Couch 129: The Semiprime Couch

Love tom Brady but he has bad taste in friends

BOOOOO!!! PATRIOTS GOAT!!!! Best game ever!

I can not tell you how excited we are in PATRIOTS NATION!

PS: GOAT= "Greatest Of All Time"

PPS: LT, hope we can still be friends

I LOVE Brady, Belichick and Kraft but why oh why do they all have to like TRUMP???

I know!!! Still love Tom Brady wish he would lose the trumps.

Happy Waitangi Day CE

This thread on reddit on erotic transference scares me - https://www.reddit.com/r/psychothera..._transference/

These seem like very young and inexperienced t's so I don't find it scary
Reddit is a bit of a cesspool anyways.

My T is young and inexperienced (3 years practice after her doctorate) so I'm worried she internally is squicked out about my ET.

I know she doesn't feel love or romantic feelings for me (I talked about how I know these childlike love and sometimes romantic love feelings are unrequited and that it's due to what she gives me), just that she cares about me.

But now I'm worried... the Ts there all seem so, so strict. Even those who say they do schema therapy like my T don't seem willing to hug.

Schema therapy is a modality where the T's willingness to touch is really encouraged and unwillingness for the T to touch is seen as an issue/schema of the T in the clinical books too... :/

Whining here because I don't want to overshare all over FB in a desperate display of attention seeking.


Just ranting, ranting. Sorry.

I treated myself to ice cream to avoid going "home" so soon after work. I had coffee ice cream (there are several blends of coffee flavour) because that's my fav flavour in general. I'll lie to my family and say I worked late.

Is it seriously Monday? And is it seriously after 7:30 EST? Time to get to work. We didn't even do anything this weekend and boom. Weekend is over.
Quiet Mind..I read everything you posted, just have to drive now and can't respond but know I was "listening" hugs.

Hugs quietmind. How was your coffee ice cream?

It's almost 2 p.m where i life, so luckily, monday is almost over

It's OK, we can still be friends

Congrats...I guess...

QM, is it possible you could talk more to your friend and T about her experiences moving OUT and getting her own place? Could you maybe room with her while you transition to being on your own. I know where you live you said it was traditional to live with your parents until you marry, but traditional does not equal mandatory. I had very controlling parents who expected us to live at home until married and even moving to a dorm for college was a huge deal. My older sibling lived at home until married, so it was a huge deal for me to refuse to come home one summer. I thought they would actually arrive to drag me home, but they didn't. They screamed and fussed and guilt tripped me, but once the initial storms were over, all I got were periodic sarcastic, derogatory remarks about my lack of family feeling. I could deal with those because I could retreat to my own place after.

Just an idea and just my experience in case it is useful. If not, please feel free to tell me to keep my nose out of it.

And the Suprr Bowl and election results are proof karma does not exist and god has officially written off this country.

if that's the case then party on, wayne (party on, garth). I'ma call in sick and go back to bed!

just playing, not really. but it felt good to pretend for a minute. heading out to work now. have a good day couchies! catch ya at lunch!

i never considered what i went through with my dad as abuse until my T just said it point blank. it never dawned on me until then.

also when the board of psychology stripped my former T's license from him, they wrote that the relationship was inherently abusive. i felt similarly then, too. like, was that really abuse??? they thought so, but i didnt

anyway, guess im saying that sometimes its hard for abuse victims to reconcile it in their minds that what had happened was "abusive"

Hugs, jDNA. It's definitely hard for me.

Someone who pressured me to confess why I resent my blood sibling laughed at me because it wasn't r*pe. :/

I've always blamed myself for provoking my blood sibling.

I don't see abuse as an absolute. Why would it be okay to dismiss someone's belief that something was not abuse since it would not be okay if someone felt something was abuse? I don't think everyone experiences the same facts as abusive/non-abusive. I would not like having abuse insisted upon me if I did not find what occurred to me to be abusive. I find that a bit patronizing.

The coffee ice cream was really good. I think I'll stop by that ice cream place when I need some quiet on a weekday evening.

