Couch 60: Don't forget the beachball!

are you talking about with your T

I would go for it .I don't think your T would offer if it was not ok with him

Yes Granite. I know the boundaries but I really don't know where they end.

I totally understand that. I am terrified of bouncing against my T boundaries. I do when I e-mail and she can respond quite strongly. but I do believe you T wouldn't have offered if it was not ok .maybe send an e-mail accepting the session

I go on a target run and missed action on the couch. Now I'm at laundromat doing laundry for my son...there are three guys who got out of a big delivery truck sitting on the curb outside the pizza place next to laundromat. Wish their pizza would be ready so they would leave...I'm sitting in my car

Nah - my mother just rolled my hair around her finger and made Shirley Temple ringlets - I had natural curly hair, so darling! Now I look like President Eisenhower!

Thanks granite I've texted him but he gets booked out so quickly I've kicked myself several times when I've changed my mind before. I think "If in doubt take the appointment" should be my motto.

I don't think a T would offer anything they weren't ready to accept.

It's like the Ringo Starr song - all you gotta do is Act Naturally. What would you do with a normal person? Your t does not have horns or a halo. Hey it only took me 40 years to figure this out!

Hank
Everyone has horns, I'm terrified of pushing everyones boundaries. It just with my T even if he gently reprimands me it feels like the wrath of god coming don on my head so imagine what I'm like with bosses and other people,

I also have to so careful when signing off texts with him as I normally sign off with a shortened form of my name as my IRL name takes so long to put in a text. He thought i was being overly familar with him the first time I did.

No one outside Australia and New Zealand knows what a pavlova is.

If you feel you need an earlier session, it is OK to ask for it.

OMG How sad for the rest of the world!

NZ can have the jandals and we'll take credit for the Pav agreed?

Ill bite , What is it?

Tee hee....Lola said she'd bite....

Beaten egg whites and sugar baked in a very hot oven mainly served with fruit and cream. Like a large meringue.

Then he's a douche. Which is NOT a type or flavor of pavlova!! (I kinda know what they are!) I mean, he should know to expect abbreviations in texts!!! A pdoc friend of t's that I saw for one session, had all sticks in his office - driftwood, wooden rocking chairs, spindles, etc etc etc. I told t, I only didnt see the stick up his butte! He was very crabby! I found it hilarious that he had all those dam sticks!

Once I explained the reason he seemed ok, but I think he forgets at times.

Nope we get both. You get the Marmite.
hee hee I'd bite too!

Marmite? Marmite I'd rather swallow razor blades thanks.

The therapist thought you were being too familiar because you used your own nickname?
That seems a bit touchy to me. I mean if you used a nickname for him I could see it, or a nickname only your favorite ex-lover used, but just your general or even familial nickname is your deal, not overly familiar at the therapist. In my opinion.

Absolutely agree. A nickname is a name, not a term of endearment. It's not like you signed off, "your sweetie-pie" or anything like that.
A T should be happy to communicate with informal language, because that is what we use when relaxed...

Which is why I expect the therapist I see to call me by my formal title and last name. Dr. X (ph.d not md). Or even Frau Dr. X or even more by the last 4 digits of my social security number. I think I will insist she refer to me as client 1234.