Couch 127: The Wayward Couch

Hugs growly. My H passed out in a public place in September and it was terribly traumatic for me. (Linked into some past trauma I think) but I know how it shakes you up to witness it. Wishing her a speedy recovery and I hope you are okay.

Hugs growly I hope everything works out well and that you're doing ok, sending you good thoughts.

i had a huge dizzy spell when i was at the casino . that was scary because if i ever have them they only last seconds and its over .no big deal this seemed to last forever .i finely said to my husband that im not doing ok and that i was really dizzy and at that point it went away . i hope this isnt going to be a new thing . i also have not called the mother and i am feeling so guilty about it . my T thinks it best i have no contact with her at all. i just dont know if i agree or not

Monstrous would be teralogy.

Maybe she asked him!

You're a dying breed!

well my h went to bed about half an hour ago, it's only like 5pm here, I don't know what is wrong with him because he won't talk to me. apparently i did something wrong but i don't know what. here we go again.. i am trying to just let him deal with himself and not go in there. but i feel like crying. sorry couch.

eta but i just don't understand why he does this sometimes. it's been awhile since he has. i can't help but think i did something wrong otherwise wouldn't he talk to me?

i'm sitting here doing exactly what t and i talked about i should not do. i am trying to feel myself like i think he feels. and that is just dumb. because it doesn't take away how he feels it just makes both of us miserable. but i don't know how else to be. i don't know how to not do that. i have been working so hard in therapy trying to make myself a better person. why am i still not enough? maybe i'm really never going to be good enough for anyone. maybe i just really do suck. maybe i should just pack up a bag and leave. my son doesn't need me anymore. h obviously doesn't even care enough to talk to me.

i'm sorry couch. my heart just really hurts right now. i'm going to go take a hot bath and try to think about something else.

Art, this is about him and his inability to deal with his own stuff, or conflict or something. His lack of ability has nothing to do with your worth as a person. Easy to say, and hard to feel, I know.

Art - just leave him be, and leave yourself be too. It either has nothing to do with you, or it does - in which case the ball is in his court to explain what's up. Just try to enjoy your evening. Clueless? Free Nook book for your 15-year-old?

Eta: hot bath, excellent idea.

Art I'm so sorry you are hurting so much. I agree this is your h's stuff he needs to work through. What if it has nothing to do with you? What if your medical event earlier just scared him of losing you and he is irrationally angry about that? Not your fault. I'm sure he will come around. Do something for you. Once mom is squared away I may take a hot shower. What a day huh?

I survived the holiday with the triggering sibling. I drank more than I can handle (got nauseous) but I am giving myself a pass on that since it distracted me enough that we could play a game until it was time to leave.

I will see if my anxiety really escalates now. It doesn't feel as bad as usual, which is encouraging.

I hope everyone is having a decent night.

Bark wanted to help unwrap presents this year!

i love the prsent-unwrapping kitty! that made me smile, thank you.

What?! I just saw that George Michael died today.

what is a laryngospasm?
whooaa...deep breath...there could be many reasons why your husband went to bed at 5, but let him be and try not to catastrophize (?) your entire life. You know you are a good mom, remember that! Like someone else suggested, maybe he was freaked out by what happened? He isn't perfect, and hopefully tomorrow he will be able to explain it to you.

I'm sorry you feel so terribly about this Did he suddenly say "I'm going to bed," and that was that?

thanks you're right i do tend to catastrophize. no he didn't say anything to me. he jsut went to bed. i asked if he was ok, i asked if he needed anything, he just completely ignored me as though i was not here. i guess i'll find out tomorrow.

So, we got our kiddos a Wii for Christmas and it was a big bundle of games, controllers, everything we needed. It included the game Sims.. I set up a person and was doing fairly well until my Sims got hungry, and had to go the bathroom at the same time. I started dinner went to the bathroom and caught my kitchen and then myself on fire.. Then I died. Unsuccessful first try at a virtually life. Though h and I were laughing hysterically as my character ran around the house on fire, I wasn't sure how to put it out!!

Even if he was lying about his age, 53 is pretty young.

Yeah, my father only made it to 52. His mother, to 44.

Having a hard time getting to sleep. Mom has been sick all night. Still won't let me take her to urgent care

Rick Parfaitt from a Status Quo died on Thursday I think aswell

((( hug ))). I'm so sorry your heart hurts! I know how that feels. I hope the bath helped and you were able to rest.

Thanks. I just realized something big from what you said - that's why he married me huh - because he can't deal with his own stuff and he knows i will take it on and try to deal with it for him. Yowza!!! so it's not about me. well it kinda is because i always try to feel his stuff for him.... but it's really all about him. Thank you.

Thank you for always being so kind. You are such a blessing here on PC. I did finally get to sleep last night...

...and dreamed quite an adventure that I am going to turn into a short story. It had mystery and intrigue and stuff that is in no way related to my 'real' life and should be fun to write. in the dream i was more than one of the characters which was cool. i was seeing the story from the point of view of not only a woman who kinda got caught up in a situation she didn't belong in but also a gangster, a man, which was interesting. maybe more animus at work here. that's what t would say. i can't wait to talk to her on wednesday about the email from last week (which will be uncomfortable!) and about this dream and the one about her from saturday night. working on this story will take my mind off of whatever is going on with h. i still don't know but i'm not going to worry about it because if he didn't deem it necessary to speak with me then i obviously don't need to waste any brain cells on it. i'm gonna just be me.

Hugs to all who want them, have a good day couchies!!