hmmm....still no luck from Internet dating....

okay....I emailed him...and in his email there was his family name in the reply history...great...I googled him...and found some info....great...he didn't lie to me and I feel more secure now....wait to see how it will go the second date....

guys please wish me luck....I need it....

You don't need luck.. be your beautifu.l gorgeous. confident and funny self and it will all come together nicely!!!!

well...I meant, I need luck that he stays as a good guy!!!!

He emailed me today, but apparantly there is something wrong with the email and all I got was "h.com>"....arggg....I hate that....I want to see what he wrote....I will text him telling him that I didn't get your email.....

haha.

I do hope that he stays a good guy for that I can wish you luck

I got grumpy a Louis last night.. again oops... he wanted an early night and the skype connection was bad.. so it was reasonable but put me in a grump because I wanted to talk more... oh well.. everything seems fine this morning on FB chat.

The tenants in my investment property want to re-sign the lease... so that it a weight off my mind - hoping that will make me less grumpy LOL

Thanks for your kind words.

LOL I didn't know that I was the best encouragement to start online dating... am happy that I was though

If nothing else I have found that the process, though long and frustrating, is great for a confidence boost

Stieg....you got to read self help books and work on your thought process.....then everything will go smoothly....

life has its own challenges....those bumpy roads in life are making us better people.....

and you are not alone....we are all here with you

Belle....being grumpy is not good....specially that he's still very new in your life...probably, you should lower your expectations from him....

I could read his email when I logged into the dating site....he still wants to meet on Sunday...He said he has some trouble with the airplane engine and it might not be fixed till Sunday....Honesty, I feel better if we go just for a simple date like movie or dinner....I gave him couple of options in the email like going for a movie....I love to see Inspection or we can go to the Mummies museum....he wants to do hiking....It's so damn hot here....I said it's too hot for hiking unless we go either very early in the morning or late at night....

anyway, I don't feel any pressure at all....I think I've been in so much emotional roller coasters and so many lonely days that I don't really care anymore....what would happen? me living by myself....boo...that doesn't scare me anymore....It's okay to be alone....

love you guys
Marjan

Hi Marjan! I have been there .finding someone who truly enjoy seeing you the way you are is realy hard but when you find that person is great.so hang in there .

Thanks Sara....It's been single for so many years....It's kinda magic if I find somebody....but I feel the guy that I just met on Monday is a good guy and we have same interests....so far, we had emails back and fort....the best part is that I was so comfortable being with him....I could say things that was in my mind and not being afraid of him to judge me....
I don't want to have high hopes....I'm comfortable as it is....and I want to enjoy my time with him and I will threat him as a friend....same thing that I do with my guy friends and they love me so much.....before, I could not do such a thing with a lover!

I would opt for an on the ground second date if I could. He's having engine troubles? Is this a single or twin e ngine plane? How air worthy is it and where is his license?

Call me over protective, over cautious but ..... second date. Stay on the ground.

Hope what ever you do that you have fun.

thanks Sanity...I was thinking the same....however, I did my research online and yes, whatever he said was right about him....but still it's too soon to believe.....He said they got to charge the engine and he will find out by today...Most likely he wants to go for the fly in the morning time, I can just tell him that I'm not available and lets go for the movie at night....what do you think?
I'm so excited to meet him again, but at the same time I'm not sure about flying with him....although, I trust him....I don't usually trust people that quickly....
I don't know what to do, and he emails instead of calling me....honesty, I dont' want to put so much energy and thoughts into one date....I'll wait till he calls me for Sunday and then I can tell him to stay on the ground....what do you think?
Also, yesterday fire starts on the mountains close to his home and the airport close to his home....I can have that as excuse too.....All firefighters are working so hard at that area!

okay...now I'm getting nervous
Not sure why.....my rational thoughts are telling me if he doesn't like my idea of staying on the ground, then it means he's not for me.....then my other thoughts are telling me to not spoil my date.....I saw how patianted he was about his job and flying....He's an aerospace engineer....and he didn't lie to me....I'm an engineer too....I think that's why we got really connected....In the other hand, I like to go for the fly with him....I think it's very cool...what should I do now????

okay....I don't want to be worry about it now....I will think about it later on...nothing has happened and no plan has been done....why should I be worry even? I can still enjoy my weekend and then I will see what I will decide for Sunday....Of course I will take care of myself as usual....

sounds like you should go fly. Mostly what I think is you shouldn't lie or make untrue excuses. Trust your instincts and quit overthinking everything and making yourself crazy.

