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Default Aug 25, 2018 at 05:35 PM
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It seems to me that there's a massive irony in this.

Yeah, I do get what you mean. But I see it more as, "I want you to learn to fly on your own so that you can leave the nest."
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Yeah, I do get what you mean. But I see it more as, "I want you to learn to fly on your own so that you can leave the nest."
He's not helping to encourage your autonomy by telling you what he wants you to do.
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He's not helping to encourage your autonomy by telling you what he wants you to do.

Yeah, that's what I mean about understanding the irony...also probably not the best approach for a client who has admitted past (present?) paternal transference issues. And authority figure issues in general. It's not the first time he's used similar phrasing, stuff like, "Where I hope you can be." But he more often phrases it more as "we" like "what we're working toward," which makes it feel like a partnership. And I do agree with his goals, I'll often say "I want that, too." But yeah, I get what you're saying...
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