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Old May 29, 2017, 06:19 PM
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And we never talk to each other about parents or what happened.
SAME........
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Old May 29, 2017, 06:21 PM
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OK, so here's what I actually said (because typing on here helps):
Hi. So I'm upset (crying) about how part of session went today. It felt like you put it back on me, how I feel that you see me as the problem in the relationship. (Like saying it was because of me talking about stuff from my past, etc.) I guess I was hoping maybe you'd take responsibility for giving that impression at times. Like...maybe an apology? Or validation? It also felt like you were avoiding the topic. When it was something really important to me. And something I've addressed with T multiple times (but forbade her from talking to you about). Maybe I didn't do a good enough job explaining it after all...Sorry to rain on your Memorial Day...(I did enjoy the musical numbers.)--LT

(addendum): I’m sure there’s some transference stuff at play here, too...though I also don’t think that doesn’t make my being upset any less legitimate.
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Does all that even make sense? And yes, i know, I send ridiculously long texts... (and oops, almost left T's name in there, not that it would have been particularly identifying, since it's just her first name).


Hugs LT... Sorry you're struggeling so much right now. I think what you wrote does make sense, but also shows that you're in distress. I hope he answers soon. Do you know what kind of response would be helpful right now?
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Old May 29, 2017, 06:23 PM
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Hm, that's interesting. I'm an only child, so not used to dealing with sibling stuff. But...that seems to make sense. It's not even so much "loves him better than me" but more of a taking sides thing.
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Sometimes when I'm with my T around other people I have an urge to grab him and shout "mine!"

Daddy issues much
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Old May 29, 2017, 06:25 PM
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Complete non sequitur: I'm trying to figure out my classroom decor theme for next year. I was broke as a joke last summer, so my classroom theme this year was "whatever I could afford." It kind of morphed into polka dots. I have much more flexibility this year. So I come to you, couch, for help. I'll start with a simple question: should I do a color theme or pattern?
I have seen some classrooms that do two or three patterns in the same color/hue. It looks good!
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Old May 29, 2017, 06:30 PM
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Ohhh dear I feel really terrible. I feel like everything is bad. Is everything bad?!
yeah me too
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Old May 29, 2017, 06:32 PM
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It seems that here on the couch there are quite a few people that have been cleaning their homes which is inspired me to go through a whole bunch of paperwork today and make folders for different things. I worked on this for about 3 hours and while my place looks better I still have a couple of stacks of mail to go through and file. I will try to tackle that tomorrow.

Anyhow, my real reason for posting is that I see my T tomorrow and I just don't know what to talk about. I don't really have any burning issues but I don't want to cancel either. I am thinking about making a new album on my phone of friends, family and ex-BFs to show her all of the people that I've talked about.

What do you all do when you're. not sure what to talk about?
i go in there and get all quiet and act like an idiot and T gets frustrated and i leave crying
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Old May 29, 2017, 06:33 PM
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My kids have been home since Friday.. today I was very close to losing it, then my daughter offered to vacuum as I was getting it out. And it made my day a little better. Couch 141: The Inversional Hexachordal Combinatorial Couch
dont wanna creep u out but i LOVE getting to see inside peopels homes
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Old May 29, 2017, 06:34 PM
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I don't recall my classrooms being decorated D:
Unless you count all bulletin boards having red paper with yellow trim or something like that.

Just the requisite awful motivational posters, you know, like the one with the relay baton.

Breaking: I am working at a cafe and my stranger table-mate (who has been jiggling the table and muttering and pushing his laptop further and further into mine so that the screen tilts) just sneeze-sprayed ALL over me

Time to finish this work at home
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Old May 29, 2017, 06:36 PM
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Hugs LT... Sorry you're struggeling so much right now. I think what you wrote does make sense, but also shows that you're in distress. I hope he answers soon. Do you know what kind of response would be helpful right now?
Thanks, Demunie. That's a good question. I think some sort of apology and/or some sort of validation. Like "I'm sorry if I seemed to be avoiding the topic. I didn't mean to be. Let's discuss it more next session." Or "I didn't mean to have it seem like it was all on you. I'm sorry if it came across that way. It's not how I feel. We can discuss more on Monday if you like."

I think I just felt sort of invalidated, though that didn't register until after I left. I mean, in the middle of talking about the topic, I guess they thought I was done because they started talking about a sport they're both into (in a way that sort of related to something I said). But it bothered me because we were almost out of time (though he ended up keeping us an extra 15 minutes), and it was like, "You're using our time to talk about [sport]?" I mean, sure we talk about random stuff all the time, but in the middle of something I'm dealing with, it's different (in their defense, they probably thought I was done).

And then MC doing endearing things at the end, like singing that song as we were walking out--it initially gave me more positive, warm/fuzzy feelings, but then it was like, "Hey, I'm upset about this thing, and you're being playful like everything is totally fine." Though I know it was largely on me for not pushing the topic more, but we were out of time...
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Old May 29, 2017, 06:37 PM
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I think I found a winner palette. It'll work with some of the more expensive investments I made last year. Mostly solid colors but with some polka dots, a little bit of chevron:

