My younger sister and I are polar opposites in some ways. She is outgoing and happy and I'm not. She always had lots of friends and she was never w/o a b.f for long. She'd go out a lot as well and she'd take a lot of risks that I never would. For example, she went sky diving once and she had the time of her life. She's competitive too. I'm not.

We were never that close growing up although she did become friends with a lot of the same people that I was friends with as kids. Things change once we became teenagers. I became depressed and withdrawn. She didn't try to hide her shame. She thought that I was "weird" and her friends and other people thought that I was "weird" too.

She was a real brat and she'd like to tease me a lot and get on my nerves at times. She also had no problem using me when she needed a ride or for free meals when she was broke and living at home. I was way to nice to her at times. She is a fake party girl type. So I don't get how she can manage to have so many friends.

Anyways, we had our ups and downs to where we didn't talk to each other for over a year since she attacked me from behind once when I brought up some stuff that she didn't like. I got mad and defended myself by hitting her back. I shouldn't have. My parents and my husband broke up the fight and I wanted to call the cops on her, but they wouldn't let me.

My face was badly bruised and I still have a small scar on my upper lip and one slight one below my eyebrow. Thankfully it's barely visible. I looked like I was in an accident for MONTHS! She didn't apologize to me until over a year later.

Things were OK for awhile, but now she has completely given up on me. It all started back in April of this year. She ended up blocking my number and told me that it's to much "work" to deal with me. I tried to give her the benefit of the doubt in the past even though we didn't get along at times, but she has done very little for me. All she's done for me lately is give me a cheap gift and a discount on styling my hair and other stuff.

She accused me of being "paranoid" since I insisted on adding up the expenses from her doing my hair and other stuff. She's a stylist. She was offended that I didn't take her word for things. I don't trust her at all since she is not a trustworthy person, and who can blame me for that? I still tipped her and she didn't even thank me for the tip! She told me that I had "issues" and then I got pissed, so I told her to eff off.

I then later texted her to apologize and she just went off on me and made fun of me and told me that I'm the one with the problem, and that I have this hostile look about me, and that other people talk about me and that she tells me that I can't even comprehend how my attitude effects how other people see me, blah, etc...She knows that I'm shy, socially anxious, depressed, insecure, so I think that she was trying to b.s me just to mess with me and make me feel bad.

My friends don't think that there is anything wrong with me. My husband has told me that I sometimes don't appear to look friendly in public. I'm a nice person, so I don't believe her. At first I did though. She was getting back at me for finding out about her first DUI for calling her a narcissist, a user, a phony, and I also told her that she needs to me on meds for her biploar disorder, but she thinks that she's fine. She thinks that she's normal, but she's not.

She was also offended that I talked about how her ex husband committed identity theft and I was under the impression that she knew about it even though she denied it as she has done shady things before like stealing my d.l to get into clubs when she was a teenager. I know that we all make mistakes, but she keeps on doing a lot of shady stuff, so I don't trust her at all.

One other ex b.f told me that she tried to get him back into dealing drugs to support her. He also claimed that she stole his checks and debit card. She has also been in a few abusive relationships to where three guys have hit her, and once she went to jail for it although she claimed the guy hit her. And her current b.f hit her once when he was drunk, but he promised her to never do it again.

One time she told me that she never thought I'd get married before her and that she's jealous of me. I'm sure she'd love to be married too. I have a good life and I get to travel once every year or two, and I don't have to work, and I don't have kids. Her b.f doesn't make much, so they can't travel. Maybe she's really resentful that I have a much better life than her? We have a house to and they live in an apartment.

I'm very hurt by all of this. I wish that I could have a good relationship with her and that she would care about me and treat me with respect, but she is clearly ashamed of me. Also, she is clearly in denial about her bipolar disorder. I have no desire to ever talk to such a huge ***** like her again. I'm not perfect in any way, but it seems like she has no morals as she keeps on doing shady stuff.

She is also my parents favorite child which is disgusting. She uses them to pay for her stuff since she doesn't work. And she has a b.f. My dad pays for her luxury car, and my mom pays for meals and her clothes. It's sickening. She is almost 40 going on 14 it seems like.

Does anyone have awful siblings too? I've had it with her. She is toxic and she'll probably never ever change her ways. I'm sure that when my dad dies though she'll be kissing my but as he's leaving me in charge of my mom's share of the money as she'll try to use my mom for money as she's greedy She'll blow through her share in a year he said. I'm going to love being able to dole out an allowance for her when the time comes, lol!

