Dear Client

Stop texting me.

Im not going to drop you or refer you out just over this little thing. STOP STRESSING OUT OVER IT.

I’m very frustrated with you but I don’t “own my stuff” and I can’t be bothered to be gentle with you. You don’t “deserve” gentleness

(And fwiw this is my spin on things in THIS moment. My spin on how he may have been feeling... not all the time........ I have never been inside his mind. I wouldn’t want to ..)

(I’m not a qualified psychologist. I’m just a person..I’m Fuzzybear.)

(If I could “move on” I would..... I “dislike” having to fight the system for even basic care. This is my experience. I don’t speak for the “majority” (the “majority” are perhaps rather silent anyway )

Art, thank you for sharing that. I look forward to hearing more on Thursday.
-t

Trail.

I told you when you first started this, that people may not like the changes that you make. They may not like the person you become as you heal.

I’ve told you that you are a power house and you are strong.

Don’t forget that.

It may not be a good place right now. Just stay strong and don’t give in.

You do belong here and you do have a purpose.

You were known before the foundations of this earth was created and everything that you have walked through has a purpose.

Don’t give up.

Be strong. You do belong here.

You have a purpose and a plan for your life and it is good!

Trust me.

M.

Dear Butterfly,

Please just admit you are a lesbian and accept yourself. I don't understand why you won't.

-T

Stop doing this to yourself. Just stop. You're being stupid.

Do you really think I'm going to miss you? Lol. No.
I'll actually be relieved. And so will everyone

Dear Client,
Why are you so smart and questioning me? Please, just stop it, you're not going to be successful if you keep this up

Did your t and my t just attend the same seminar or something? Hugs

Maybe we've got the same t.

I'm not giving up on you. You're giving up on yourself. And there's nothing I can do about that.

Beside,

You are okay. We are okay. Do not let your imagination run wild. I promise when I see you I will be the same kind, caring, incredibly patient, and somewhat sarcastic T I have always been. I'm not going to change and I am not going to give up on you. Take care of yourself and find a way to battle against those irrational thoughts. See you in 10 days.

Dear LT,
You have plenty of issues to warrant coming to therapy long-term--trust me! And you know I'm saying and doing these things out of genuine care for you, right? Because I really do care. I hope that comes out like I mean it to. I mean, maybe you're used to the over-the-top caring demonstrations of ex-MC, so mine might seem a bit more subtle. But they're there.
--Dr. T

Art,

It was a challenging and uncomfortable session on my end, too. I can only imagine what you're thinking. And really very surprised that you haven't emailed.

See you Thursday.
T

Was the letter and transitional object not enough? Do you have to contact me on holiday too? Geez Echos p*** off and leave me alone for a few weeks.

Dear LT,
Now I understand why Dr. Ex-MC said you had to limit contact. Do you ever shut up? I thought I gave you lots of reassurance today. Apparently nothing is enough for you! Maybe you'll just decide to leave?
Dr. T

Dear Esme,

Hush, dry your tears. You are in expert hands, even though you are suspicious and gunshy of male authority figures. I don't put the family pictures there to make my clients who lost children or who had bad childhoods or fertility struggles feel less-than. I do it bc being a heterosexual married man is bedrock to my identity, and softens the blank slate off-putting neutrality in a way with which I can live, without exposing anything not bland. You have your own life, and I have mine. We meet at appointed times to speak about unspeakable things. Do not expect more. This is what you pay me for, no less and no more.

Esme, My idea of going into private practice was to take it easy- do a little good work, have a ton of family time, treat some easy cases. I thought you were going to be one, and I let you be my favorite at first, exchanging funny emails and keeping it light. We are the same age, and you seemed very put together. I made a mistake in telling you exquisite and everything had to change. Boundaries in lock down. Wife, wife wife, wife. I told you sublimating is the highest of the defenses, that and humor. Thus we recall ourselves to ourselves, and those boundaries are starting to work; you are getting better and I am holding the space, holding it tight.

Art, what on earth is going on with you? I get so annoyed when you say you are nervous. What the actual hell after all this time? I meant it about you wasting all that time. You're a loser. So help me if you cry the whole hour again I'm booting you out the door. T

I think my new T would say, I've only seen you three times but I'm already done with you. You're out the door. You spent too long in therapy with your last T, you're obviously not better yet. I doubt you ever will be. You're taking up space on my calendar. I'd rather help someone else who I think will actually get better in only 4 sessions. Oh and, your meds aren't working. You need to be inpatient in the care of someone else and out of my hands.

Get your s--t together. You want your life to fall apart because you're f---ing stupid. You have great things going for you and you're f---ing ignoring them. You stupid piece of s--t. So many people have actual problems and you're just pretending you do. Dumb*ss. I can't believe I have to work with someone as stupid and stubborn as you. You're wasting my time. You only come because you like me. You don't even want to get better.

Hello Lady, please know my leaving had nothing to do with abandoning you. I always intended to have some contact with you even after I retire, whenever that was. You are a strong woman and I am thankful to be a part of your life and healing journey. Thank you for trusting me and opening up with me. I know it was hard. I will still be a part of your journey just from heaven. I will always be a part of the voices that we discussed and I will send you strength. I always said I would do anything to be able to take away your pain. I am so sorry my death is causing you so much pain. I know you are in good hands with Emdr T and she will help you on the journey to continued healing. I always told you it is healthy to cry and it was okay to cry in front of me. I am sorry that I am what caused you to cry so much.

I have met your mom she truly is the amazing person you always described. I always knee she would be proud of the woman and mother you are and that she is. She is sad that you are sad but she is also sending you strength. She is so sprry for the pain you endured in life. She never knew the events of your teen years. She would never have allowed it to continue.

Until We meet again knpw I do love I just couldn't say it because of the limitations of our work. I once told you that everybody I meet teaching me something. You taught me such. Thanks again my dear.

Dear Fuzzybear

Get your **** together. Have a nice life.

(what he does and would say)
Hi M:
This is something that really should be discussed in session... For now, just know that it all belongs.
See you then,
T

(what i want him to say)
Dear M,
You're so insightful. It's true, this relationship is meaningful to me as well. Yes, the limits are set in place for a reason - wouldn't it be lovely if we could stretch them a bit? A normal conversation over tea would be delightful....
Warmly,
T