Couch 117: Come On In and Set-tee A While

Are you talking about me, the troll, or both?

Afternoon, couch.

I am still up and need to eat something. I better go do that even though I am not hungry seeming that I only at a tiny bit yesterday and don't want to starve myself.

More than a bit lost on how to explain the ongoing soap-opera that my life has become to my therapist this afternoon..

of course my life continues to mess with me . i just had to cancel next weeks session because i need to bring my step mother to her doc apt ware she finds out if the bladder cancer has gotten into the muscle wall of her bladder . of course it has to be at 215 and my T apt is at 3 in another town . it was probibly going to be the iast session in the clinic but no everyone else in my life has needs that require me to give up anything good for me .once again i know my place in life

Crocus, I'd bet anything your troll is a weak minded little **** who can only feel not horrible by being nasty to others. Never, ever believe a word it says.

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If he cannot use the proper form of the word, he definitely is not right.

JS! Look what I found for you! (at least I think you have cats...) Art, might benefit as well.

I always like it when someone invents a product that I would not buy for my pets to try. It makes me seem(at least to myself) less crazy about stuff I do buy for the pets.

I would tell the stepmother to take a cab or at least that I was otherwise engaged. One does not have to let others dictate their lives to them.

Lmao!
Yeah, I saw that on FB the other day... Knowing my cats I'm willing to bet the one would take a sniff and turn up her nose at it and the other would scarf it in one go and vomit all over the carpet. Either way I'd still be drinking alone

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Say no, Granite. You have an appointment already schedule. You'd be willing to take her at a different time, but that particular time just doesn't work for you. Leave it up to her to find a different way to get there or reschedule HER appointment.

Granite, i agree completely with this.

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Idk, I think that's easier said than done. Doesn't she live like close by? Cancer doctor appointments are not easy to get. They are very crabby there, from my experience. Like your life depends on them or something, go figure! I don't think granite needs us telling her what to do or that she is doing the wrong thing; she's just trying to hang on in a crummy situation right now. A bunch of crummy situations. Shyte hitting the fan from a lot of different directions going in, not just coming out. Hang on sloopy.

Eta - not picking on you Lola but I'm afraid of sd!

Why do more people not understand the laws of social physics? If you stand in a doorway, you will block people going in and out and they will get irritated.

It is like when people get off of an elevator but don't move at all past the doors of it. Or at the end of an escalator = stepping off and stopping.

I looked at it like expressing a general idea (one of about 4 of them that I truly and almost without exception believe) that one has choices one can make and no one needs let another turn them into a victim. I am very big on choice. I was not telling anyone they were doing the right or wrong thing - I was saying what I would do.

Also - my person changes her oncology appointments all the time to fit both our schedules and they always can make it work within about a week- it has happened so much that now they ask ahead of time and they also have in the chart not to set it at a couple of times.

Afternoon, couch. I still have yet to eat. I am just not hungry. Oh well, I can eat later.

That second is a very good point - the difference being, there is a lot of respect between you and your friend, you TALK to each other, which I presume is not the case with granite and her family. It sure wasn't / isn't with me and my family. I am now better with my friends. Family i mostly try to avoid. I don't really know if it will be possible to build good relationships now that mother has passed.

I have an excuse. (autism) But I actually read books on etiquette and stuff to improve.

And tell me beet juice doesn't stain?! Dollars to donuts this is NOT a cat lady's idea. Just sayin'!

I am pretty sure this person was just afflicted with stupidity.

Since when are you afraid of SD? If you guys were a circus act, she'd be the lion and you would be the trainer who sticks his head into the lion's jaws.

It can be changed, probably within the week. Been there; done that many times. I would also suspect Granite is not the only person who could be asked to provide transportation.

I'm not trying to tell Granite what to do, but I suspect standing up for her own rights and needs is something Granite has trouble doing because her family has a way of making her believe she isn't important enough or valued enough. Personally, I find Granite quite valuable and choose to encourage her to stand up for her own needs where she can.

Thank you all. It's not the troll itself, though; I have successfully not broken down under his frequent attacks since mid-February or so and I know quite well that he is not worth my concern. But something else happened today, with somebody who does know me very well, and that did break me down a bit. And even though troll boy is a wanker who doesn't know anything about me and only uses me to vent some kind of frustration and thwarted wishes, the almost constant barrage of invective (which tallies very well with my own self talk) made the situation today much more difficult to bear. If that makes sense.

Anyway. Happy Midsummer's Eve tomorrow. It will rain here, which is very traditional. I hope your T will be enjoying himself anyway, unaluna. Does he know the froggy dance and the words to the schnapps songs? (Silly question, I'm sure he does.)

I believe the first point is the better one