[leomama]

Hi Shy Introvert, I am an introvert too. I have a mean sibling, but I don't think he hates me. He actually just texted me a few minutes ago, and then I saw your post.

My brother has been verbally abusive to me in the past so I was very cautious about responding to him. I still have to protect myself, just because he is younger doesn't mean he can't bully.

If you are an adult you can control the amount of contact you have siblings.

Do you think reducing contact would help?

[healingme4me]

((((Shy Introvert))))

Sounds like an ordeal with her. Also sounds like your dad sees right through it, otherwise he wouldn't have placed you in this future position. Does your mom know?

I have a half sib, 16 years younger. She's my father's other daughter from his other marriage. I wasn't raised with her. The lack of any semblance of a bond never developed due to poor parenting on my father's part, the blow to his fragile ego from my mom leaving him when I was 9, played a role. As I remind him of my mom. I lived with him up until a month and a half before my half sib was born. At that point, he was headed back to Maine to teach, after uprooting me from there 18 months prior. He had a shotgun wedding of sorts when my stepmom was pregnant and as truth came forth recently, I would have been a burden as she stayed in MA with her 2 kids from a previous marriage and a newborn. That's not how it played out at that point, only in hindsight. So, I was painted as that troublesome daughter that would be better off with her mom. Mind you I was a good kid. His and my relationship severed and she's the one that needed all his attention. There's just not much there between her and myself. She also said some rather mean things in her teens and though she was a teen, she's older now and it's as though she's some distant relative.

Yes, there's been mean things and hatred. Not sure that I'm on her hated list, but I'm not on her let's move forward list either. I wasn't pushing to get him to return from the West coast like she wants. She sees him as she's expressed as someone that needs caregiving. I see him as a grown man with a new live in girlfriend who is finishing divorcing her mom. He's capable of making his own choices.

I grew up being the sibling that hated the other. It goes back to the gros difference in treatment we got from my mother and that he gloated about it when he was younger. I despised him. He is an adult now and while yes we are on talking terms, I get irritated at the fact he expects things to still come easy in his life.

Originally Posted by leomama

Hi Shy Introvert, I am an introvert too. I have a mean sibling, but I don't think he hates me. He actually just texted me a few minutes ago, and then I saw your post.

My brother has been verbally abusive to me in the past so I was very cautious about responding to him. I still have to protect myself, just because he is younger doesn't mean he can't bully.

If you are an adult you can control the amount of contact you have siblings.

Do you think reducing contact would help?

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Hi, sorry to hear that. At least you two are on speaking terms. Have you ever told your brother that he's being a verbally abusive bully? That's good that you protect yourself.

I decided to finally give up on her. She refuses to get help or acknowledge that anything is wrong with her. My parents are the same way, so I rarely talk to them. They are all very self absorbed and they are always quick to blame everyone but themselves for whatever problems they have.

My mom is a paranoid recluse and my dad is a narcissist with a bad temper. Maybe my younger sister wouldn't be so bad if she gets on the right meds, idk. She has done nothing but hurt me again and again. She is not a nice person. She is selfish, manipulative, insensitive, judgemental, fake, and just plain nasty. She is also clearly a user. I truly don't get why anyone would have anything to do with her with her being like that. She can be charismatic, funny, smart, and she is usually cheerful and confident (outwardly at least).

I know that she hates me and that she's jealous of me even though she says she isn't jealous of me. I'm sure that she'd love to be married and love to travel and not have to rely on my parents for stuff. Also, the fact that she looks down on me for being the way that I am makes me resent her too. She is a disgusting person for treating me so badly when I tried to be nice to her at times.

No more. I''m not stupid. People like her will never ever change. My day will come as long as my dad sticks to his guns. I hope that she won't be able to manipulate him into changing anything. If she manages to do that, then I will probably get nothing as that's how greedy and spiteful she is. And she'll take whatever my mom has, no doubt about that.

When my dad is no longer around, she sure as hell is NOT going to be driving a luxury car for sure! I'll do everything that I can to make sure that she only has enough to buy a used car, LOL!!!!

Originally Posted by healingme4me

((((Shy Introvert))))

Sounds like an ordeal with her. Also sounds like your dad sees right through it, otherwise he wouldn't have placed you in this future position. Does your mom know?

