My husband doesn't love me anymore

So true, I couldn't have said it better. Yesterday I was just so depressed and sad, but today I am angry and feel like screamiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiing so loud. But no one would hear and even if they did there's nothing anyone can do, but me. Too bad I'm too weak right now to fight this and do what I know I need to do. I just need some time to absorb everything these past two days and somehow stay grounded on my feet. I guess I need some glue to hold my family together and hopefully it gets shoved right in his mouth. Can you tell how angry I am?

I am hurting for you. I had a very similar situation. But this was after being married only 8 months to a cheating husband. I insisted on marriage counseling only to hear that night that he did not love me and did not think he ever did. I really do not understand why he does not want to end the relationship but that is something for you both to decide. For me it would probably be even more painful to live everyday with someone that, like you said would never be sharing intimacy with you, especially since you still want it. The emptiness you feel is very cold I know and I am glad you have pc for support. I know it is not the same, but I am sending you Big Hugs!

justpassingby;

Your husband is feeling his oats, so to speak. He recently told you he dosen't love you and now he is flirting around with another woman. He feels free to do what he wants to do now. He has someone to take care of his kids and home and he gets to play the field a bit. Even if he dosen't get sexual with another woman he still has the freedom to flirt around. You can play that game too. You can have him sit with the kids while you go out shopping, etc. Per haps you should seek employment to get yourself some money to take care of your needs. Being dependant on him means he controls the purse. Take it a day at a time.

On the subject of being in love. I have been married 35 years and been in and out of love many times. it's not so much you don't love the other as you don't feel it intensely as much anymore at times. I once told my wife I didn't love her anymore. I wish to this day I never said that. I was young and didn't know better. I though because I didn't want to jump her bones as much and found other women exciting and attractive I wasn't in love anymore. I realize now that it was because the other women didn't have kids and could hang out at the local bar and were fun to be with.
While my wife was at home taking care of my kids I was out having fun with single, sometimes married, childless women.

Now, things are going along good. I respect my wife. I am still a flirt but, I wouldn't give her up for anyone else. I have limits and leaving her is not on the agenda. we do many things together and being without her would be like being without my freedom. I'd rather be locked up forever.

perhaps your husband will grow up and see the error of his ways, I hope so.

Hi Curley,

Sorry for posting late, I've just not been posting at all or even reading the posts too much. So much to think about, my life and future with my husband and son. That's where the dilemma lies. I really don't know if he is cheating or not, I don't think so, but it hurts that he is attracted to his boss who of course he sees daily. Strange situation. She is single and he is not. The pain is not so bad right now, maybe I'm accepting the fact that he doesn't have the same love for me anymore and can't express any emotions either. It's like a business partnership, but he still comes home and gives me a kiss. How weird. Thanks for responding to me it meant alot. I am usually a strong person when I have to be and I guess I have to be now, no matter how much it hurts.

Hi 50guy,

You made alot of sense in the fact that men and women both do fall in and out of love all the time. Sometimes the lust or attraction we had goes out of the relationship, but if what is left is a deep love for the person then all is not lost. People's looks come and go and my are not great right now, due to me gaining weight. I feel this is a great part of why he is not attracted to me anymore so I don't blame him for feeling the way he does. His boss on the other hand is single and the same age as we are and still looks good. I gained alot of weight on my meds then lost it when I got severely depressed last year. But then gained it all back this past year and a half so I feel miserable about my own appearance. I hope you are right about how a person can realize that they still do love the person and not leave for the thrill of the chase so to speak.

Thanks for your support and sorry so late with the post, been feeling sorry for myself.

I'd say start looking for a way out,sorry...

but staying together for the kid/kids is not good for them,this is common knowledge, I thought.

I feel that you probably feel there is no way...if you have quit work etc...but you need to start thinking this through ...I'm sure you already have(could be wrong)...but if a man does not have passion for a women then there is no way he will stay faithful..just my opinion..since it is so hard to do even when you have more than enough passion......I don't care what women/men may say about this but most every man looks at other women....and decides if they think they are hot, decent,average or well......and I feel that women do the same to other men,they are just better at camouflaging it....just my opinion....even if they are in love/lust for their mate and would never cheat..they are still human

sorry if this sounds cruel..but don't stay with him if he not only don't love you but don't even lust for you..you will be sorry

are you afraid you won't survive financially?

or are you so in love with him you'd rather be used...than to divorce?

bipolar or not...there is plenty of other men that would be glad to take his place I am sure.

sorry again for being..well honest..at least I think all the above is

beside true love is supposed to be forever..so if your bipolar disorder is his reason...and he did not catch you cheating on him or something..which could possibly break love.
I feel he never did to start with..thats a lame excuse

Hi Coralproper,

Thanks for your honest opinion of my situation, I just saw today that you posted or I would have responded sooner. I didn't think anyone was interested in my problem. Thanks for responding. I don't know what exactly I will do, but I can't and won't rush into anything drastic. I do know that it's not always good to stay for the children, but in my instance I have no where to go and can't afford to live on my own. He may be lusting after someone else, not sure, but probably is. I have no control over that, except how I choose to deal with it. I am not strong enough at this time to change things, i just need others support as I stay in my relationship. I guess I am weak and don't have the courage to leave and start over, break up our family, sell our home and have nothing at all. I know self respect means alot, but I lost that too in the process. If I can catch him cheating or have some kind of proof he is unfaithful, then I will be the first to get that divorce and make him pay through the nose if I have to. I'm just very hurt and still numb right now. The anger hasn't set in yet. Thanks for caring.

well..I hope things get better soon for you.

Did you ever go back to the marriage counselor?