MKAC, I can room with that friend if I get kicked out from the family home. I can also crash there if I need a break, I think.

But OK this might sound really pathetic - I need to feel really safe with a person to stay with them.

And it's really embarrassing to say this (because I feel like I'm badmouthing a good person whos been really supportive) but I would get justified criticism from that friend if I bring over a lot of stuff (eg clothes) because I know she provided a refuge to another person and belongings and cleanliness became an issue.

And I'm a slob. When in Scandinavia with my LDR SO (basically the only person I felt comfy sharing a room and house with), he pointed out that I struggle to maintain basic hygiene such as showering regularly and wearing fresh clothes.

I could probably work my way up starting with a "sleepover" once I build enough face to face comfort with that friend though.

OMG yes, I'm afraid my parents will come drag me home too. In order to go to Scandinavia for my trip, I lied a lot because otherwise they were going to insist on coming with me. I basically lied and said I would be living with my SO, his parents and siblings and only then was I allowed to go.

Hmm, I could work up to some story about a group of female friends having a sleepover maybe?

My neighbors have this adorable airdale puppy.
I have always liked how airdale's look - but the terrier personality is not for me.

quietmind, how is it being a special snowflake to have gender confusion? It's no different than any other human struggle with identity. To me, it's being a special snowflake to act like no one else has ever suffered or experienced anything similar, or that they are more deserving somehow of special treatment. All pain and confusion is valid. I, too, have gender confusion and identity problems. The reasons for it may differ, but I don't think it's super special or that other people think it's special. I say, go ahead and let yourself voice whatever is going on.

Wow, the couch added so much since my last post...too much to get caught up now.

I am doing a tad better. Took my mom out to dinner after CVS on Saturday, told her it was just to get her mind off all the garbage, so she couldn't talk about any of it. She mentioned one or two things, but for the most part refrained.

Got a text from my dad while at CVS on Sunday asking if I wanted to meet them (him and my step-mom) for dinner after work, his treat. I hesitated, but decided to accept. I gave my mom a free meal on Saturday, so I saw this as fate paying me back. It went okay. I geared the convo towards work orientated stuff and filing taxes. And it was a quick dinner, we ate at Panda Express. I had never been to one...it wasn't too bad.

I am now in my little room. With this week's rotation, I am in my little room all morning until the period after lunch, then I go out to my first push in class. I need to finish up discussion posts for my master's course. I haven't made any yet (bad Squirrel), so I will not get full points for the week being that it will all be on one day, but some points are better than none. It was a heatic weekend, I even failed to do laundry. I was up till 6:30 in the morning compiling my learning team's individual contributions into one concept map. I didn't start will 2:30 am though when I woke up from where I fell asleep before planning to earlier, so I still got some sleep in.

See pdoc for a "check-in" on Wednesday. Should be shot-free as the last one was only a week ago and I feel less paranoid and am not hearing things anymore. Next week's adventure should be the increased dose.

See T on Thursday in the middle of the day...will probably take the day off from school job since with the T time, I would be at school for 1.5 hours before I had to leave, then would only have 2.5 hours till dismissal when I got back. Easier just to take the day off. I will just day I have a mid-day doctor appointment in another city. Not a lie. T is for mental health and that is important and it is in a different city than my school is in.

Lol. Workers from the district just entered my room to check something on the roof. I guess that is where the stairs go. Gave me a little excitement. People entering my room. They are still on the roof right now.

Well, I better go make some discussion posts. Be back later couch.

Gee, ive never been ellipsisissed before! It feels good!

Heh.

I thought my room was cold. I did never hear the AC/fan on though, but since I was cold I didn't think anything of it. The workers just came down from the roof 15 minutes ago and asked if I ever heard it on. I said no, so they looked at it and said it was "broken" and went out to the truck to get tools and came back and "fixed" it. Now the AC is blowing full blast. Glad I have my jacket today as well as the sweater I put on this morning. It will now be freezing in my little room. Lol. Workers just left.