I have a half sib, 16 years younger. She's my father's other daughter from his other marriage. I wasn't raised with her. The lack of any semblance of a bond never developed due to poor parenting on my father's part, the blow to his fragile ego from my mom leaving him when I was 9, played a role. As I remind him of my mom. I lived with him up until a month and a half before my half sib was born. At that point, he was headed back to Maine to teach, after uprooting me from there 18 months prior. He had a shotgun wedding of sorts when my stepmom was pregnant and as truth came forth recently, I would have been a burden as she stayed in MA with her 2 kids from a previous marriage and a newborn. That's not how it played out at that point, only in hindsight. So, I was painted as that troublesome daughter that would be better off with her mom. Mind you I was a good kid. His and my relationship severed and she's the one that needed all his attention. There's just not much there between her and myself. She also said some rather mean things in her teens and though she was a teen, she's older now and it's as though she's some distant relative.

Yes, there's been mean things and hatred. Not sure that I'm on her hated list, but I'm not on her let's move forward list either. I wasn't pushing to get him to return from the West coast like she wants. She sees him as she's expressed as someone that needs caregiving. I see him as a grown man with a new live in girlfriend who is finishing divorcing her mom. He's capable of making his own choices.

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Sorry to hear that. They sound like toxic people who have issues. I hope that you don't have much contact with them. I have NO plans to ever talk to my toxic sister again and the feeling is mutual. She hates me and I hate her too.

She'll never change at this point. I try to avoid talking to my parents as much as possible as they both have a lot of issues that they're in deep denial about. My whole family is messed up, but they refuse to get the help and meds that they need. I'm the only person who ever got help for myself. All they do is play stupid games and blame everyone else for everything that goes wrong.

This is why I DREAD holidays like Thanksgiving and Xmas. I have to tolerate spending time with them, and my dad ALWAYS ruins the holidays in some way with his childish temper tantrums and annoying behavior. With my mom, she just annoys the hell out of me with her incessant nagging and nonstop talking about nonsense that barely makes sense most of the time.

She always loves to blow my husbands mind over silly crap that happened over 20 years ago or more about how my grandma was always mean to her. Ugh! She is like a broken record! And she loves to play the poor me victim card all the damn time!

I'm glad that they live somewhat far away from me. If they lived close by, they'd try to come over all the time, ugh! It's best to stay away from toxic people IMHO!

[healingme4me]

I'd dread holidays if forced into any traditions. For the past several years, it's just myself and my sons.

Less is more for me. Even my therapist had suggested limited time if any.

Originally Posted by justafriend306

I grew up being the sibling that hated the other. It goes back to the gros difference in treatment we got from my mother and that he gloated about it when he was younger. I despised him. He is an adult now and while yes we are on talking terms, I get irritated at the fact he expects things to still come easy in his life.

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Sorry to hear that. I'm resentful of they way that my parents treat my younger sister. It's obvious that she's their favorite child. They're always telling me how mart she is, etc....

They almost never have a good thing to say about me. They constantly criticize me to where I can't take it anymore, so I snap and tell them to stop! They do so much for her like pay for her car, her meals, her clothes, and they even paid for a couple of trips. On one trip, they excluded me from it since they told me that I wouldn't get along with her. WTH? I was very angry at them for a long time, but looking back, it's good that I didn't go with them as my sister did make me miserable at times during one family vacation. She'd fight with my dad often and then take out her anger on me.

I told them that they shouldn't have taken her at all with them to be fair. All this resentment built up to the point to where I try my best to avoid them. My dad no longer has my email even as I got hacked to many times, and I think that my ***** sister might be behind it maybe as he has no p.w on his email and she always reads them.

Also, he would always give me stupid diet tips even after I told him to stop. I was mean to them on Labor Day weekend. He tried to invite himself over and I made a bunch of excuses. Then he snapped at me, so I snapped back. I told him no, don't come over. My husband doesn't get why I was mean. It's simple, I'm sick of their crap. I wanted to enjoy the weekend in peace. They come over here to often every time there is a holiday weekend. Ugh!

I really don't care about them that much. I don't care if they're my parents. I don't feel close to them, and I don't trust them. This is what they get for playing favorites.

Originally Posted by healingme4me

I'd dread holidays if forced into any traditions. For the past several years, it's just myself and my sons.

Less is more for me. Even my therapist had suggested limited time if any.

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This is why I have begged my husband to take me to Las Vegas or Reno for Xmas a few times, lol! We did do that a few times, ha ha!

Needless to say, I will not come to see them for Thanksgiving or Xmas ever again. They'll probably come here most of the time as they see her more than they see my husband and I since she lives only an hour away from them. We live several hours away from them.

