Couch 55...And on it goes....

I know this is not accurate, but whenever I think of Norway, I think of the Monty Python dead parrot sketch.

"This parrot has ceased to be."
"He's not dead, he's merely pining for the fjords."

Because, you know, Norway is all fjords in my mind.

well, here's the thing....it was a snowy woodland, and it looked flat. There was some mountainage in the far distance, but not enough to consider Norway. And the road signs looked American.

ha ha ha ha
I didn't see any fjords in the woodland either.
omg...almost wet myself.

Ok...I redeemed myself...I just pinpointed a place in Sweden, and I was barely 75 km off. Not too shabby. I think I saw you btw...lol.

Woo! Go wiki!! Gotta ask now - where was it?

Um...karls something? Dang....can't remember the name...Southwestern Sweden.

(it was pure luck...BTW...I had no idea where I was, but it looked Swedish!)

Stupid Stupid anxiety.....

it felt like I was going to have a panic attack just trying to decide if my H wanted me to take my son to a meeting or if he wanted to go.... I felt like a little kid trying to decide what answer my dad wanted to hear...

ughh...

I love this Wiki, but i suck at it also.

(((Ready)))

Sometimes I ask myself what the worst thing that could happen if I am wrong is. He won't hit you. He won't leave. He may say "I want to take him"...and he may get angry, but his anger can't hurt you really. Not like your dad's could.

Logically I know all of that is true.... I just hate that part of me.... absolutely hate it...

what is this geo game? is it an app for an Ipad or something?

That was fun! I just tried it.

Well...I am home from a long day of work. Well I actually got home 2 hours ago, but one of my kitties decided to pee on the carpet in the bedroom (where they were locked today so the repairman could fix my A/C while I was gone) even though they had their litter box in there.

I had pet stain/odor remover, but it didn't lift the stain at all. So, I googled how to remove cat urine and found a few sites that said mix hydrogen peroxide with baking soda and a little bit of dish soap, so I decided to try it. It has to dry before I will know if it worked or not. I am hoping it will. Bad kitties.

Wiki Point inflation. I remember you handed them out in ones and twos.

I think this goes too far. Parents should take care of themselves.

I hear you on this, CE. I was thinking the same thing...except I wouldn't call it "selfish needs and wants" rather than doing things for ones self as a form of good self care. We all need to take care of our own needs and wants which may conflict with the needs and wants of others. I'd consider that different than the intended message of "selfish needs and wants".

*** MAY TRIGGER - Funeral/Death ***

Feeling really sad tonight....

I just left my friend's FIL's viewing. Funerals are so hard for me because it brings back so many things from my dad's death that I've avoided. I haven't gone through all of the stages of grief and haven't really let myself...so when I go to funerals, it really stirs that pot.

My friend and I were talking with a group of people, and someone asked how her husband was handling it (He and I are also friends.). She said, "Not so good. I mean, I don't think he's handling it in a healthy way. He reminds me of YOU!"....and she pointed to me and then said, "Remember how you would listen to your dad's voice on your answering machine over and over and over again? He's doing the same thing - in a panic saying that he can't ever forget his dad's voice."....My heart just broke into a million pieces.

I feel so awful for him. And I feel so awful for me....being reminded of that time sucks, although I should be over it by now, it's been 6 years.

I think I used too much hydrogen peroxide...the carpet is still pretty wet. Hopefully it will be dry in the morning. Th bug guy is coming tomorrow to do a preventive spray and I don't think the carpet can be wet for that. Hmmmm...

My poor kitties will have to be locked up again, as I will not be home (I have to work). I'm locking them in the bathroom this time, laminate is much easier to clean pee off of than carpet...if one of them decides they are "mad" about being locked up and goes outside the litter box again.

You can blow it dry with a hair dryer if you have one, but I think they usually spray more around the perimeter of places and so a spot of wet carpet should not be too big of a deal, I would imagine it would not interfere with the spraying.

That is why the quote talks about selfish needs and wants and no legitimate self care kinds of things. There is a difference between the mom who arranges safe child care for her kid to take a weekend for herself and the mom who leaves her kids in a dangerous situation and heads to the bar. Or the person who attends to what he of she wants or needs ahead of vital needs of the child. I need something versus my child's safety and my child's safety is most important every time. My H does domestic work and he is forever getting women who insist they need help and their children are in danger, but when push comes to shove, they spend money on cigarettes and social stuff rather than pay for an attorney to do the legal work necessary to get safety for the children.

It's a matter of driving down the road until you get to a readable road sign. A test more of patience than anything else.

That might be one way of doing it, I guess, but it's not really the point of the game for me anyway

I agree I rely on my geographical and botanical knowledge. The most I've been out has been 1500 kms. Is that good?

Mind you the Baltic sea maybe in those 1500 kms.

Hi, I am new here, so I am sorry if this is an out of place comment, but I was worried by some of your comments.
You say you haven't gone through all the stages of grief.
It is really important that you know there is not a right way to grieve, and that the stages of grief really aren't stages. You can feel any of them at any time or stage, and it is entirely appropriate to feel that way. You don't have to pass through them in any order or fel each of them at all, and you don't have to "move on".
There is no "closure", but feelings will fade in time and you will learn to deal with them, but you can be quite justified in feeling strongly about a loss many years later. The feelings of grief will never fade completely, and they will come and go.
Why should you be over it by now? Losing your father is a major thing, and you still grieve for your him. Feeling these things strongly again when someone else is going through it is normal.
What is being "over it"? To me it sounds like a dismissive way of talking about something so important. I think that the friend you were talking with would have phrased it in a less hurtful way if they said, "I am worried about him. He is very sad and seems to be dwelling on a fear of forgetting his father." Perhaps offering to keep the recording somehow, or reminiscing about how his father sounded, some of his turns of phrase, the tone of his voice, would have been more helpful.
To say they don't think his way of handling it is healthy, like yours, is to judge the way he is grieving, and to judge the way you are grieving too. To judge assumes there is a right way, and a wrong way.
If you can acknowledge your grief rather than worry about it, it will be less stressful for you.