How to stop obsessing over someone. Please help me.

yes absolutely! I tried to block her out of my mind for the last few weeks, like distracting myself but since i´ve seen her she´s fully in my mind again..

last night i was looking at my old high school site and they´ve put some pics in here from a summer trip, and my teacher is on one of those pics and she is soooo gorgeous in there. I can´t stop looking at it. wish i could share her beautiful face with you guys haha. i think every straight guy and lesbian would get an instant crush

I don't favor trying to block her out of your mind.

I would favor reflecting on what happened yesterday, and on what she means to you, why you find her so important, how these thoughts can be useful to you in your life now.

For example: you spoke of how you got good grades to please her. I wonder if you could still have her as a role model and inspiration, if she could help you in that way even now?

What if you wrote these things down, like say in a journal?

maybe i can do that yeah , but in a journal online in microsoft word or something, because if i write it on papers i´m afraid someone finds it..

i still have her as a role model. when i don´t feel like studying, i think of the words she said to me years ago, that i´m able to do all this, that i´m a smart special kid and that i must never forget that. and that gives me somewhat motivation..

when i left school i´ve send her also a mail with how much she meant to me and how she helped me and that i was grateful for her and i got the cutest reaction back. i would´ve post the mail here but it is written in dutch so yeah..

thanks alot Bill!

Yeah, online journal makes sense.

Yes Elin, never forget what she said: that you are a smart special kid! And you are able to do significant things, challenging things. You can do them!

You're welcome!

thanks alot!!

Elin95,

I just wanted to stop by and say, do what feels right for you. Listen to your intuition. Only you know the ins and outs of your situation.

Jiminy, had it right! Let your subconscious be your guide. ~ Jiminy Cricket

In the end, we are all human, living our lives the best way we can. We give advice because we care or have been through something similar. I like the meditation idea. Being in your own quite it tough at first, or it was for me, but it's really helped me to relax and reflect. There are several guided meditations on Youtube, The Honest Guys being my fave.

Lastly, if my suggestion was a little too aggressive, I apologize.

Bill3, your name is Bill! Pointless comment lol. But I love a Bill

Elin, I'm ok, how are you feeling now? I'm glad you've had so many replies here, you're all so kind to offer your support to Elin.

And you got a hug! Yay! Sending hugs from me too lol.

Thank you!! Yeah i think the meditation idea is a very good idea.. no i liked your advice!! Please dont feel offended. Love the quote! Thanks

@bill im replying to your message tomorrow for some reason i cannot reply with my phone..x

@bebrave glad to hear that you are okay! How is it with the other person in your area that you liked? Wanna tell me a bit more?

Yeah I really really appreciate all the comments. Makes me feel so less lonely. Big thanks to you all X

Which person? I don't know anyone in my area, at all. I think you mean the guy I met one night out, well he has a radio show now, that's all the contact we've had lately, I've kind of forgotten about him since he's taken anyway.

I did like a girl who liked me too but she's literally on the other side of the world so not much point.

I joined 2 dating sites and I was already on one, but I always hide my profiles or if I see someone I like then I just think there's no point even trying to contact them, cos they're always too good for me anyway. Everyone is. I even matched with a guy who reminded me of one of Bill's band members (I fancy his whole band lol) and he sent two messages and that was it. I was a bit disappointed, I'd gotten a little excited lol. I can't even figure out how the bloody sites work, technically wise, lol.

How are you doing though? Everyone on fb is posting their new relationships and I'm just sat here like, ugh.

yeah i meant him, sad to hear that it didn´t work out! you´ll find someone someday, whether it´s a boy or a girl.. i´m sure about that

i was so hyper last night, like really really hyper, i had to wake up at 7 am but i was still awake at 2 am while i was already in bed for a few hours. i couldn´t stop thinking about my teacher, about the hugs and all that. soooo hyper. and now i´m dead tired, had a long day at my internship..i´m exhausted

I was the same after meeting Bill, my mam said I was touching the ceiling! I didn't sleep the night before cos I was too excited about meeting them all, then I couldn't get up and nearly missed it lol, and then I didn't sleep at all that night cos I was so hyper from meeting them! I had a lot of vodka too, I woke my mam up while I was raiding the mini bar, then I had to go to hotel bar in my pyjamas to get more lol. It was fun though. And then I had to get a flight home the next day!!

I hope you're getting some sleep right now. How is the internship going for you? In general?