Your therapist sounds like they know what they're doing-

[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by Shy Introvert

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This is why I have begged my husband to take me to Las Vegas or Reno for Xmas a few times, lol! We did do that a few times, ha ha!

Needless to say, I will not come to see them for Thanksgiving or Xmas ever again. They'll probably come here most of the time as they see her more than they see my husband and I since she lives only an hour away from them. We live several hours away from them.

Your therapist sounds like they know what they're doing-

I like that about having your husband take you on vacations. That's your tradition. I know of a few other people that have non traditional traditions.
I don't know if when my sons are grown if I'll even want to host dinners, etc?

Originally Posted by healingme4me

I like that about having your husband take you on vacations. That's your tradition. I know of a few other people that have non traditional traditions.
I don't know if when my sons are grown if I'll even want to host dinners, etc?

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Thanks, lol. We don't do it that often anymore. Usually my husbands work gets in the way. He works everyday but Sunday- He owns his own business, so he could take time off, but he's usually to busy to-

I limit the time my parents spend here to two nights at the most. I say do whatever you want. You shouldn't have to stick to any traditions just to please other people. Maybe you can think of doing something new with your sons for the holidays like having dinner somewhere different like a restaurant if they're up for it, idk.

It's nice to know that I'm not the only person who feels this way-

[leomama]

Hi, sorry to hear that. At least you two are on speaking terms. Have you ever told your brother that he's being a verbally abusive bully? That's good that you protect yourself.

Yes I have and he mocks me so I just have very limited interaction with him now.

[healingme4me]

Originally Posted by Shy Introvert

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Thanks, lol. We don't do it that often anymore. Usually my husbands work gets in the way. He works everyday but Sunday- He owns his own business, so he could take time off, but he's usually to busy to-

I limit the time my parents spend here to two nights at the most. I say do whatever you want. You shouldn't have to stick to any traditions just to please other people. Maybe you can think of doing something new with your sons for the holidays like having dinner somewhere different like a restaurant if they're up for it, idk.

It's nice to know that I'm not the only person who feels this way-

Already Christmas is a day that I don't cook. When I was very young, Christmas was low key, my grandparents lived on a farm. Which means work was everyday. After my mom remarried, my stepgrandmother put on these feasts that were large and family would come in throughout the day. Then we had years when my stepdad was ill.
I do cook a traditional thanksgiving meal with some various family recipes.
My traditions have changed through the years as family members are no longer with us. A couple of times we've gone out for Chinese for Christmas.
I never cared for feeling obligated on holidays, so I don't want to do that to my sons. Meeting at restaurants is an option when they become adults. I'm thinking meeting out of town is a possibility as well. Or they can request a dish for me to make. I don't know what the future holds. I only know that I expect no drama on holidays. And they aren't obligated if other opportunities arise.

Originally Posted by leomama

Yes I have and he mocks me so I just have very limited interaction with him now.

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Sorry to hear that. He is a toxic person, you it's for the best that you have limited your interaction with him.

[leomama]

Originally Posted by Shy Introvert

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Sorry to hear that. He is a toxic person, you it's for the best that you have limited your interaction with him.

Yep. I did add him back on Facebook after I added a new job. He always harnesses me about work. That's all he ever wants to talk about, or brag about what a good father he is or how functional he is compared to others with his impairment . It's irritating .

Originally Posted by healingme4me

Already Christmas is a day that I don't cook. When I was very young, Christmas was low key, my grandparents lived on a farm. Which means work was everyday. After my mom remarried, my stepgrandmother put on these feasts that were large and family would come in throughout the day. Then we had years when my stepdad was ill.
I do cook a traditional thanksgiving meal with some various family recipes.
My traditions have changed through the years as family members are no longer with us. A couple of times we've gone out for Chinese for Christmas.
I never cared for feeling obligated on holidays, so I don't want to do that to my sons. Meeting at restaurants is an option when they become adults. I'm thinking meeting out of town is a possibility as well. Or they can request a dish for me to make. I don't know what the future holds. I only know that I expect no drama on holidays. And they aren't obligated if other opportunities arise.

