Couch 91 - Forget the small change

I can't figure out that hidden trigger thing

I'm hitting that wall right now, but I will respond tomorrow, Mast!

Hope everyone else has a lovely evening and start to their Friday.

WHY can't I sleep more than 6 hours? My brain just wakes up at 4-ish and refuses to go back to sleep. Grrrrrrr.

Quiet on the couch tonight. Hope everyone is okay!!

Took me a while and now i have forgotten it.

Im ok just waiting for eldest daughter to ring so i can pick her up.

The original instructions weren't terribly clear.

Here's what you do. First type this: [tri.g.ge.r] without the periods.

Then just type your text. At the end type: [/tr.i.gg.er] without the periods. That will cause all your text between those two trigger thingies to be hidden. I had to add the periods to prevent it from creating the hidden message!

Don't forget the brackets.

It is all grey and rainy here. I want sun.

Here is a handy guide to the various codes we can use in messages.
(Also reachable at the bottom of each page, in the box with the heading "Posting Rules" - click the link "BB code")

Whoa, quiet couch day!

Look what I did, by myself, with a screwdriver, not a drill:

I'm ridiculously pleased with myself. (And my hands hurt)

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Good job!

That makes my hands hurt just looking at it LOL

JS, that's so impressive!

So I'm on board with the gender fluidity concept, and it is my understanding that for some, it means they might feel more feminine in some aspects at times, and can switch to feeling more masculine at other times.

This plays out for me in an odd way. Physically, I have what could be considered a feminine build (big boobs + curves), much to my dismay at times. But I've always been a tomboy, passed for a boy for a few years before puberty put a quick stop to that, and I dress pretty neutrally most days (jeans + chucks + t-shirts or hoodies). I rarely wear makeup. So I don't think most people would categorize me as a "feminine" person. Sometimes I'll change it up and wear a flowy shirt, and form-fitting jeans, and boots, with my hair down, and on those days I come across as very feminine (still no makeup though). And I definitely FEEL more feminine on those days, whereas I FEEL more gender neutral (though still slightly towards the feminine side of things) most days.

What I wonder is: where does behavior and personality fit into all this? I'd say that I have pretty "feminine" values. I put a great deal of effort into relationship building (on personal, professional, and community levels), I am not a particularly competitive person (a trait some might consider more "masculine"), and I am a caregiver extraordinaire (thanks, cr@ppy childhood!). If those values informed my gender in any way, I'd say I'm pretty darn feminine. Does any of this make sense?

I had a few (er, several) beers a few weeks ago with a friend, and we came up with this...what if gender was measured on an X/Y graph, with appearance being one axis and values being the other? IDK, just something we were happily bantering about after a few strong beers.

Anyway, I think this is great stuff to talk about with your T. I know I've chewed my T's ear off over random stuff like this several times. It is very strange to think about yourself and your identity in a whole different context. And sorry for the delay in responding!

Also, I don't want to come across as saying that relationship building and caregiving are innate feminine behaviors, or that competitiveness is an innate masculine behavior. More like those are traits that are often encouraged in female children (relationships, caregiving) or male children (competitiveness).

lol, I've done that. I'll get into a mindset where I'm like "I'm assembling this random house thing NOW and I'm NOT going to wait for a power tool!"

And 2 hours later it's usually done but my hands are down a few layers of skin

I am completely impressed. This is so not my skill set. Really honestly. Mine would be not in line when I swore it was while doing it.

And it's so new and shiny!

Now your hands deserve a treat of some kind.

Not going to be very talkative today. Therapy day.

Ahoy couch! Today was hella busy at work, glad that's done. Came home, finished fixing my bed, proud to say I'm no longer sleeping on a mattress on the floor. My tired achy and OLD self has a really hard time getting on and off the floor. Plus the nightstand was so high I felt like a Lilliputian!

JS I'm seriously impressed right now! Even with a drill I never would've gotten that aligned. You are awesome!

Hope everyone is doing all right. Peek in!

Forcing myself to meet with friends at a theme park so the kids can run amok instead of driving me crazy at home when I just want to sit quietly with myself.

Thanks everyone I remember the first time stbx put a chain on a door - it was all lopsided and he had to put a chunk of wood under it to even it out. And he used a drill
I almost want call him up to gloat... No, not really. Wouldn't be worth it

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The original instructions weren't terribly clear.

Here's what you do. First type this: [tri.g.ge.r] without the periods.

Then just type your text. At the end type: [/tr.i.gg.er] without the periods. That will cause all your text between those two trigger thingies to be hidden. I had to add the periods to prevent it from creating the hidden message!

Don't forget the brackets.
[/trigger]

I can't focking believe it, I managed to work out the fecking trigger thing!!!

My downstairs neighbor reminds me of a dirty version of the stbx. Yuck.