And don't worry about that other guy, it's fine. I've fallen in love with someone again, I was crazy about him when he was a male cross dresser, well now she's a trans girl, a while now, but she's still so beautkful and she's still herself, just a different gender. It's weird cos I was just thinking about her, and how I try not to think of her too much cos I know I don't have a chance, and then I was looking for some jewellery and found some old pics of her, but when she was still a guy. Funny coincidence to come across them just after thinking about her! I think I just like everyone lol!

Yeah the way you describe about bill is the same for me! But why do you think you dont have a change? Is she only into guys or? Or lives far away?

My internship is fine thanks. Im done in three weeks and i scored positive which means i graduated.x

Oh wow, well done you!!

I know because I told her and she liked my comment but didn't reply or anything. Plus the fact that she's well out of my league!! And also, even though we have been facebook friends a long time, she probably still just thinks of me as a fan (I know her from when she was on tv years ago) We don't talk and I doubt she pays any attention to anything I post either, we haven't even met, I could have actually but I was too nervous so made excuses. I'm an idiot, I know!

And I'm so suspicious and paranoid about Bill right now. I think he's playing us all. I still love him, but I think he knows what he's doing. I know too much about the music industry that I can see through it. It's not a bad thing, but it's getting annoying. I try to defend him everyday and its all for nothing anyway, no one listens or cares and I'm sure he doesn't care either. Let him defend himself, unless thats the whole point. He's clever, very clever. Too clever maybe. Well if I'm right, then it's working. Thats for sure. Of course nothing I say matters anyway since I have he paranoid diagnosis anyway. But the whole thing isnt helping my mind.

I'm sorry, this is your thread, not my personal journal, how are you feeling about her now though? Still hyper? I'm still hyper from meeting him 3 months later, despite my little rant there. I've tried and tried to stay away from him and his page but he's too addictive! (Yes its his fault, not mine lol) I'd still support the band and the other guys but so much drama about the same thing, day in day out. And by defending his right to say or not as he wants, I'm sustaining the topic which is the opposite of my intentions. I can't win and I can't keep quiet (thats his fault too) and he must hate me so much. Ugh, I'm just SO annoying.

Congratulations!

Sorry for the late reply but im feeling so bad and depressed. I dont have the energy to write messages. I try to be back soon.x

have a good day

(((((elin95)))))

I'm sorry ellin. Have some hugs, wish I could help somehow.

Thank you for all your kind messages..

I have summer vacation now, for 7 weeks and I´m afraid because I don´t know what to do.. I don´t have friends or anything. I´m afraid I will drown in my bad thoughts. now i don´t have the distraction from school and internship

oh well i understand.. did you ever think of writing a letter to Bill, with all your thoughts and that? Maybe that helps you to cope. I´m 100% sure he does not hate you. he probably would only appreciate the fact that someone likes him that much

Yeah I write and send him gifts all the time!!

I wish I could just find a man who would give me all their money but not want me to actually talk to or spend time with them, lol.

Good luck for the holidays, perhaps make a list of distractions and stuff to do to keep your mind busy. I have just found a great distraction for myself, The Pointless Books, where you do all random stupid stuff, but so much fun!! Just a suggestion if you think you'd be into that too.

Thanks!

Did you ever get a reply from him?

No, never.

Oh, I got a new tattoo on Saturday to mark the day I met the band! I'll post it in my tattoo album on my profile here, if you want to see it.

You know we all need a good mentor especially at your age & especially someone with a good brain in their head.....maybe this teacher who you respected so much could end up being a mentor for you sort lf like it sounded like they where when they were your teacher.

Sounded like she was glad to see you & so she remembered you.

I had a 5th grade teacher that I really got attached to....he was awesome & my parents actually got to know him & we visited together. Sadly, only about 2 years later he died of a heart attack. I had a counselor in junior high that would always take the place of my dad at the father daughter activities because I was too embarrassed to have my dad anywhere around me......had him for 3 years.....but like with everything in my life...time changes & either I move on or they do & I've come to realize that's just life.....I even had to 'move on" after 33 years of a bad marriage & I didn't regreat a moment of my leaving....the wisest & smartest thing I ever did in my whole life.

thank you for your answer ! i´m so sorry for your loss..sounds tough. how are you doing now? x

yeah i´d love to see it x



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I´m extremely anxious right now. Today I have the graduation ceremony at my school, which means a room full of people and they call your name and you have to walk to the teacher so they tell a little story about you and give you your diploma. I´m so afraid, I don´t want this. I feel like vomiting. I feel like dying and I´m afraid I will burst out in tears while 100 people are looking at me... this is so horrible..