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That sounds nice. The only nice thing that I like about Xmas time is getting a tree and going to some Xmas event. Other than that, it's usually filled with stress as I always host and they always stress me out. And everyone is really busy then so I'm even more alone than usual-

[Crazylion]

Please forgive me ahead of time for the bad punctuation and no capitalization as i just got home from work and i'm too tired to worry about it --and if i come across very angry, aggressive or offensive. that is not my intention.

first of all, this thread meant more to me than anything has in over a year. i cant get into any real explanation because i will get worked up and defeat the purpose of my therapy. my little sister is the devil -- the devil who loves me is the victim of a very codependent household which caused my parents' legacy to be that their 4 daughters can never have a relationship together that is healthy or have me associated with one of them.

my little sister loves me very much but her role in the family is to abuse me after mother died, and long story short. she has been so cruel i just started feeling alive and capable again. she disconnected me again after i told her after 50 hyears of taking it that i won't take her abuse anymore. she went on a campaign that effected my profession and it has been like she died too.

i can't talk out it anymore, but i will say that i hope i never see her again but i will when she tries to come to me when her current boyfriend hurts her again and takes her money. but i had to put people and things around me now because i cannot have any of my sisters in my life.

personally now, in hindsight, i truly believe that most siblings especially sisters together are like the appendix and only chidren have it made and all the ones i met aren't focked up.

that's it. stay strong....courage!

[QUOTE=Crazylion;5280139]Please forgive me ahead of time for the bad punctuation and no capitalization as i just got home from work and i'm too tired to worry about it --and if i come across very angry, aggressive or offensive. that is not my intention.

first of all, this thread meant more to me than anything has in over a year. i cant get into any real explanation because i will get worked up and defeat the purpose of my therapy. my little sister is the devil -- the devil who loves me is the victim of a very codependent household which caused my parents' legacy to be that their 4 daughters can never have a relationship together that is healthy or have me associated with one of them.

my little sister loves me very much but her role in the family is to abuse me after mother died, and long story short. she has been so cruel i just started feeling alive and capable again. she disconnected me again after i told her after 50 hyears of taking it that i won't take her abuse anymore. she went on a campaign that effected my profession and it has been like she died too.

i can't talk out it anymore, but i will say that i hope i never see her again but i will when she tries to come to me when her current boyfriend hurts her again and takes her money. but i had to put people and things around me now because i cannot have any of my sisters in my life.

personally now, in hindsight, i truly believe that most siblings especially sisters together are like the appendix and only chidren have it made and all the ones i met aren't focked up.

that's it. stay strong....courage![/QUOT
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First of all, you wrote everything just fine. Sorry to hear about your abusive sisters- Since you don't want to talk about things, I won't ask you anything. It sounds like it's for the best if you avoid your sisters as much as you can as they're obviously toxic people.

[brainy]

I too have a mean sibling, a sister.
She seems to enjoy hurting me, so I try my best to avoid her. When in the hospital for my depression, she doesn't try to hide her ridicule, calling me stupid, crazy, etc. I mean, she's always been that way with me while growing up, but now with my illness, she turns up the heat.
So what I'm doing now is not even calling her AT ALL! If my phone rings, I look first and have made up my mind that if I see her name on my caller ID, i won't answer. It's that simple. And if by chance I don't check, answer and find it's her, I'll just hang up that's all. I'm not trying to hurt her feelings, but then I'm not trying to get hurt again either!
How do I feel about that you may wonder? Well, while I don't feel completely happy about my decision, I feel good and at peace with it at the same time. My therapist talked to me about setting boundaries, and I feel that's what I'm doing.
There's no need to allow someone to continually put you down, and that includes even in your own family!
I'm 69 and I think I'm finally growing up! Lol.

[Crazylion]

In the past few days, i've been reflecting more and suddenly i see what i've been doing that helped trigger sissy's cruelty and inconsistent mood swings and our level of closeness over the years.

After I moved out when i was 19, i endured her constant trying to hurt me and do awful things throughout my life. with this struggle between us for 30 years, i tended to treat her like an afterthought, so my attempts all those years of trying to be close to her and fight through her drug addiction and cruelty came off as insincere and just superficial in a way. i'm sorry this happened and i just saw this about myself now, but he never willl communicate things to people and sets everyone up to disappoint her. and i who am her big sister who was alwasys there moved out and after that she was reacting to how i was being. and i thought she was just a hateful, horrible person with no hope. she still is, even if i know her heart. i don't and expect her to ever try and start healing and see her own way to therapy so we might break mom and dad's legacy of our childhool rearing. i'm strong thinking about sending her a final note/letter on her birthday Tuesday to tell her this and hope shse at least tries to let go of the hold that is bitter stubborness to hate and never forgive. i'm going to acknowledge her pain and that i know i played a major part in why she is who she is to me, etc. i won't take responsibility for her feelings or her actions, like i won't let her do so with mine.

any thoughts?

