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Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006
well normally it may not be your place to ask this but.. in this case he made it your place to. He just gave you the right to request that by offering to. Me? knowing the situation I would have without your request but that's just me. He did offer, and that put the ball right in the middle of your court, IMO. As for her privately messaging him, that's not a good reason. After all if he removes her as a friend I'm pretty sure she can't message him anymore either. She could only request him to be her friend again
Putting those two points together i would tend to agree it's a bit stalker-like in behavior. She sounds obsessed or something. I think if you're given the chance by him to ask him to remove her as a friend I would say yes next time. But still it sounds like she is the problem, not him.
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Yes, I do kind of regret not taking him up on his offer, but I thought she might then contact him via private e-mail or start calling him to find out why she'd been "de-friended." This woman seems to have a different sense of boundaries than I do, and she's not exactly inclined to be sensitive to my feelings (why should she though, she doesn't owe me anything, especially if she wants him back). He mentioned that this was actually an issue when they were dating...she'd make fairly insensitive or inappropriate comments in front of other people, and it got on people's nerves. I don't want to keep harping on this with him, however. But, I do want to find a way to just let her posts not derail me so much....Her posts have not been particularly inappropriate lately, but I do kind of freak out internally whenever I see ANY comment at this point, no matter how benign...and this is my issue to fix. Argh!