My ex-boyfriend is blackmailing me!

Either way, being cautious isn't a bad thing. Could you inform security at your job, if you have a security department? Or perhaps a manager, or at the very least a few male friends you trust? At least in that even if he were to show up, you wouldn't have to deal with the situation on the fly, so to speak.

And were I you, document his Facebook posts, such as this one. In a court setting, this could be valuable. His defense would, of course, argue he isn't specifically speaking to you, but looking at it from the perspective of the jury...it could help your prosecution.

Please be safe, and keep us posted.

Hugs,
Harley

Just called the courthouse, he doesn't have an appearance in court until July...

In a fair and equitable world, this would be a good suggestion. In today's work world, what with threats and terrorists, the mere mention of something like this to an employer could, conceivably, be the end of employment for a victim. Just sayin'.
That said, Harley's suggestions are sound. I just don't know how much I'd tell an employer. Maybe a male friend, or possibly security, though it would surely go back to the manager.

Actually, employers can be very helpful. As an employee, I have been involved in several situations similar to this and we have turned away phone calls, had security or someone else walk someone to their car after work etc.
I think it is important people do know so that they are not fooled by a seemingly innocent question from a stranger or "friend of" that winds up being a way to find someone and hurt them.
A coworker was once kidnapped from the parking lot one place I worked. Very scary----she got away and the man was caught...
The state here changed their training after losing someone to a stalker---before that they thought it wasn't their business, the event changed their minds and they now specifically tell people about the event (years ago now) and what they can do if you are in a difficult personal situation such as this.

Alright everyone, I don't know if you know what snapchat is, but he sent me one. I'm currently talking to police to see if this is enough to put him back in jail. (Because of the no contact thing)

What is a snapchat? If he's not supposed to be communicating with you period, this would probably count, depending on what a snapchat is.

I suck at social media to be my age.

Double post. Sorry.

You've heard of snapchat, you just didn't know what it was called. It's when you send a disappearing photo that they recently found out doesn't really get deleted from your phone. The bf is maybe not as smart as he thought he was.

Wait, the picture isn't deleted from my phone? How can I see it again?

I think the police have the ability to recapture it thru their forensics. It's still in the phone. If you google snap whatever it the word is, I forgot!, Wikipedia explains it.

I had to google it myself (lol I had still not heard of it despite the explanation ), but Wikipedia makes it a very heavy point that the picture isn't completely gone. It can be regained by what Wikipedia describes as "minor technical know how."

Don't you kids keep up with the news?? Just kidding! I was a computer programmer for 30 years so I think this kind of detail catches my eye easier, cuz I can pretend to myself that I know how it works but my explanation would probably be like those kids on the coffeemaker commercial - there's a train inside the phone that...

I'm sorry to hear you're still going through this but thank you for keeping us updated and letting us know you're okay.

Admit to all the people he is threatening to tell what is going on. NEVER give in to blackmail, NEVER. Those who love you wont desert you, those who desert you, don't matter.

I feel bad to say this because I respect law enforcement... but they are really disappointing me right now. The officer on my case said she'd talk to him 'in a few days'... Shouldn't this type of thing be dealt with quickly?

Law enforcement people are, in my experience, ... not very good.

I was once stopped and fined for $197 for crossing a street as a pedestrian, on red light. The street was empty, it was a Saturday morning, the city was completely deserted, and, it was in one of the least crime cities in the nation, and I did not notice a policeman.

So they are just trying to make money engaging in things that are nonsense and do not require any acts of courage on their part. When I was living in a high crime city (in Central Valley California), I was once on a playground with my daughter when people started shooting, and no policemen were around the corner to intervene, but a policeman was around the corner to fine me for crossing the street without waiting for green light.

I think it is this way everywhere, but, hopefully, I am wrong.

As I've related to you in PM's, Lady...my exp with law enforcement was ineffective till the fella broke into my house by smashing thru a glass door with a rock, coming after me with a gun. I escaped to the neighbor's driveway where he cornered me and pointed the gun at me several times trying to shoot me. The only reason I'm alive is that the gun jammed. (I think I had a guardian angel.) The neighbors in whose driveway I was trapped called the police. It resulted in one of those SWAT type stand-offs. The police trapped him after he kept putting the gun to his mouth trying to shoot himself (obviously knowing the gun wasn't going to go off!) He actually was so crazy he got the gun away from them as they wrestled with him.
I had been stalked incessantly by this fella for months, calling the police, with no effect. Only after this incident did he get jail time.
Please be vigilant in your safety.

What an ar se. I would go to the police, express your fears, concerns and everything, particularly regarding future safety and your reputation re the files he has, and give it a go. The police are meant to keep us safe, get them to do their job. xx

You sure did! I hope the angel will continue to be your protector.

Still nothing from the police...

Lady...sadly, as I mentioned before, the police may not respond till something drastic happens...like it did in my case. Please be vigilant with your safety.

The police officer was unable to make an arrest due to insufficient proof. He denied sending the snapchat and also deleted the application off of his phone. Now that he has talked to a cop, I don't know if that will scare him off, or just make him angry.

Yeah, LADY...unfortunately, this is often the case with stalkers and the police. As I mentioned to you in PM, I think your parents should be made aware of this situation. You don't want to tell them, but it may come down to yours and their safety. Please be careful.

I think that seeker is right. You do not need to go into details with the parents, hopefully. Just say that there are issues with such and such man. Would your parents accept "issues" or will they probe further?

They would definitely want every last detail.