[Fuzzybear]

No siblings

Just 2 half siblings who don't give a crap

With those parents, I'm not surprised... So why does it hurt

Hugs to you

Originally Posted by brainy

I too have a mean sibling, a sister.
She seems to enjoy hurting me, so I try my best to avoid her. When in the hospital for my depression, she doesn't try to hide her ridicule, calling me stupid, crazy, etc. I mean, she's always been that way with me while growing up, but now with my illness, she turns up the heat.
So what I'm doing now is not even calling her AT ALL! If my phone rings, I look first and have made up my mind that if I see her name on my caller ID, i won't answer. It's that simple. And if by chance I don't check, answer and find it's her, I'll just hang up that's all. I'm not trying to hurt her feelings, but then I'm not trying to get hurt again either!
How do I feel about that you may wonder? Well, while I don't feel completely happy about my decision, I feel good and at peace with it at the same time. My therapist talked to me about setting boundaries, and I feel that's what I'm doing.
There's no need to allow someone to continually put you down, and that includes even in your own family!
I'm 69 and I think I'm finally growing up! Lol.

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Sorry to hear that your sister is so mean and unsupportive- It sounds like your sister looks down on you for being depressed. My family is like that too. I'm sure that my sister sees depression as a sign of weakness.

You're doing what's best for you. My sister blocked my calls. I don't care though. She's never done that before. Since you don't talk to her anyways, why not just block her calls? It's best to avoid toxic people like you've been doing. I feel like I've finally grown up too, and I'm in my mid 40's! Good for us-

@Brainy, or instead of blocking her calls, you can set it to a specific ring tone such as that of a barking dog or something else that suits her, lol! That's the ringtone for my bossy and temperamental dad, lol! For my mom, it's an old car horn since she's loud and annoying, lol!

Originally Posted by Crazylion

In the past few days, i've been reflecting more and suddenly i see what i've been doing that helped trigger sissy's cruelty and inconsistent mood swings and our level of closeness over the years.

After I moved out when i was 19, i endured her constant trying to hurt me and do awful things throughout my life. with this struggle between us for 30 years, i tended to treat her like an afterthought, so my attempts all those years of trying to be close to her and fight through her drug addiction and cruelty came off as insincere and just superficial in a way. i'm sorry this happened and i just saw this about myself now, but he never willl communicate things to people and sets everyone up to disappoint her. and i who am her big sister who was alwasys there moved out and after that she was reacting to how i was being. and i thought she was just a hateful, horrible person with no hope. she still is, even if i know her heart. i don't and expect her to ever try and start healing and see her own way to therapy so we might break mom and dad's legacy of our childhool rearing. i'm strong thinking about sending her a final note/letter on her birthday Tuesday to tell her this and hope shse at least tries to let go of the hold that is bitter stubborness to hate and never forgive. i'm going to acknowledge her pain and that i know i played a major part in why she is who she is to me, etc. i won't take responsibility for her feelings or her actions, like i won't let her do so with mine.

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It sounds like your sister is still bitter about you supposedly not being there for her, or being sincere or supportive enough, idk. You tried to be there for her, but drug addiction is tough. I have no personal experience with that, so I don't know what to tell you.

Did she go to rehab? What did she expect of you? Maybe she expected a lot more that you could provide. She knows about your depression and that you can only do so much for her. If she wants to hold a grudge and play the victim, there's nothing you can do.

Yes, do send the letter, but not on her B-day. She'll resent you for ruining her B-day. Hold off until after her B-day. Please read everything very, very carefully and don't write down anything that comes across as being critical or accusatory. Try to let her know she made you feel.

I read on here that it's best to use "I" statements instead of "you" statements. So instead of saying stuff like "you never cared about me", you can say: "I feel that you don't seem to care about my feelings because you tend to say things that hurt my feelings often". And then give examples like when she resorted to calling you names.

Hopefully she'll read it and think about how her bad behavior has hurt you and try to change her ways.

Originally Posted by Fuzzybear

No siblings

Just 2 half siblings who don't give a crap

With those parents, I'm not surprised... So why does it hurt

Hugs to you

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Sorry to hear that Fuzzybear- Yeah, my parents are so damn clueless most of the time. I don't even think that they're even aware of what they're doing. Maybe they do sometimes, idk.

My sister knows that they have fragile egos, so she kisses their but to get what she wants sometimes, ugh! My mom is super easily to manipulate since she's not that smart, and she's very lonely since she has no friends at all. Hardly any family members talk to her that often as well. She's so fake. I'm not like that. I tell them the truth, and they don't like that. Tough.