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Old May 29, 2017, 06:37 PM
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I do feel slightly better from turning on the TV, which had HBO family on earlier, and seeing Fraggle Rock. Yay good childhood memories!
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Old May 29, 2017, 06:38 PM
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so i had an okay day

my mom and sister came to see me. it was kinda spur of the moment. i drove them down a backroad thru the mountains to a small cute city. we walked around to the shops then came back, ate some sushi. they left a little while ago. it was fun, i had fun but i know i was talking a lot. i just couldnt shut up. my sister seemed pretty fine but she is gaining a lot of weight from the AP shot ,she stoppped her meds last time before this big episode because of weight gain

why cant ther ebe a happy medium?? take these pills and dont hear voices but get FAT and go into METABOLIC SYNDROME. OR dont take these pills an dhear voices and have people ostracize you bc you are weird and it makes them uncomfroatble and end up getting ocmiited to some ****ing psych ward for the rest of you life

i am pretty upset right now but not about that. im upset about my therapist and no he didnt do anything recenty its just the whole thing. god hes hurt me so much with these boundary changes, i feel a huge PANG in my chest when i think of it. like OWCH! WTF! i thought he cared.

im not gonna cry right now im just gonna sit here and stare at stuff.i feel suicidal
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Old May 29, 2017, 06:40 PM
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For some reason the old law school "egg shell headed plaintiff" is going through my head.
Another observation.

In a civil case, if you do more damage than you intend, you're still liable for all the damage. (If I read this correctly.)

In a criminal case, your intentions count. Eg, if you punch Eggshell Skull in the head and he dies only because his skull is unusually thin, you would probably not be charged with first degree murder.
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Old May 29, 2017, 06:45 PM
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So now you know what we have to go through when reading your posts :P
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Old May 29, 2017, 06:46 PM
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Old May 29, 2017, 06:47 PM
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so i had an okay day

my mom and sister came to see me. it was kinda spur of the moment. i drove them down a backroad thru the mountains to a small cute city. we walked around to the shops then came back, ate some sushi. they left a little while ago. it was fun, i had fun but i know i was talking a lot. i just couldnt shut up. my sister seemed pretty fine but she is gaining a lot of weight from the AP shot ,she stoppped her meds last time before this big episode because of weight gain

why cant ther ebe a happy medium?? take these pills and dont hear voices but get FAT and go into METABOLIC SYNDROME. OR dont take these pills an dhear voices and have people ostracize you bc you are weird and it makes them uncomfroatble and end up getting ocmiited to some ****ing psych ward for the rest of you life

i am pretty upset right now but not about that. im upset about my therapist and no he didnt do anything recenty its just the whole thing. god hes hurt me so much with these boundary changes, i feel a huge PANG in my chest when i think of it. like OWCH! WTF! i thought he cared.

im not gonna cry right now im just gonna sit here and stare at stuff.i feel suicidal
Hugs, JD--that sounds really difficult. Is this a time when it would be OK to reach out to your T?
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Old May 29, 2017, 06:49 PM
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Hugs, JD--that sounds really difficult. Is this a time when it would be OK to reach out to your T?
no he wont even respond to me he MOST LIKELY doesnt even read my texts. so whatever UGH
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i want to go run 5 miles and collapse i have all thsi anger and pain and ENERGY
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I'm flattered you think I am cute and devilish.

Velcro - I also have naturally curly hair, and it does get flat, but only after a couple days. I think for me it's that I use only conditioner and that I only wash my hair in the shower after swimming (so, 2-3 times a week). Hairdressers have told me repeatedly that curly hair shouldn't be exposed to shampoo, and products should not be applied to it daily. Less work for me, so I took that path.
Oh yeah, i stopped using shampoo years ago. I only use conditioner. I read that "curly girl handbook," and it totally changed my hair. But the second I lay in, it goes flat. I think it is because the under layers are flat.
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A few of you guys cleaned today, I should be next.
Don't worry, I had a 3 day weekend, and told myself to clean. DIDN'T.
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I can't help feeling that this is a kind of denial. But a necessary denial.
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I think I found a winner palette. It'll work with some of the more expensive investments I made last year. Mostly solid colors but with some polka dots, a little bit of chevron:

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I love that palette! If any of you are on Instagram, follow Design Seeds. She does color palletes inspired by pictures and there is SO much inspiration there.
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Old May 29, 2017, 07:19 PM
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I do too!!
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How do y'all feel about seeing outside people's houses?

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Too bad I parked in the yard and that's my only exit. Good news though, it didn't land on my fence, truck, power line, or house.

Fun fact, sometimes living around here really rocks. Someone dragged it off with their Jeep in the time it took for me to figure out who to report it to, fill out the ridiculous online form, and sit back down. The DOT might come out and be mad, but there's no way to cancel a request on their ridiculous online form.

Looking like school and work are a go tomorrow. Pouts.
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Old May 29, 2017, 09:53 PM
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Old May 29, 2017, 10:09 PM
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How do y'all feel about seeing outside people's houses?

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Too bad I parked in the yard and that's my only exit. Good news though, it didn't land on my fence, truck, power line, or house.

Fun fact, sometimes living around here really rocks. Someone dragged it off with their Jeep in the time it took for me to figure out who to report it to, fill out the ridiculous online form, and sit back down. The DOT might come out and be mad, but there's no way to cancel a request on their ridiculous online form.

Looking like school and work are a go tomorrow. Pouts.
I'm sorry, I'm looking and looking at your picture and don't really understand what I'm looking at? I just can't make it out! I keep looking and looking away and then looking back hoping that my eyes focus on it differently so that I'll know what it is. Would love some help with this.
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Old May 29, 2017, 10:14 PM
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Wow Stressed - I am really glad it did not injure anyone or your house/cars/power lines.

If I am not mistaken - it is a big tree that was blown down in a storm
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