Its a second date with a great guy. He may be Mr Right but for now he is just a guy you really like, have a lot in common with and who wants to take you up up up into the sky. Trust your instincts and wait till you talk to him before you try to script the conversation.

I get all of your excitement and how much he is on your mind so do try to enjoy the experience as it happens. Think about how you feel and remember the first date but don't try to predict or orchestrate the future. Just let it unfold as it should. Don't miss a moment of it trying to figure out the next step.

Thanks Sanity....well, the truth is that I don't know him very well...It was just one date....but I've been living alone for so many years that I can tell from people's eyes how they think inside....I found him a guy who is into studying and his work....you had to see his eyes when he was talking about his job....he was getting so excited....and he showed me some photos....then I googled him and I found his friend's website and his friend wrote a little bit about him too....it was unprofessional website though....then I found his Linkdln and some other stuff about him....thanks to google....
this is very new for me to be excited for a second date through online dating....I have been on and off on the online dating sites for so many years.....I even started in Toronto when internet was not that popular and online dating was a telephone dating....you were posting your profile on the phone line and then you could listen to the others' profiles on the phone....interesting...ha....but I've never ever found anybody to get connected with....absolutely nobody....I've been on eharmony and other sites too....but again, no excitements.....I always wanted to leave the date soon.....and I was bringing excuse to leave....but with him was different....we even forgot about eating....
Again....I know I don't have to over think it too much...and thank god, I don't....I don't have that obsessions like before.....and I feel so comfortable talking about myself....I hate that obsession....also, I think if it's good it will happen and if not it's better to end soon.....no need to get hurt....
He just emailed me....he said again that he's looking forward to this weekend....
I feel like I found a friend finally....I hope....please wish me luck....and don't worry about me flying....I have wings
love you and thanks for being such a caring person.....I need that....I can't tell all these to my friends and family....they had enough of my dating stories...kinda embarrassing....
I'll keep you guys posted....
Marjan

I think it is all woderful Marjn. I am so happy for you. I know how long you have waited to connect with someone like him. Its about time! Hope you have a great time and that the magic continues.

You know, I found my love in the most random of places. In a chatroom with over 50 people. He and I started off not liking each other. He told me my character looked weird. Then we started to notice we had so much in common, we were like twins. Sometimes you meet the one in the times where you don't know it. Don't give up hope, he is out there somewhere.

Thanks SanitySeeker and Kittenmitten.....It was just one date....but the hope is important....Kittenmitten, I love to hear positive, successful stories....that's awesome....
I was so busy today that I didn't email him back, I'm going to email him tomorrow morning....
but it's all okay so far....as long as I don't get so excited, it's good....

Such a nice thread this, it brought a little happiness tear to my eye. Happy for you Marja, go for it!

Thank you (((YoungPilotAstray))).....I'm excited too....but not sure about anything....however, I don't care anymore....what would happen if I don't go out with him? being alone again....hehehe....that doesn't scare me anymore....

I just replied to his yesterday's email....I asked him to call me and we plan it for tomorrow....we don't have real plan....I don't know what time he wants to meet me....honesty, I like to go for the fly, but I don't know where he is and there are fires close to his home now....and then my second option is just going for a movie....I haven't gone for a movie in ages.....I used to go by myself alone....yes, I watched so many movies alone....and it's okay....

lets see how this goes....
Marjan

OMG.....I spent the whole day with him 10am till 7:30pm....wow....and I still wanted to be with him....that's sort of new to me.....I usually get board.....

WE KISSED.....OMG....I felt like a virgin....It's been a while that I've been living without a single kiss....I was afraid to not know how to kiss....and I was shy to do so.....but it was great....

again....I know it was just the second date.....but it was magical....and I'm happy to have all these feelings back.....I feel like a dry flower who just got drops of water!

love you all
Marjan

You sound so happy Marjan...

thanks guys....ya, I'm happy and I'm relax at the same time....I'm not worry....I don't think about future too much....I used to kill myself by thinking about what if this happens or that happens.....now everything is so new to me....

I just feel like I'm on the ocean and I let the waves to let me to the shore....
There is no point to make myself exhausted over negative thinking or thinking in general, because what is going to happen will happen anyway....If I fuel my fragile thoughts, then they will drag me into the darkness....I don't want to stay in the darkness anymore.....

I even got promised from myself, if it didn't work out with him, I would not give up hope, I will continue looking.....

love you all
marjan