopefully no sinus infection.

For some reason, feeling this way makes the T pain this week feel all the more acute.

I am starting to wonder if they just maybe don't know how to be soothing or gentle to a client. My T certainly seems to lack the ability. I hope she is better with her family/children. (sorry to rant)

That truly sounds horrifying. I do not go to wal-mart willingly. Their parking lots are just insanity. Good luck.

Looks like I have the couch all to myself. I think I shall spread myself out.

It's odd but I don't see "hold me in the moment of discomfort" and "hurt me" as the same thing. I don't like the phrase "hold me" so I've chosen to think of it as "sitting with me in the moment of discomfort"... and hurt me...

The moment of discomfort is mine and I would most likely have that same moment of discomfort if whatever triggered it was with my T or with another person... so I don't view it as "hurt me"...

"to hurt me" seems to me to be intentional...with motive... I don't see that... I see how it could feel like that... My xT had said atleast two very hurtful things but they were also very logical things that if I had perspective I would have been able to see for myself.

Road Trip! Someone grab the couch.........



I call shot gun!

So, I had my nails done and made bread.

The lady who did my nails was so sweet. She was rubbing my arms, and I felt kind of ashamed by what she saw. SHe just rubbed them with lotion and looked at me with such kindness. She is Asian. I guess she's seen a lot.

My nails look great. I mean great.

For some reason, I took a lot of comfort in getting that manicure done, then coming home to a warm house and the smell of bread.

I spoke to a friend and took a long nap. Then I had a great cup of coffee.

I'll make it back. I will, I will.

I am so in that van. Sooooo in that van.

CE, do you really think that? That she wants to hurt you?